to have expected my dh to do this without complaining?

[Breeks]

I am a SAHM and I don't drive.
Dh works full time and does.

It was parents evening tonight and my appointment was for 7. The school is a mile and a half away - I walk to and fom the school twice a day (with three children) as it is. We were cutting it fine for making it on time as we were still eating dinner at 6.30.

I said to dh he might have to give me a lift to the school, and he reacted quite badly to this, saying he was fed up with driving today, and pretty much (to my mind) behaving as if I'd asked him to saw off a leg.

We had words, as I was totally pissed off at his unhelpfulness, and in the end rather than have the hassle, I walked on foot quickly.

He thinks he should be allowed to say no. I think he should have been happy to help.

I am back home and the silence is deafening.

Who is BU?

We are still arguing about this. He says I didn't ask I told....and I suppose technically that's true, but my manner wasn't rude or demanding....I simply expected that he would help.

He's being a twat

firstly, he should be going with you

secondly, in the circumstances I wouldn't ask DH explicitly either. In fact, DH would offer

(i am in the same situation as you driving wise - DH sometimes resents having to do all the driving but he always will)

He is, the selfish twat!

You could get a bike. Cheaper than a car but faster than walking.

He's being a knob, he should have offered to drive you there!

I think if it was me I may have asked as in 'its parents evening can you drop me off' but I would not have exepcted a no (and DH would have gone to PE anyway) or I may have said 'right its PE, 'I need you to drop me off at whatever time'.

I don't think it is unreasonable to expect your DH to drop you anywhere to be honest. If I am going on a girls night or something then DH will drop me if its before DCs bedtime or failing that my dad will

I'm amazed at the number of replies saying you both should go tomparents evening

What, and take 3 kids too?

My dh usually goes, doesn't mean I don't care, it means we don't have childcare
He tells me what is said

We both go and take the kids with us if we need to, they sit in the library or play with the toys.

Didn't know how old the other two were, but I put out toys to keep littlies occupied. It's the norm, around 70%, round here for both parents to show up.

Because you said "I need a lift to the school" instead of "Please can I have a lift" he took umbridge and wouldn't take you?

What kind of person does that?

Does he do this kind of think oftenBreeks?

You didn't tell, You assumed. It's a perfectly logical assumption.

He's being an arse.

I'm going to say it "why don't you drive" then he could have come home and relaxed (or put the DC to bed) while you drove to the school and came home. If he gives you a lift he's got to drive 4 times - there and back and there and back. Having said that, it wouldn't really have hurt him to give you a lift there, especially as you've already done the walk 4x today!

Also, around here, the DC go to the parents' evening.

Moo - a fair point well made...but I promise, I don't expect lifts like this from him often.

It's parents evening! It's your DC's education! HIBU!

Weird he does not want to comeand is not interested in how the kidsare doing at school.

Weird he would not drop you off

He sounds uncaring and unkind, based on this bit of info.

I imagine he must have good sides too or else you would not be with him.

Yanbu though

Get a bike...?

I always did the P.Es until my divorce, when xDH wanted to be involved (after 17 years of not being around) -he did about 2 then 'work' took over (again)

Point is, DH should do his share of the PEs. You stay at home with the dc.

You should not have had to even ask

He was being mean.

You need a bike!

He wouldn't drive for 5 minutes to help make your life ten times easier? What an arse!

Your DH is being totally unreasonable. It's a lift, not his left arm.

For the people horrified at taking your children with you round here you are expected to take your children with you to the parents evening, and that includes reception children.

I have before now left my youngest child in a pram in the corridor with another parent I know (pre-arranged) so DH and I could talk to Ds1's teacher without having to entertain Ds2.

Dh commutes for just over an hour, and yet occasionally on a Friday I will be meeting up with some friends for dinner, as I will be drinking a couple of glasses of wine, Dh will drive me, with our two children in the car to the restaurant. It is usually for 7pm. I get a taxi home.

He does this without complaint just as I would do it for him.

athing I totally agree. The default position in my relationship is "how can I help" not "fuck you"

Fwiw my exH and I go to PE together. He usually drives me there. It wouldn't cross his mind not to.

He def should have taken you, but at our school no children are allowed to parents evening, so I always go alone as we have no-one to have the kids.