to feel a bit ragey when friends say mom/mommy...

[Tangointhenight]

And they are not American/Canadian but British!?

I know I probably am being U but its really starting to grate on me, on texts, in emails, on FB, should I call them on it?? It's MUM ffs!!

Have you seen the <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=www.timebustingtraining.com/assets/images_site_wide/swpostcard_100x141.jpg&imgrefurl=www.timebustingtraining.com/diversity.htm&h=141&w=100&sz=7&tbnid=E3bbx4389N-wkM:&tbnh=83&tbnw=59&prev=/search%3Fq%3Dstonewall%2Bposter%26tbm%3Disch%26tbo%3Du&zoom=1&q=stonewall+poster&usg=__Rts7SY4QRYqQqasitAH0YrS3FJM=&docid=gha6hzWT0CbcJM&sa=X&ei=q4vYT77BLYbs8QPf6oS0Aw&ved=0CH4Q9QEwCQ&dur=342" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Stonewall poster

I propose a new version

Some Mothers are Moms
Get Over It!

Everlong - when you've finished calling moms twats you can continue pissing me right off by calling everyone from the West Midlands a brummy because if we're going to talk about trivial stuff that really gets on my last one, you've got it right there!!

I live abroad (non English speaking country) and if my kids picked up "Mom" from American English speakers I would cringe inwardly and totally ignore them if practically possible until they switched byck to Mummy, just as I would ignore them if they called me Fred (owing to it not being my name :o ). If American kids call their mothers Mom that is obviously just their normal word and elicits no feelings of any kind though :o . I would say it is very annoying and off putting in the "wrong" accent or if it sounds like an affectation.

I do hate it /and it sets my teeth on edge) when any adult, including somebody who naturally says "Mom" due to their background, refers to a group of women as "Mommies" though, I don't know why that grates so deeply but it really does

Anyone calls me a fucking Brummie and they will get corrected instantly.

I am from the West Midlands, but not repeat not a Brummie. I was born 20 miles to the North. It is like calling someone from St. Albans a cockney.

I remember writing a mother's day card and my friend saying "why do you write "mum" but call her "mam"?"

And I thought about it and yes, I do call her "maaaaaam" but I always write "mum"

I am Scottish.

everlong it is super annoying for some when someone says you come from a place when you don't.

I am Scottish, I understand the rage, because people are forever calling me English, ARGH.

Tango your friend say mom in American accents? Really??

Get new friends.

Mom in a midlands accent doesnt sound like an American mom, it sounds more like a slight variation of mum, and I'm not sure how it would enrage anyone who is generally balanced.

I'm notbfromnthemidlands but live here now, so hear it loads and am a mom.

I like it. It's soft sounding, affectionate and familiar.

I also like it when i hear the kids of our family from the North use Mam.

However I really can't imagine having friends who use fake American accents. Poor you Tango no wonder you're enraged, your life is shit.

And to the poster who is questioning this 'apparent' use of mom in the midlands...

Yes you're right, we are all making it up in a big west midlands conspiracy. Well spotted, you got us.

Sheesh.

I grew up in the midlands and we said 'mom' to rhyme with 'bomb', so it's not the same as the american pronunciation at all. Always wrote it as 'mum' though.

everlong Well, it makes a difference to some people so why not just try not offending them? What difference does it make to you if they find it annoying?

Maybe because it's ignorant everlong, as you yourself pointed out.

A brummy is a person from Birmingham. I'm not from Birmingham. I am from an area that, although nearby, has its own very distinctive history, identity and accent.

I doubt too many mancunians would enjoy being called a scouser. Or someone from Edinburgh being called a Glaswegian. They are close. But different.

And it gets on my nerves. And obviously on other peoples too.

And IMHO it's a much more valid reason for being annoyed than how other people say mom or mum. So perhaps you should tell the ragey op to calm down too

Dp is from the west midlands and says mom

everlong eh? I don't think I've ever even posted on a thread with you.

God I wish I hadn't said ragey, please believe me i don't turn into the hulk when I hear people saying mom.

Iamcalledclaire Think of a Northern Irish accent, your woman who used to do the one show, can't remember her name. Imagine her saying mom...there's no other way to say it here without putting on an American accent...our accents are too harsh for it to sound natural. I can understand how some English accents might make mum sound like mom but not here, its too 'O' sounding.

As for the brummie thing, I'm a bit ignorant of English political geography but even I know only people from Birmingham are brummies, I have a read friend from wallsall who be be very annoyed at being called a brummie.

Tango- I think if you could just confirm that hearing west midlanders use the term mom does not enrage you, we can all relax, stop bickering and agree fake American accents are shit..