to start a thread about the pubes/ no pubes thread

[AnneofGreenFables]

It just got me thinking...

Does anyone know, or has anyone heard any man express a big preference either way?

I hear a lot about 'men' especially those under 30 'expecting' women to be pubic hair free but sadly not knowing many men under 30 I have no idea if this is true.

In my youth, lads used to joke about preferring a 'shaven haven' but IMO they were so thankful to be allowed near a woman's nether regions, that in reality they were none too fussy. Other than that I've never heard anyone express a definite preference

Just curious (and apologise about the whole thread from a thread thing)

I've been taking it all off for years and haven't had a problem with germs, infection etc we have baths, showers and clothes to prevent that

I was once with a dude from the middle east who expressed outright disgust that I wasn't shaved. Apparently v v v much the norm to be shaved/trimmer there (for both men and women.)

I've never been with anyone else who expressed distaste, but plenty of my male acquaintances have sat around going "ergh grim, she had a well hairy muff" and so on.

My partner, holding on to his 20s by the skin of his teeth, prefers trimmed rather than shaved or hairy, but would never be actively bothered either way.

Oh and in good old Deutschland, every man I slept with told me about a million times that I didn't need to shave "for him."

Thanks dudes of Deutschland, you are just so liberal!

They were quite into pit/pube/chest shaving. An English boyfriend I had there said that when he went into the gym showers, he was the only one with pubes.

My partner is not misogynistic or controlling. I chose to shave because it enhances my own sexual experience! The fact that it also enhances my partner's experience does influence my decision, because I love him and I want us to both enjoy sex. But I would not shave if I didn't want to, even if he asked me to. I have tried a few times re-growing hair but have not enjoyed it. As others have mentioned it also helps with periods and personally I have found it has reduced problems with thrush and UTIs which I am prone to suffering from.

Every woman should have the right to choose what she does with her own pubic hair without being judged, and without her partner being accused of being misogynistic, porn-addicted or a paedophile!

I'm 16. (yes, you're all probably thinking I'm a bit young for mumsnet, but only on here for arguments and heated threads
Everyone my age shaves or removes it either way, I prefer to be shaven as I find it more comfortable. Boys our age aren't bothered truthfully and a lot of boys do shave. In my opinion hair does make me gag and I dont like it.

Just to add, our age don't shave because they think its normal and do it for boys, my friends and I do it for either sport, comfort or just personal preferences.

But you are not making a completely free choice. You are influenced by the media, porn and some men's expectations of women.

The sport? Horseriding! Imagine that with no muff buff! And yes, we are designed to have hair there for very good reason, it is more hygenic and generally healthier. Otherwise, yunno, we'd all be genetically bare.

I do horse ride! I have my own horse and prefer to be shaven when riding as tight jodphurs or being on your period while hairy can be really uncomfortable a day out hunting.

I was going to start a pube thread. I'm glad someone else has.

I've always had a bit, but trimmed and waxed far down. I got a bit carried away with topiary last night.

I'm bald.

I feel vile. It makes me feel ill to look at and I couldn't masturbate because I don't like it.

Am I odd?

Ah, well, I'm passed periods, thank goodness and after several vaginal births I need the cushion!

I have slept with a couple of men in their twenties in the last couple of years, and while they may be used to shaved/waxed downstairs areas (they didn't say) I have had no complaints.
I think this is because I am fucking great in bed. True fact.

One of my male friends, who is 40, did tell me that in the last ten years he has not encountered a single pube, and that I and my best mate are the only women he knows who still have a bush (we have told him this) but I don't really care.

I think that moment when you are getting a man's kecks down and you get that first glimpse of hair is well sexy, and I like men who think the same.

I'm just back from having mine waxed. I get the whole lot off, I prefer it as I feel "cleaner" (just IMHO, I don't think for a minute that having hair there is any way unclean. I always feel too hot at the best of times and I just feel less hot when I am "smooth", IYKWIM)

I'm 43 and I used to get a brazilian about 6 yrs ago but thought the landing strip looked a bit strange. After 2 DC in fairly quick succession, when it was too sore to get waxed when pregnant, I started going to my waxer again, and gradually worked up to getting the whole lot off.

