What have YOU ever done for me?

[bijou3]

This is what my horrid, horrid teenage child just said to me.

yup.... I think I remember saying that during my teenage years...

Provide an endless source of embarrassment to her?!

I would say "well I will stop doing any of the things I do for you now, let me know when you realise how much I do"

After a day or two of having to buy and prepare her own food, do her own washing and ironing she may start to realise

I would never dream of speaking to my parents like that. She also said that I don?t work therefore I?m thick !!!!

Probably in 2 decades she will hear those words again.........as her own child bands them about. Just as I and many other mothers of teenagers have!!

Not a biggie IMO it's just the teen equivalant of a toddler temper tantrum!!

Obviously far to much is my usual reply, followed by a refusal to do x,y, or z for a while very rapidly results in a turn around.

Sirzy, That is exactly what I intend to do. Im so upset I llok at her and see a baby but in reality shes turned into a KEVIN :(

oh yes, teens can be vile.

I suggest stop doing it, as sirzy says. A short sharp shock when she finds out what life's like when nobody's cooking your meals or washing your clothes might teach her a little respect and appreciation!

Either that, or list it all.

fed you
clothed you
kept a roof over your head
bathed you
taught you to talk
etc etc etc

What was your crime then? Not giving her money to go out? Not letting her stay out late?

My DC (pretty much) said that to me a few months ago. I was so cross I told her to get out of the car and walk home herself - it was a 25min walk. We were on our way to the supermarket at her request to get things just for her and I was FURIOUS. Now she usually says thank you for giving her lifts.........!

Just stop doing it...she'll soon realise what you do for her!

Teenagers are horrible. I don't want one.

You can't win.

I got told all I do is work and drink winewho can blame me!

My reaction to comments like this is "oh we'll if that's how you feel" and bide my time until the next inevitable request for something comes and say in a normal voice "sorry you've been so horrible to me I don't feel like doing anything for you". On no account take it any further than this or enter into an argument.

She sharpened her black eyeliner all over the cream carpet in her bedroom and then proceeded to sit in it while she painted her nails so now the carpet is covered in black streaks. I asked her to respect the house as we have to work hard to pay for nice things and she hit the roof. She has been an absolute angel her whole life so it was an absolute shock.

maybe a spot of time in a Belarussian orphange might get her to see the light?

OK, extreme reaction! Not doing it probably would do the trick (or piss her off more depending on how spoilt she is)

My 13 yo said that to me last week when I told him to empty the dishwasher (it wasn't his turn!!)

I wrote a list...it went on for pages
He emptied the dishwasher, reloaded it and made me a cup of tea

Make up remover might help take that off. Not the point though, I know!

Buy her the horriblest, granniest old rug you can find in a second hand furniture shop and stick it in her bedroom

My DD hasn't said that yet, but she's said plenty of other vile stuff. She has also been an angel all her life too (at school particularly) It's quite a shock when they get moody and rude, isn't it.

Your DD's bedroom sounds alot like my DD's, except that she has a blue carpet, thank God!

I drove all the way up to London yesterday with a migraine, just to buy her some clothes I spent £ 400 on her (I wouldn?t dream of spending this much usually but she had grown out of all her clothes) and this is how she thanks me.

In that case I would now insist all make up is kept and applied in the bathroom, give her a bottle of upholstery cleaner and cloth and set her to work.

We banned all food and drink from upstairs after a drink spillage behind a bed was left and eventually grew mould and smelled so bad that we discovered it.

Ds2 said to me (on being asked to empty the dishwasher) "why do I have to do everything " . His elder brother did a sharp intake of breath and hissed "never say that - I did once"

I may have ranted a little bit the first time round

WD40 will get that out :)

well i think the clothes can be removed and earned back

Agree with whoever said you should stop doing anything at all for her... No cooking, washing, ironing, lifts, help with homework etc etc etc. Don't tell her, just stop. When she protests just say, 'But I am doing what you said I do i.e. nothing'