to think this is passive-aggressive hatred?

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It was my birthday last month and I'm still really bothered by this.

i'm on a really strict diet as my weight has really rocketed since DD3, for about 3 months. I told everyone not to get my Easter eggs, even the kids, and just had little stuff instead.

I've cut out all chocolate, cakes, cheese and just eat healthy stuff. I am doing exercise too, swimming twice a week and Pilates.

My friend bought me 2 big bars of chocolate for my birthday. Not wrapped up, just in a carrier bag.

He said just something about you can't live without chocolate, can't remember his exact words as i was trying to act pleased

AIBU to think this is actually really passive-aggressive and means actually he hates me?

Yes. That's a point. Could it actually have been oh shit, forgot her birthday, what's the Spar got in that I could chuck at her.

Sounds like you feel badly about the friendship generally, so perhaps you do need to tackle him about it all. If you feel this bad about it, you've got nothing to lose because a friendship can't survive resentment anyway.

In isolation, no the present of a couple of bars of chocolate when you're on a diet speaks of nothing but thoughtlessness at worst.
Only you know the reality of it though.