The first time happened to co-incide with DH's 4oth, we went to a lovely hotel, I languished on the bed with some marabou feather "fluffs" from our wedding covering my modesty, ahem, and then gave Dh a great surprise when he came out of the bath!

He knew about it, but that was the unveiling! It was actually really funny, with the marabou feathers, we both had a great laugh!

DH loved it and so did I, but it hurts like f'n f*!!!! I have to take loads of very strong painkillers and it STILL really hurts. My waxer is very "thorough", and she waxes all the way round to the back as well. She's seen more of me than any obstetrician!!

I kid her on that I've scrubbed myself with bleach beforehand!! Well, it's a very intimate procedure and I am very particular about hygiene anyway, so I make sure that I'm straight out of the shower before I go, and I do wash really really thoroughly. Oh, and I always give her a very good tip!!

When I first met DH, I was prefectly "normal", and he was perfectly happy, and spent plenty of time downstairs! I would say now that he is probably more keen to head south!

I like the clean smooth feeling that waxing gives you, I wouldn't want to shave. I've asked Dh what he prefers, he said he was happy either way. But I said you must give an answer as I really wanted to know.

He did say he prefers me smooth. I do too, and yes, I would still do it for myself, even if I was single and there was no man on the horizon, so to speak!

I just feel cleaner and neater, though when you go for a wee, it does tend to go everywhere as there is no hair to "direct" it!!! Think someone mentioned that on a thread before, but it's true!

It does seem to be more of a generational thing, and as I said, I'm 43 so no spring chicken, plucked chicken more like! So that must make me hip and cool, haha!!!

Anyway, each to their own! (But if DH had preferred me "furry", I don't honestly think I would have gone back to being furry, I don't know. I really feel nicer when I'm smooth.)

Sorry, have warbled on for ages. My DC have been doing my head in, going on hol tomorrow and not packed or done a thing. Came on here to calm down a bit.

I actually have discussed this with male friends (ex-ladette!) the consensus seemed to be that they didn't like a full on 70s pornstar bush situation, but that totally bald, was weird.

I was reliably informed that their preference was neat and trimmed but definitely there lol

Also they are just generally glad to see one!!!

Just has a lovely bath, lady shave all over (not head) but arms, legs, puts and lady garden, all smooth and hair free.

Moisturised And lovely and that's how I like me.

Dh is proper hairy tho.

And p.s if u need a hairy twat to keep germs at bay then you need a good washing regime, yeuk!!!!

Don't think anyone is saying you need hair to get rid of germs, thebody.

Don't understand why people wax when you can take the whole lot off with cream with no pain :)

I horse ride with a shaved fanjo. It doesn't cause any issues.

I would be pretty bleugh if a bloke was untidy. DH keeps it neat and trimmed and I don't think I have slept with a man who didn't. Have seen a few with it all shaved off which is not a great look IMO but better than straggly

Can you epilate down there???

This thread has totally educated me!!!

Wow, great to hear all these opinions.

I know this topic has been done to death, that's why this thread is less about the rights or wrongs of either way (your body, your bush, your business), and more about whether partners, one night stands, lovers (great word!) actually care.

I'm a trimmed foliage kinda girl and have had no complaints but just wanted a mumsnet anecdotal poll following on from the other thread

As for a man, where you you stop? Just asked DH if he's ever trimmed, resounding 'no'. Just wondering where you'd stop, as his pubes just join straight into his leg hair...

the thought of depilating down there made me cross my legs :-S

Oh FFS. Sex is messy. Its about heat and smells and animal passion. Not fucking hygiene.
Sorry, but if a few straggly pubes are gonna put you off, you would be better off wanking to porn, rather than tangling (geddit!) with an actual humanoid.

I have never felt the need to discuss my pubes with other folk. It has just never come up in conversation. I am amazed by how many people seem to talk about their pubic hair and how it is styled.

Really Megatron??? I have always wondered what other people do!!

sensuallettuce Tue 29-May-12 20:44:12
Don't understand why people wax when you can take the whole lot off with cream with no pain smile

Lucky you, if cream works. My skin can't tolerate even the sensitive stuff, but then I can't use moisturisers anyway as they ALL sting. The only things I can use are beeswax based skin products. Which sucks.

Not to mention that the cream does not seem to work at all with my hair on any part of my body. I must have hair like steel.