to think there is no need for posts like this

[tenby81]

Bit of background. I have faced a number of bereavements in recent years. (including mum,dad and a sibling)
I have also experienced pregnancy loss.
I have read post where people are complaining that their mum gave their dc sweets of whatever and thought "well at least you have a mum". In my defence this was about 2 weeks after mums death.
However, I would never actually post this on a thread because I could appreciate how op may feel.
Yet, I have seen a number of threads recently where people have done just that.
AIBU to think that although understandable this shouldn't be done.

I know, I know, and damn lucky to have a finger for it to bite. I only have one, you know. That's why I type so slooooooowly.

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YABVVVVVVVU there hulls

Haven't you read the thread ffs

knowitallstrikesagain posted above

"I can't type. I have no fingers, toes, DC or tongue. I am blinking morse code for this message and someone is typing it for me. It has taken 2 days to write."

Please show some sensitivity and stop showing off about having 1 finger!

It has it's uses.....

ohhhhhh I made myself laugh with that one!

filthy redhead (another post) signing OUT!

Everlong, I agree with you on this one. And I am so sorry for your loss

Me too.

I agree op. I lost my mum as a child but would never try to use that to make people feel bad for posting about theirs.

I may think it sometimes but wouldn't write it.

Sometimes people post things best written in a diary. We are entitled to our feelings - but need to realise that they aren't always rational and shouldn't be broadcast.

Sorry about your son, everlong.

Everlong I so agree with you on that one. I seriously couldn't believe it when a friend of mine complained about a jumper on facebook. I started a thread to that effect.

YANBU OP. If someone is posting about a minor problem that is still upsetting or bothering them then that's up to them. I don't know what else might be going on in their lives and I think everyone is allowed to have a bit of a rant now and again to let off steam, otherwise that minor problem could become a major one.

Posts along the lines of "you should be grateful you have a..." or "well that wouldn't bother me so why are you moaning about it, you sound so entitled..." always annoy me, as does "if this is all you've got to worry about..."

Everlong I do agree with you though. Nobody should be complaining about being delayed when someone else has died or been seriously injured. A delay is annoying but being stuck in a traffic jam or waiting for a late train is nothing compared to the devastation going on in someone else's life. As you know, our car was hit from behind by a lorry while we waited at red traffic lights and I'm sure other people were inconvenienced as a result of our accident.

But my daughter was born prematurely and died shortly after her birth as a result of that accident and I would be furious and devastated if anyone dared to complain to me about inconvenience.

So I try to bear that in mind if I feel annoyed at being delayed or stuck in traffic. Someone else's life could be falling apart and I'm lucky to be at the slightly delayed and annoyed end of it rather than the grief stricken and devastated end.

I know someone who works with London Rail and he has to attend the inquests when someone has died on the line (I can't remember if it's four people per day or per week) and I know he would agree with you. The selfishness you would have to display to complain about a persons death making you a bit late is immense and unforgivable.

Everlong - I've just reread and it didn't quite come out right there - two sentiments mixed up. I need not to post on the hoof. I'm not really an insensitive old cow. Sorry it came out so stupid.

I meant people ranting on about such thinggs that they can't really justify (like the train track scenario). AND about people jumping in on threads when someone has asked an innocet question and gets flamed.

I came across as a real cow, did't I? Oh dear! Thanks for giving me the benefit of the doubt!

I have written loads of posts then deleted them. Mostly about people complaining about their parents over smallish things (giving kids sweeties, buying clothes they don't like...). I lost both my parents in crappy ways (though not many ways are 'good' iyswim, and they were getting on, so sad but not 'tragic') and far too young (again, I wasn't a child but still, you expect your parents to be around to see your kids).

If its a bad day (mums birthday lasy week) I have a blub and sniff some old photo albums (some still smell of mums perfume). What's that phrase - something about getting to an age when life takes away more than it gives?

White elephants are holy and therefore useless and thus could not be used as working animals like their grey brethren. But they still ate. And ate. And ate.

Thus only rajahs could afford to keep them in the state they were accustomed to. and if his courtiers pissed him off, he'd kindly delegate the honour of looking after said elephant

Oh, and I am absolutely horrified and appalled that anyone would whine about their train delay in such a situation. That's so awful and foul.

I am quite bemused at how many posters have completely misunderstood the op and what she is saying! She is saying that even though some people have suffered loss, to come and berate people for 'little' problems is not on.

Has she?

I thought she was complaining about grammar?