to feel a bit ragey when friends say mom/mommy...

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And they are not American/Canadian but British!?

I know I probably am being U but its really starting to grate on me, on texts, in emails, on FB, should I call them on it?? It's MUM ffs!!

two different issues here tho. SPELLING it Mom is norm for West Mids of England. mum and mom PRONOUNCED almost the same so to hear someone who used to say Mam switch to the other pronunciation must stand out a bit, I agree.

"Mum" is Home Counties Middle Class

Ah no, I'm in the West Midlands and I still dislike 'Mom', which I hear about 300 times a day from dd. 'Mammy' is much, much worse though, I don't think I could cope with being called that

Ragey?

I bet its very cute Tee!

Whatme that made me laugh, I'm far from home counties middle class and I say mum!

Ok accept I am BU thanks for the perspective, I won't tell my friends off for using it even though it still gets me a bit narked

YABU - I'm from NI & say mummy. My DH is a brummie & he says mom. As others have said, this is quite common in the West Midlands

In the East Mids, we 'say' Mum but it actually sounds more like 'Moom'. Urgh. I despise my regional accent.

My friend types 'mom' or 'mommy' in texts, FB etc but sounds like she's saying 'mum' when she says it. She's British but was brought up abroad so I thought that they maybe used 'mom' where she grew up, but maybe not!

I'm in the midlands.

We say mom.

Dh from Wales says mam/mammy.

I like the way different regions have differing affectionate maternal terms.

Why would it make you raged?

Whatme that made me laugh, I'm far from home counties middle class and I say mum!

Ah but do you pronounce it "mum" or more like moom or murm :)

It makes me ragey because said friends are just trying to sound American when they are not, like saying trunk instead of boot or garbage instead of rubbish, I do love the American accent and different words for things BTW but when people here say it then it irritate me, like they have been watching too many episodes of Friends!

But I didn't know that people in the west midlands say it so fair enough.

Whatme I pronounce it mum to rhyme with bum! :)

Still don't understand why it makes you ragey! So what if they want to sound American? How does that affect your life?

Dont sweat the small stuff I say.

Although mum is the term used by the overwhelming majority of people in this country, there are areas that use mom as standard (ie, not because they have been Americanised).

Personally, I don't like mom and will never use it, but it's not actually that unusual.

Where do you think American English came from? I'm going to guess.....England!

So you don't like Americanisms - what's "ragey" then, Anglo-Saxon?

Of course I have better things to worry about, its just irritating that's all and that's why I asked if I was BU...if we all had better things to worry about and didn't post about the small things then AIBU would be a very quiet forum.

As I said previously I have no problem with Americanisms, when they are used by Americans! Sorry if I offended any Americans that was definitely not my intention.

Ragey is a word I made up derived from the word rage, it was tongue in cheek.

And I admitted that I was BU, but I can't help that it still irks me :o

To all of those people who are saying "does it really matter?":

Well of course it doesn't really matter, but neither do 90% of the threads on AIBU, general postings on the Internet and our RL conversations! But does that stop any of us from posting/talking? No. So tell her SIBU if you like, but don't tell her to stop sweating the small stuff; I doubt it's the biggest problem in her life, just the one she felt like ranting about at this particular moment.

I thank you.

We're just outside London. I'm not from the UK but my kids are born and raised here. They call me mom.

Mom...mom...mom...mom...mom...mommy....mommy....mommy...mom...

I hope your teeth itch! [smile}

My Brummie dad says "Mom" which drives my Southern-born Mum crazy

We were brought up to say/write "Mum" despite being Brummie and now I have corrected French DH who wrote "Mom" 'cos I prefer "Mum"

Can't correct his accent though ('twould be too mean as it's not really that big a deal) so he still pronounces it "Mom".

For some unknown reason my dad insists on calling me "Mama" to my baby DS...so I wouldn't be surprised if I'm called that once DS starts talking (DS is nearly 9 months and already worships his Grandad!)

I had NEVER heard ANY Brit say it before I came here and am still about this apparent Brummy habit of using it!

I HATE it when non USA folk say it. It's an ugly word. Then again...Mum isnt pretty either!

why can't we be something nicer than Mum? Rhymes with bum. And thumb. And Numb.
YANBU!

Although mum is the term used by the overwhelming majority of people in this country

I don't think it is, I've lived all over the UK and Mam/Mom/Murm/Moom etc starts pretty soon after you leave the Home Countyshire. It is the most commonly used by the chatterati/literati/meedjarati MC, so it does have the appearance of being far more widely used than it is.

YANBU. I'm normally quite particular about language, but this is not even a 'proper' word anyway - people can use whatever nicknames/diminutives they want, surely? Where I grew up (North-east) most people said 'mam', and I've since met people who used 'mom' or 'mama'. I don't think any of them are wrong.

I had to TELL my DH and MIL quite forcefully that I was a Mummy or Mum and not Mom. We live in the Black Country and most people here say Mom but it is wrong and it makes me feel like my childrens cards are addressed to someone else.