to ask DP *not* to smoke weed on sex night?

[blapbird]

We very rarely have sex these days because he works nights, I work days as well as study and when he does get time off (ie today) I come home from work all excited to spend a lovely evening together and he has been to his mates house and is quite stoned so therefore lethargic and unable to connect with me because I am not
AIBU to have had a bit of a go at him about this? I feel like I've burst his bubble on his one bit of leisure time, but Im starting to worry about the lack of sex
AIBU?
TIA

I have visions of a pint of beer on a tall bar and poor old Stranded not being able to reach it

Psst.. Worra... you're not stoned are you?

I wouldn't be able to reach it either, I have short arms, they said so that the gym. Like a T-Rex really...

Off to have a Bong and wait for the inevitable lure of heroin....(its been 16 years and counting)

"Short arms and deep pockets" was the phrase I believed they used

And that was at the bar in the gym

It's true, Worra... that's why I just have a little grab handbag now, can reach that just fine.

I wouldnt ut up with a stoned partner. Nor has my partner ever weed outside, at least, not since he's been a grown up.

Can't beelive how many people are okay with the zoned out stoner when his partner was looking forward to sme time together and he knew it.
blapbird be "that" girlfriend. Im so bored of everyone living in fear of being "that" girlfriend. Whats the worst that could happen? He could break up with you and you could spend your time with a proper person who deosnt prioritise drugs over you.

What has it got to do with how other people see drugs and whether or not he is a "druggie"!? OP doesnt like how her partner is when he is stoned. Yet hechose toget tstoned ahead of their nighttogether. It wouldnt matter if he had got drunk, or smoked cigarettes or stuffed his face full of pies so he was too lethargic to move... it has spoilt their night and it was selfish.

That was exactly what people were telling her! I think only one person took his side.

OP, you may want to look at this thread as a cautionary tale

Yabu for being with a dope head.

Sorry pickled I only got half way through reding the replies and at the start everyone was telling her she was BU. I was too incensed to read on

The tide turned soon after thankfully! Like you say the weed is a by issue.