Bit of background. I have faced a number of bereavements in recent years. (including mum,dad and a sibling)
I have also experienced pregnancy loss.
I have read post where people are complaining that their mum gave their dc sweets of whatever and thought "well at least you have a mum". In my defence this was about 2 weeks after mums death.
However, I would never actually post this on a thread because I could appreciate how op may feel.
Yet, I have seen a number of threads recently where people have done just that.
AIBU to think that although understandable this shouldn't be done.