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To be miserable because he didn't bring a gift?

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Sarayu · 29/04/2012 13:04

DH has been away with work for 2 weeks. They were given £500 for expenses for food/laundry. Breakfast and everything else was included. We are on a very limited budget so the plan was to use as little as possible and try and salvage a cheap but nice meal out together, when got home. He had access to lidl/aldi put there so was going to buy things to make a packed lunch.

Returned home this morning with £10 left. Fair enough, we can't afford meal out. Here's the AIBU, I'm gutted he didnt bring me a present home. Something small like a bottle of wine for us to share or a little box of chocs. Just something to acknowledge that I hold everything together whilst he is away. We have 2 small children and he is away quite a bit. I'm forever picking up the pieces when they are missing their daddy. I understand it's his job but.... AIBU?!

OP posts:
GnomeDePlume · 29/04/2012 22:54

I have travelled a lot for work. Our system was meals were paid against receipt up to a limit (around £25 for dinner). We were also paid a daily subsistence amount (£10/day) to cover any 'out of pocket' expenses.

Believe me, I never made a profit!

Laundry in a hotel costs a fortune. Every cup of tea/coffee/glass of water has to be paid for. Quite often these cant be easily claimed for. Subsistence allowances disappear very easily.

DH and I agreed very early that I didnt buy gifts for him or for DCs. I didnt want to be away, DH didnt want me to be away. DH didnt want the DCs to expect a present every time I came home after a trip.

As some one said up stream, it isnt a holiday.

Sorry OP, YABU.

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