to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

[truthful]

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so

YABU, I'm new too and have been included/replied to.

It is a bit churlish to dictate to people what they can/can't say on a public forum. If you were all in a coffee shop they'd have similar side discussions.

I can see what you are saying, but if it bothers you why do you stay? I am not in an in-crowd either, but haven't a clue who they are anyway. It doesn't stop me posting if I want to.

Truthful - do you really think this will help?

When people come on here and give you grief for moaning what are you going to do? Are you going to accept what they say, or get all upset and accuse people of bullying?

What on earth is the point of your post?

God you are right. Those people are dull fuckers, having people they know and all that shit.
We should just ignore any friendly contact at all.

waves to stranded How's your bro by the way?

Have you tried netmums?

Oh and the thread you just mentioned ("oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?") was actually someone taking the piss - not really asking the poster how their dad was. Did you really believe it?

Yes magneto. Netmums is a nice place where you can put a kiss on the end of a post without feeling scrutinised

I agree, op.

THEY MAKE ME HEAVE ALL MY INSIDES UP AND OUT AND ONTO THE PAVEMENT THE SICK SICK FUCKERS

They are just plain rude.

And I've never liked Jack. he's a right scone-eating CUNT.

"Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me"

Didn't you get any useful responses then? You need to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff. Ignore the ones who irritate you.

I also think it depends on where you post - if you want advice it's best to post on the relevant board not in Chat or AIBU as that tends to be a bit off-the wall at times.

I can see your point I guess but it's the nature of the site. You either like it or you don't.

But here you can swear without being scrutinised. Surely that's preferable to a kiss?

Im pretty new on here and have never felt like that. I wouldn't know who the "in crowd" are anyway and don't give a shit either.

I've been posting about 6 months (lurked alot longer).

I don't feel unwelcome, of course there are going to be people who know each other better, they have been around longer, thats just logic.

Posting on an INTERNET forum, for the whole world to see, is never going to be intimate, anyone has the right within reason, to post whatever they like.

I love it, feel like I have a part of my life back, that was sadly missing since becoming a SAHM.

Lighten up.

My point is proven in this

Seriously, truthful, this comes up a lot. Thing is, some of us have been here for YEARS so we do know each other and jokes have developed, just like in RL. You can enjoy it, and join in, or sulk and flounce off.

But really, what do you actually expect to happen?

"Hijack!"

Did you see what I did there?

I'm sure you're right and there are some people who think they are the in-crowd/clique but as I've never been able to determine who they are, my theory is that the "in-crowd" only exists in their own imagination.

There are also some "jokes" which are shared by regular posters. Again, I don't get the jokes but some people must find them funny.

Each to their own - take the useful advice, ignore the rest.

Some of us have been "talking" to each other all day all week for years, do you not see that relationships will develop from that? Do you think people will post year in year out as if they don't know each other?

Think about it.

Truthful, I've been a Lurker for ages and have only recently started commenting on things so I'm "new" like you. I think yabu to be honest. Say the thing you want to say then relax, don't get wound up by an internet message board

OP, can I point out the irony of complaining about posters who 'behave as if it's all about them', and then complain you are not getting enough attention, on what is an annonymous internet forum?

hth.

yes MN can be a 'challenging' place at times, but commencing a thread about it is NOT going to win you friends or influence people. I'd name-change and start again.

Im not saying you should stop talking to people you know. Im just asking why you cant have that discussion in fanjos or scones on a thread made for that purpose? It is rude