to feel a bit ragey when friends say mom/mommy...

[Tangointhenight]

And they are not American/Canadian but British!?

I know I probably am being U but its really starting to grate on me, on texts, in emails, on FB, should I call them on it?? It's MUM ffs!!

In the West Mids Mom is used a lot. In my family we have Mums, not Moms though, so I was adamant that I would be a Mum too, which DH respects despite calling his own DM Mom.

I mean, when DH refers to me in front of my DS - he doesn't call me Mom or Mum himself .

my mum calls my granny 'mommy'. We're northern Irish. So yeh yabu

Do you call your mother mommy someday? Do your kids call you mommy? Does your mum use a pseudo American accent?

I don't think that Mom comes from shortening Mother (after all it's not Momther)

Mommy and Mummy are apparently dialectal variants of mammy. and mammy derived from Mamma (origins Latin I think)

The ethymology dictionary states this:

In terms of recorded usage of related words in English, mama is from 1707, mum is from 1823, mummy in this sense from 1839, mommy 1844, momma 1852, and mom 1867.

So in other words you all wrong

Moln I love you! I don't feel so bad now.

My DS has been born and raised in Birmingham and thankfully calls me Mum/Mummy. Anything else would feel strange, for a while anyway, as I was brought up with Mum.

My Nanna is called, well, Nanna as that is what she chose. She felt that anything with Grand in front of it, made her sound ancient. Because I was brought up with it, wasn't strange to me. Pretty usual. Even DC's Nanna chose it on Daddies side, and she is a Brummie!!

Curryspice, DEAL!!

Sorry? Don't understand that last bit addressed to me!

Yabu.
I grew up in South Africa where the only Mummys I heard were from quite upper class British and it sounded very posh. I'm a mom because that's what feels natural to me.
It also didn't occur to me until I came on Mumsnet that people would be judging me for it.

I mean are you saying:

"deal with it"

Or

"do we have a deal?"

Either way, not sure why you've picked me out

I live in America - but hate being called Mum. Am British - don't mind what form others use but I am Mum never MOM. DD made a mothers day card for me recently and the teacher would not let her write Mum and insisted she was being naughty in misspelling it. She tried hard to explain it to her teacher who stuck a Big Sticker of an O with a flower on it over the U DD had put on the card. Annoying.....

I'm not judging people who say it where it is normal to say it so get off your high horse last of the pod people

It annoys me when my friends day it because it is not used here where I live and is a blatant attempt to try to sound American.

Gawd read the thread.

Sharklet That is very annoying of the teacher! My daughter is the only English speaker at her German primary school, but the mothers day card she made me at school is addressed to "Liebe Mummy"" :o ... Then it has a poem (copied out not her own work) in which says "Meine Mama" is kind, helps me etc, etc. - It does look a bit funny, and I was a bit surprised her teacher was OK with it as they are not generally flexible about anything in German schools! I feel that it is right though, she calls me Mummy but when talking about me in German she calls me Meine Mama ...

Curryspice, you said pages away that I should get a Nan card, and you a Nanna one and we shall swap.

(unless I have you mixed up with someone else)

Oh I see! I got confused with you and the op. tango confused my poor tired mind!

Yes! Deal!

I prefer Mummy later followed by Mum.

I don't answer to Mom or Mommy.

My big gripe at the moment is that DH has taken to referring to me as Mama.

Although in his head I think he is calling me Momma which is fucking awful!