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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Not to want to take an Orange Person with me to a business meeting?

278 replies

Hopefullyrecovering · 18/05/2012 16:32

The business is professional services. We went out to a client and the graduate in our team came with me. She was bright orange. Literally bright orange. I could see the client visibly wondering whether or not the orange would rub off onto him during the handshake. It looked grotesque and thoroughly unprofessional. There was an accompanying issue of shedloads of make-up. Which was similarly unprofessional This girl does not need it. She is perfectly nice-looking (I believe although there was so much orange, and fake lashes etc that it is difficult to tell)

So, AIBU? And if IANBU, how on earth am I going to raise this issue?

OP posts:
Olympia2012 · 18/05/2012 16:33

You can't discriminate over skin colour!!!!

Byeckerslike · 18/05/2012 16:33

Is she good at her job?

StealthPolarBear · 18/05/2012 16:34

I hate orange and loads of make up but it is her choice and her look. Assuming she looks smart.

DaisyMaisyJessicaEmily · 18/05/2012 16:34

It's not skin colour though Olympia, it's trowel loads of badly matched foundation.

HappyHippyChick · 18/05/2012 16:34

Had she been Tangoed?

EasilyBored · 18/05/2012 16:34

A simple 'love, were you aware that YOU ARE BRIGHT F*CKING ORANGE?' should do the trick.

YANBU. I'm turning into one of those old ladies who want to threaten to wipe people's faces with a wetwipe if they're wearing 3 inches of make up though, so maybe don't listen to me.

Hopefullyrecovering · 18/05/2012 16:35

She is indeed good at her job. Very good.

No, she doesn't look smart. She'd look a damn sight smarter if she weren't orange though.

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Hervana · 18/05/2012 16:35

She may be better than you at your job; how would you know just looking at the colour of her skin?

MrsLettuce · 18/05/2012 16:37

FFS, I think the whole point is that the colour of her skin is not visible because she bright orange.

slowestwildebeast · 18/05/2012 16:37

I'm massively pale. Can you imagine the reaction if you'd written you couldn't go to meetings with casper the friendly ghost and that I should bronze myself to look alive? Yabu.

Debeez · 18/05/2012 16:38
Frontpaw · 18/05/2012 16:39

I thought you meant Orange as is a member of the Orange Lodge (they of the sash and bowler hat)!

Is she quite young? My niece is generally orange. She looks like she has the worst case of jaundice ever. Its what the 'young girls' go for these days (even though she is almost 30).

If the job is client-facing, then you could have a quiet word if you think clients don't take her seriously (or are taking the mickey) because of the colour enhancement. Don't know how you'd approach that one though! I would hate it if someone thought that I was some ditzy because of my dress or grooming. I was always told to keep skirts knee length and hair tied back to look professional. I am quite old though but I do remember how 'girlies' were viewed at work.

Olympia2012 · 18/05/2012 16:40

Ha ha .. I know, I'm just being difficult!

PandaWatch · 18/05/2012 16:43

If it's the sort of job where you would say something about her dying her hair bright pink (as an example) I think it's fair enough to say something about excessive make up

Byeckerslike · 18/05/2012 16:44

Perhaps that is how she feels confident and if you make her tone it down she wouldnt be herself, therefore not as good at her job?
I agree its not a good look, but if she is doing well and noone has complained about the amount of makeup/fake tan this girl is wearing (a pretty petty thing to complain about tbh) then i say let her get on with it.
I actually dont think it can be viewed as unprofessional unless there were other factors, bad time keeping or swearing inappropriately for example.

Pekka · 18/05/2012 16:45

YABU- I am pale to the extreme and it can get tiring to hear the same old comments regarding my skin tone. I sometimes wear foundation or bronzer so I don't stand out from the crowd. You would be surprised how often the topic of conversation has been my pale skin, and the conversation never has an admiring tone.

elastamum · 18/05/2012 16:45

Talk to your colleagues that you trust and see if they share your view.

If the consensus is her image isnt right for the role, I would sit her down and have a talk with her about her image and the likely effect it will have on her career. Talk to her about her potential role models and what they look / dress like.

She is young and talented and presumably wants to progress. If she is good at her job it would be a real shame if her image held her back - as it well might. I have in the past coached a woman who dressed like Bet Lynch. All heels, very short skirts and low tops. She was also very capable but I explained that her look was having just the same effect on her career, as the fat scruffy bloke with dinner down his tie. This woman changed her image to one more like the senior female directors in her organisation and it did wonders for her career progression.

You might not like it but in todays employment market, image does matter. Here speaks someone who used to have boring blue suits in the wardrobe specially chosen for dealing with the Japanese. Hmm

DowagersHump · 18/05/2012 16:46

Doesn't your firm give advice to graduate trainees on appropriate dress? I'd speak to HR and get them to pretend it's a service they offer all graduates.

Hopefullyrecovering · 18/05/2012 16:46

It is indeed the sort of job where pink hair would not be tolerated.

I don't know why she hasn't cottoned on, to be honest. There are lots of other pretty young things around in our workplace. None of them are orange.

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eurochick · 18/05/2012 16:46

I also work in professional services and someone who looked like that would be asked to tone it down.

Mrsjay · 18/05/2012 16:46

IS she an ooompa loompa Grin i guess its her fashion sense as long as she looked smart you cant really say anything , a lot of women go over the top with tan and make up i think it looks awful personally but it should affect how they do a job which shes studied for , was she Very orange ?

Frontpaw · 18/05/2012 16:46

Pekka - same here. I just say 'I'm pale and interesting'.

QuintessentialShadows · 18/05/2012 16:46

Can you avoid taking her to business meetings? If she is not looking presentable, she should perhaps not represent the company.

dixiechick1975 · 18/05/2012 16:46

Frontpaw I thought the same thing and was thinking surely religious discrimination is illegal (i feel old)

What is your office policy like it may be able to be construed to include not being orange.

StealthPolarBear · 18/05/2012 16:48

"There are lots of other pretty young things around in our workplace. None of them are orange."
Hmm