to have expected my dh to do this without complaining?

[Breeks]

I am a SAHM and I don't drive.
Dh works full time and does.

It was parents evening tonight and my appointment was for 7. The school is a mile and a half away - I walk to and fom the school twice a day (with three children) as it is. We were cutting it fine for making it on time as we were still eating dinner at 6.30.

I said to dh he might have to give me a lift to the school, and he reacted quite badly to this, saying he was fed up with driving today, and pretty much (to my mind) behaving as if I'd asked him to saw off a leg.

We had words, as I was totally pissed off at his unhelpfulness, and in the end rather than have the hassle, I walked on foot quickly.

He thinks he should be allowed to say no. I think he should have been happy to help.

I am back home and the silence is deafening.

Who is BU?

Something an enlightened government could do (once the books are back in balance in say 10 years time). Provide free/subsidised Drivers' Ed(ucation) lessons based on ability to pay, which may or may not still be the norm in schools in the USA, to assist with getting teenagers life skills that help with mobility for employment reasons.

In rural areas and this includes market towns, anywhere with limited public transport, the ability to drive is especially valuable, it enables choice and lack of choice can be expensive and dismal.

In couples where one partner can drive and one can't it can be a minefield if a partner uses it to wield power over the other person.

I'd be fed up of cooking tomorrow night OP and make him ask nicely for his tea or specifically ask in advance for each and every meal he gets inf you are expected to book lifts in advance.

Gnocci

You may find it odd that dh doesn't attend parents evening, but it works for us. It's not an issue, and never has been. You and your dh do what suits you, and we'll do the same. He's a loving, hands on dad. You don't need to worry about it. There is no problem with my dh's commitment to his children.

Also dh isn't in the manner of demanding anything from me! All I meant was that he doesn't say "Please can you make some dinner tonight?" or "Would you mind terribly sticking my clothes in as well, when you do the next load, thank you please?"

There are no hidden depths to this dilemma. It's just as it says on the tin. He was unexpectedly rude to me over something I didn't think was a big deal. That. Is. All.

Honestly, some of you lot just make stuff up as you go along!

And just to clarify further, the reason I started this thread was because dh is generally so easy going and accomodating in general, that I was taken aback by his response....and that's why I wondered if I had done anything wrong - we rarely fall out with each other, and certainly not over anything so trivial. It was out of character for him to react that way.

As I said, he apologised and all is well.

I know it would be more interesting if at least one of us was a rampant arsehole, so I'm sorry to disappoint.

OP sounds like you both just had a bad day. Your OP did make him sound like a bit of a git but I can see you calmed down once he apologised and he doesn't sound like such a bad sort.

I was hoping I could put my first ever "leave the bastard" but looks like I'll have to save it for another day!

PS sorry about the "learn to drive" hijacks. It really irritates me when people keep saying it and I always feel an urge to defend the right to not bear car keys.