Why so reluctant to celebrate Father's Day?

[TheAlphaParent]

All the toddler groups I go to (I'm a bit of a group junkie) celebrated Mother's Day. Cards were made, flowers picked, hands printed, etc. Very nice.

None of them celebrated Father's Day. Not a single one. When I asked my local library (where one of the groups is held) why they celebrated Mother's Day and not Father's Day they said it was so they didn't "offend any single mothers". So it's okay to offend fathers? Okay to dismiss their contribution to parenting?

I have sympathy for single mothers (most of them are victims of circumstance) but isn't this PC approach of hiding Father's Day a little unnecessary? Children of single mothers are going to learn about fathers from a variety of sources - friends, media, books. So why hide Father's Day like a dirty secret? It sends the message that child-rearing is predominantly a woman's job, that a man's role is insignificant. Is that the message we want to send to kids? AIBU?

This thread is nonsense.

Definitely a goading OP

My son brought home a Fathers' Day card on Friday from daycare.

This is why I think toddler groups are of the devil.

Theres a few nonsense threads about tonight.

This is just silly. Of all the things people expect somebody else to do for their kids, this has to be the most trivial. It is even more ludicrous than the practising Christian poster who thought the child should be taught the Lord's Prayer by the school.

Not making a father's day card at toddler group is not teaching the children that a man's role is insignificant. If you think fathers' day is important, it is your job to sort out the card with your toddler. Children are taught all the time about fathers - Oxford reading tree scheme for example.

There seems to be no end to the things that parents feel are the responsibility of somebody other than themselves.

I too agree that you have a point but that thread title is not nice at all!

What 'point' does the op have??

Sighs.

Mothering Sunday is a church religious occasion. Everything else is made up crap. A bit like the costumed ones' faux indignation about some slight or other.

They probably decided not to celebrate it because it isn't a worldwide religious/bank holiday that dates back more than 500 years world wide (and more in other cultures), as Mothering Sunday is.

PC gorn mad!

Perhaps they should replace it with Happy Lying Cheating Bastard Fuckwit Day and then everyone will be happy.

QueenMaeve I think that your way of looking at it is wrong. Dh didn't grow up with his mother because she chose to let it with a new partner after bankrupting his dad. His class had to make mothers day cards but not fathers day cards. It still makes him cross now that his dad wasn't deemed important enough (in his view) to make a card for but his absent mother was.

Just for your title!

Provocative/misleading/inflammatory.

The thread title is horrible. Says a lot about the poster.

And where is the op?

And I don't believe that 'a local library' said that anyway. Bollocks.

The OP has fucked off with the rest of his mates to the pub.

DSD's primary school doesnt do Fathers Day either which i find incredibly sad. DH has busted a hump to stay involved in his daughters life despite a very antagonistic mother. For the school to ignore the day, especially given the hoopla they do for mothers day is i think just wrong.

My father was absent when i was growing up and my school did fathers day activities. I made a card and a gift like all the the other kids and gave it to my mum on the premise that she was both my mum and my dad. She loved it and so did i. It never bothered me that the other kids were giving theirs to their actual fathers.

I think if kids do get upset then their teachers/care providers etc just need to do some creative thinking like including grandfathers/uncles and other male role models rather then just not recognising the day at all.

I wouldnt be offended by it and i am a single mum, I however did not send my ex a fathers day card for the following reasons

1. he would have hope of my return which wont be happening
2. he never bothered with mothers day when we were together
3. I am not entirely sure where he is
4. he cant be arsed to go to a contact centre or medation

I grew up without a dad (mine died) but i still celebrated fathers day at school to an extent, obviusly not making cards etc.

I'm a single mum.
I don't think we need a Mother's Day or a Father's Day.
We have enough celebrations and card buying opportunities without them.
Save the trees.

its the same in DS school, had lovely card and nic naks and DD playgroup had flowers and a lovely poem. But nothing for father's day.

This OP is nonsense.

ThePleaser, why do you think schools are responsible for sorting out fathers' day? What one earth has it got to do with schools?

I'm a single mum to a toddler and we celebrate fathers day...just because ex-p doesn't live with us doesn't mean dd can't scribble a card for him.

The thread title is horrible though.

Thanks OP you go to some nursery groups with odd attitude and somehow I manage to be publicly told to sod off?

You must go to odd playgroups - I've never know one make any cards just sing songs and play with toys. Nursery is different.

Besides which I'm not sure just how angry to can really be because some people hold some views which you don;t subscribe to ie not offending single mothers. Even if they are misguided, surely your child must be young enough not to be influenced/even notice.

And what Vashti said - send your own messages - what has playgroup got to do with it