I've got a friend who is a quite odd at times. When I first knew her she was ok, a little kooky but it could at times be endearing. However, after about a year of knowing her she became quite hardgoing really.
I moved away from the area but we kept in touch. Since then her behaviour has become increasingly erratic. She is one of those kind of people who always have to turn a conversation around so that it is about them, no matter what it is.
She would ring me late at night and be talking to me for hours and I could tell she was getting drunker and drunker as she talked to me. Ive always tried to be a good friend to her and supportive, but after a long while it became completely tiresome.
Then she split up from her husband and became very erratic (which yes I know is to be expected) she claims to have spd from 4 years ago and wears a belt to support it. I've often felt worried about her because at times she has had a comode downstairs as she says she cant get up the stairs.
Shortly after splitting up from her husband she went really bad and could do nothing, she would ring me and tell me about all of this and she was basically calling all kinds of people in to help her with her daughter as she said she couldnt even change her nappy.
However, everybody was getting very angry with her because they were saying she was making it up. At first i felt very angry on her behalf, but then i started to see their point as she was going out and getting drunk and there photos of her on facebook dancing and having a merry time. So then I thought that she must be really struggling emotionally, and that if she was prepared to lie so hard about it she must really be not quite right in herself.
I went round to her house while she was away and spent a whole day cleaning it to help as it was disgusting and I was worried about her children being in that filth, but then since then shes done lots of things that sort of make her look like she just wants to go out and have a good time.
The thing is, Im just plain tired of the drama of her now. Ive realised she is draining me and I get nothing in return, shes not interested in my problems or supporting me and some things she does just disgust me.
It was her daughters birthday the other day and she didnt even get her a present. She said she hadnt had time, but the weekend before shed had time to go to London to meet a man for a cosy weekend.
She also said that she had had a terrible virus where her daughter had been vomitting, and she been unable to swallow and very ill. I felt really sorry for her when she first told me, and then she said she'd been so ill that she couldnt even change the bed and her daughter had puked and wee'd on it and all she could do was turn the duvet round...but on further talking to her she said she had still been smoking...Im sorry, but if you can still smoke, you arent so ill that you cant put a nappy on your child are you?
I find it all odd. She came to see me at the weekend, and the first night she coughed all night violently but still continued smoking the next day (and leaving her fag ends all over my garden). Then I woke to find my bathroom bin emptied all over the floor and she'd taken it to be sick in.
Then she burst in on my boyfriend twice while he was naked having a shower and had a poo in front of him, then she had terrible diaorrhea and pooed herself running up the stairs. I was just completely shocked and didnt know what to say... I went out with boyfriend to give her some space and clean up but when I got back she was drinking coffee like nothing had happened, she then later went out to a party.
Can someone give me some perspective, tell me what they think. Am I being a bitch, should I do more for her (she has a lot done for her anyway) or should i just say enough is enough. Sorry its a long post...and quite weird!