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This is what a 15 year old has just posted on face book to my 76 year old MIL

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RabidAnchovy · 26/05/2012 20:29

I HAVE TOLD THE SCHOOL, I AM GOING TO SPEAK TO HIS MOTHER AND i THINK MIL SHOULD CTELL THE POLICE.

AIBU to think what a vile excuse for a child

If you're loving your pension keep your mouth shut. your name reminds me of something .. AN ESCAPED OLD PEOPLE'S HOME OLD WOMAN WHO HAS MADE A FACEBOOK ACCOUNT THOUGHT SHE'D DO THE OLD EXPERIENCED LIFE LIVER THING AND TRY BE FUNNY WHO HAS A ALBUM CALLED 'My eye' HAS SAGGY OLD TITS HASN'T HAD SEX SINCE THE POPE WAS ALIVE.
shut up you old bag, I'd put my dick in your arse and fuck you till you love me

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LowFlyingBirds · 28/05/2012 14:28

Yes but im not good and helpful!
I'lladd that to not being kind and helpful.
So thanks, all you good, helpful people....way to make me feel shit about myself!

You are probably right maryz, i should give the benefit of the doubt. It irksthough, i get this mental image of someone walking up to a stranger crying in the street and asking where they got their shoes from.

Maryz · 28/05/2012 14:30

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LowFlyingBirds · 28/05/2012 14:35

Grin those too, absolutely!

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 28/05/2012 17:01

Anyone know how to take a screen print off Face Book?

WestleyAndButtockUp · 28/05/2012 17:16

Yes, ThreeLeftFeet Mon 28-May-12 13:53:55 knows how to take a screen print. That's because she's a wonderful, helpful kind of person.

You will get told off by LowFlyingBirds, though. But she's a self-confessed crotchety old bag, so don't worry about it.

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RabidAnchovy · 28/05/2012 19:05

2rebecca I take it you think it is ok for an elderly woman to be spoken to like that, sorry I seem to have a different set of morals and values then you

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RabidAnchovy · 28/05/2012 19:07

One of MIL other grand children that live close to her is going to go and help her re-set her settings.

Police have phoned me to say they will be going round tomorrow or Wednesday.

I will update any outcome.

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2rebecca · 28/05/2012 19:17

"he was totally OTT and at 15 can't even blame alcohol. If he'll do this to her he'll do it to others who may be more vulnerable."

"His response was horrid and bizarrely OTT"

How on earth do you interpret those statements as me saying it's OK for her to be spoken to like that?
Her age and sex are irrelevent. No-one should be spoken to like that on facebook.

TheDreadedFoosa · 28/05/2012 19:25

2rebecca, you said op was being over protective. That suggests you think there has been some over reaction on her part.

If not, then what did you mean by the ' over protective' comment'?

OlivesTree · 28/05/2012 19:36

DEFINITELY POLICE! That is disgusting. If I heard my own child had made a remark like that...... well I don't know what I would do, but they would bloody well wish they hadn't. Trouble is not all mothers would feel the same. All of this horrible cyberbullying has got to stop, so hand it over to authorities who can hopefully do something painful to the little bastard.

OlivesTree · 28/05/2012 19:39
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2rebecca · 28/05/2012 19:41

I thought she was being overprotective by logging in to and checking her 15 year old son's facebook account every day.

manicbmc · 28/05/2012 19:45

That's how I read it. I know lots of you do check but I think it'd be like reading your child's diary - just not on at that age, unless they invite you to look or have you as a friend.

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RabidAnchovy · 28/05/2012 20:06

2rebecca, I have two sons and their father and I try to raise them to be good, honest, hard working people, we teach them to respect themselves and others, we teach them to be polite and helpful but at the end of the day they are children, we are parents and despite DS1 being 16 next week he is not an adult, the rule of face book is that his dad and I have total access to it, our younger so who is almost 12 does not even have his pass word so if he wants to face book (he has an account as most of his primary school friends went to other schools and this seems to be the way they keep in touch) if he wants to go on FB I log him in and I sit with him.
I know where my children are at all times, I know who they are with and I know their friends, DS1 has a week day bed time of 9pm and DS2 8.30

DS1 is allowed a PC in his room but anything he looks at lists on my PC and you would not believe the controls on it.

If this makes me over protective then so be it I don't care.

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RabidAnchovy · 28/05/2012 20:08

It is hardly like reading his diary as it is on a social networking site, and yes I am one of his friends on his FB

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TheDreadedFoosa · 28/05/2012 21:46

Rabidanchovy- your thread is about some vile little scrote who directed disgusting and threatening abuse at the grandmother of a classmate. He didnt even feel the need to hide it.
You have absolutely no need to respond to anyone sifting through this story to find fault in your parenting.

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RabidAnchovy · 28/05/2012 21:50

Thank you Foosa Smile

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WhosPickleisThatOnion · 28/05/2012 22:41

Agree Rabid I don't believe you can be too careful when it comes to the internet.

You know your old children, and you know what is best for you.

And after this I think your caution is well merited, as Facebook can be a very unpleasant place.

WhosPickleisThatOnion · 28/05/2012 22:42

Your OWN children that should say! Not calling them old.

hellymelociraptor · 28/05/2012 23:14

Rabid I hope your MIL is ok. I have thought of her all afternoon since reading your post.
Well done with all your action so far.

ToothbrushThief · 28/05/2012 23:28

What a vile vile post and person. I cannot believe anyone apportioning any blame or criticism here to OP or MiL here.... when this lad has threatened to anally rape a 76 yr old. Where is your perspective????????

iscream · 29/05/2012 04:30

There is nothing wrong with having your kids passwords. This is off topic but that was our agreement in order for our ds2 to be on-line. We always had our ds2's passwords from age 13 until he was 16. We rarely checked, but he knew we were able to.
He trusted easily, which can be bad. He didn't understand why, at age 15, we wouldn't allow him to go stay at a grown mans condo in Daytona Beach meat market Florida with a bunch of on-line gaming friends. NOW he understands, but back then, he was quite outraged at us having concerns over why a grown man would invite teen aged boys to stay at his place during spring break.

duchesse · 29/05/2012 04:41

Definitely just take a screen shot round to the parents and make sure they know you are furious.

If that were my child he'd have his computer confiscated for a year and be forced to write a grovelling letter of apology to the lady in question. Not sure what impact contacting the school would have- unless to keep them in the loop. Not their job to police what every pupil does in the privacy of their bedroom.

duchesse · 29/05/2012 04:45

And all those people twittering about invasion of privacy re your DCs social networking (yawn). Would you seriously let your child go around screaming abuse at people in the town centre? Would you refuse to intervene?

Online behaviour is still behaviour and if anything it's more open to getting it wrong than actual real life behaviour. Of course we should all be aware and alert to what our DC are getting up to online. There are too many old hang-ups and analogies about not reading other people's letters. The internet is not private mail- it's public. That's why it's so important for parents to be aware of what they DC are doing online.

swooosh · 29/05/2012 04:48

What an absolutely vile thing to say Shock

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