To think it's rude to take little girls to a wedding in bridesmaids dresses...

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...when they aren't the actual bridesmaids? Does this rank alongside wearing women wearing white to weddings?

Party dress on non bridesmaid little girl at wedding = fine. Bridesmaid's dress on non bridesmaid little girl (or big one, come to that) at a wedding = rude, PFB, attention-seeking and entitled.

Supernanny, you were angry about the colour tie that your sister chose for her dh and ds? Really?

Does the same go for page boys? My Ds was a pageboy (think debenhams page boy outfits). 2 other little boys (brothers) turned up in the same outfits. Their mother knew this was what the page boys were wearing as she had asked. Have to say it didn't bother me or the bride. The boys looked lovely together!

Oh no! i'm usually last to 'get' these unspoken rules. This explains a comment a close friend recently made ten years after her wedding. She told me that I had looked 'lovely' at her wedding. I was shocked that she remembered what I was wearing at HER wedding, having zero memory of what anyone else wore at mine. Thinking back, I was wearing a white trouser suit to her wedding. Although took blazer off as it was hot, so white trousers and gold top in photos. Now I have no idea if she really thought I looked lovely or her comment was a passive aggressive response to my faux pas! Probably the latter, anyway we still love each other to pieces. Now I will make sure not to repeat this mistake.

However, Daisy, your comments about your daughter's just seem very strange to me. As long as the other girl wasn't in the same dress and didn't try to walk down the aisle, get in all the pictures etc then surely you just told her SHE looked lovely and to get on and enjoy the day!

Jesus - who cares? Not rude at all! It's just a dress

Depends, if you don't know the bride that well- you may not know the colour scheme..... And accidentally may have dressed your daughter in the same colour

I think there is a difference between deliberately copying the bridesmaids dresses and unknowingly putting your dd in something similar. It's the intention which determines whether something is rude or not.

My bridesmaids wore ivory dresses that looked like mini wedding dresses - it would have been hard for someone to dress their child like that by mistake. If it had happened, then I wouldn't have minded - it's just a kid's dress, after all.

I think that women wearing head to toe white to a wedding is wrong. Fine if it's mixed with other colours and not remotely 'bridal'.

It is rude.

It is even more rude when it is an adult only wedding and the bride has been emotionally blackmailed for months to have a relative, the same age as said small child, as a bridesmaid and has refused because she wants a small adult only wedding.

It caused months of ill feeliing because the relative who had wanted the small relative would not believe the other child wasn't invited / wasn't there as bridesmaid.

But to purposely go to say Debenhams and actually buy a tailor made bridesmaid dress...... WRONG

Do you know what? I have no idea what any if the little girls at my wedding wore and I couldn't care less. I can understand being pissed if someone deliberately pushes a small child on the wedding party but just for wearing a dress, meh. I had one of my best friends turn up in a cream maxi dress. Do I care? No. Lifes to short and the day wasn't about stressing about what the guests wore.

Can anyone explain clearly what categorises a dress as a "bridesmaid's dress" rather than a party dress? I would have no idea. When DD1 was a bridesmaid she wore a white broderie anglaise dress which both she and DD2 have worn since

Personally I don't care the slightest bit what anyone wears to my wedding - as long as people turn up and have a good time that's all that matters really.

I would not wear white to someone else's wedding though, just in case they were precious about it. The same probably applies to this, though surely there's a fuzzy boundary between 'bridesmaid's dress' and formal/party dress?

Thank fuck I have a boy. I couldn't cope with this shit.

All little girls posh/party dresses look like bridesmaids dressed to me.

Things were a lot easier when brides wore white (or maybe ivory, if they really wanted to be different from the crowd ) and the bridesmaids wore something like this peach or pink!

There's so much choice being availed of these days, that it's very easy to look eeriely similar by mistake.

I would say that a dress being white (or cream or ivory) is what makes it different from other party dresses. If its a completely different colour, then it's fine.

It is rude, sad, attention seeking and desperate looking

Couldn't care less.

If the little girl want's to get dressed up I wouid be touched that her parents had made such an effort and happy to see the little girl happy IYSWIM.

Disclaimer - I think weddings today are feckin dismal with all the rules and bridezilla nonsense. Isn't a wedding supposed to be a celebration of love with your family and friends? Nowadays it seems to be more about money, competition, extravagent stag/hen nights, family arguments over dress styles/colours. etc...

I'll be giving DD a rope, her passport, cash and directions to Gretna Green when her time comes

I really can't undrstand this. You have brides who are wearing white and brides who are NOT wearing white.
You have brides who wear 'proper' wedding dresses and other who choose to wear very nice and smart party dresses.
You have bridemaids, esp children with 'proper' bridemaid outfit and those who wear part dress type of things.

How on earth are you going to choose what you/your child should wear if you don't know what the bride/bridemaid is going to wear so that you don't look like the bride/bridemaid?

As for not taking the center stage, you can be the center of attention wo wearing white or a 'bridesmaid' dress. Or you can wear white, a bridesmaid dress and not the be center of attention....
Perhaps the people who think like this are actually lacking self confidence so much that they are afraid to not the be at the centre stage even though they are the bride?

Can't see a problem with it tbh.

Since when do brides get to dictate what everyone wears at their wedding? Why would anyone care? oh yes, because they've paid 40 grand and have become obsessive

YABU people can wear whatever they like for whatever reason. If you don't want them at the wedding then don't invite them. After that it is up to them.

Exactly rasputin.

Its just so awful. Read any wedding magazines and they are FULL of this stupid me me me bridezilla marketing NONSENSE!!! Grrrrr

I think the problem is more apparent now due to people keeping the costs down of weddings so buying 'party dresses' as a cheaper alternative to a bridesmaid dress. We are attending a wedding (evening only) and dd (1 on the day) is wearing a dress that could be used as a bridemaids dress for a baby but it isn't a bridesmaids dress. People can judge if they like, but I know and do not want dd to be a bridesmaid but as it is her birthday it is the dress she would have worn for her special day. Also, my cousin (the bride) has ok'd the dress.

my cousin (the bride) has ok'd the dress.

Why one earth would you need to "ok" what your baby is wearing with the bride??!!

Also, these people are your guests. Where's YOUR manners Miss Bridezilla?