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This think this is so totally and completly wrong?

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/04/2012 21:38

Its that time of year again.
I usually try and grab your attention with some wittily provocative AIBU thread title.
I just cant be arsed tonight.

I want you to give blood.
I want you to register to be a bone marrow donor.
I would even quite like you to sponser me for my 10k run.

But you know what?

I just want her back.

This time 6 years ago I was watching her die. She died on 27th April 2006 aged 14 years.

A life so full of promise.
Such a clever, beautiful child.
My daughter.

She has two brothers she has never met. She has one brother that couldnt bear to live in the house she lived and died in and has now moved out. She has a little brother whose autistic brain cannot make sense of her leaving but cannot allow him to stop wondering where she is.

I miss her. She should be here.

I should be telling her to get on with her essays and stop spending her money on nightclubs.

I spent an hour and half in boots today scanning photos of her onto disc because we didnt even have a digital camera when she was alive.
I will spend tomorrow in her little memorial garden at the front of our house. Tidying it and replanting.

There is no sense to what happened to her. It makes no sense.

Please give blood
www.blood.co.uk
www.nhsbt.nhs.uk/bonemarrow/
www.justgiving.com/Billiegirl

No one has to say anything.

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theladylovescupcakes · 26/04/2012 21:55

Thinking of you and yours xx

HereIGo · 26/04/2012 21:56

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beautifulwho · 26/04/2012 21:58

Sad so sorry, just so sad, hugs and prayers to you and your family xxxx

MaresyDotes · 26/04/2012 21:58

I'm so sorry.

I give blood regularly but can't at the moment as I'm having hospital treatment. My DD had an operation at 5 months old and received blood. I will never know who donated, but in a weird way, it's from every donor.

If you give blood, bless you. If you could but don't, please think about it.

MrsSnaplegs · 26/04/2012 22:01

I can't give blood or marrow but DH is a donor - he got turned away today because the mobile unit can't accommodate pushchairs Sad
I will sponsor you after payday
Every time I see butterflies I remember Billie Smile
Thinking of you

RevoltingPeasant · 26/04/2012 22:02

Okay I have a monumentally stupid question. I have never given blood in my adult life because I'm scared of needles. But this thread has moved me to give it a go.

But. Er - how? Blush Sorry for dumbness of Q........

NonAstemia · 26/04/2012 22:25

I'm overdue to donate. You have prompted me. So sorry for your loss xx

NonAstemia · 26/04/2012 22:29

I'm overdue to donate. You have prompted me. So sorry for your loss xx

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/04/2012 22:46

MN broke for ages didnt it?

Revolting its not stupid. There is a link in my OP that will tell you what you need to know..

Thank you all for you messages and I am overwhelmed that people have sponsered me. The YANBU on my justgiving page made me laugh.

Thank you for giving blood. Thank you for wanting to even if you cant.
You can encourage your friends and children and family.
Those of you with teenage sons can nag them to join the BM register. Of course they want women too but they particularly like young, fit males (insert double entendre here).

Thank you.

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smileyhappymummy · 26/04/2012 22:46

Thank you for your post.

Blood transfusions saved my life when my daughter was born so I am very, very grateful to all of you who donate. Amazing to think that I am alive because of 15 people I've never met and never will meet, who gave blood just to help someone else.

I recently discovered that, although I can't donate blood having received a transfusion, I can join the Antony Nolan bone marrow register. Was really pleased to realise this and have joined - one day I hope I can give something back to someone.

PortBlacksandHasMurkyWaters · 26/04/2012 22:49

revolting - go here and put your postcode in. You can make an appt from there. I have donated over 20 times and can honestly say they have never hurt me once Smile It is a wonderful thing to do.

MrsD - what can i say? I will never forget your story of Billie catching butterflies. Much strength to you.

youarekidding · 26/04/2012 22:49

You say you can't find the words - but you have written so many beautiful words so full of love. I bet your DD is as proud of you as you are of her.

I have been refused BD and BMD. I am however going to be doing a sponsered swim myself - hopefully this year.

I wanted to chose 2 charities NAS and a cancer charity. (my friend died of cancer before xmas and my friends mum is having chemo atm). Which cancer charity so you feel would be good for me to support?

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/04/2012 22:50

This

I hope it works.
Billie was named after this lady.

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Barley81 · 26/04/2012 22:51

This is the first time I have posted on here.

I don't know if this helps at all, but I wanted to tell you that you & you're gorgeous daughter are the reason that I started to donate! I am completely terrified by needles, I have learnt to put that to one side to do this! All because I read one of you're posts.

You're amazing, I am so so sorry, she should still be here x x x

I am back there on monday to (hopefully) donate again!

StopEatingThatMud · 26/04/2012 22:52

I gave blood for the first time this year due to posts on MN read at silly o clock in the morning whilst feeding tiny DD. I had to wait until she was 6 months or would have done it sooner.

You've reminded me that as she's now 11 months I think I must be able to give again, thank you for the kick up the backside.

I promise to also kick DP who has been "meaning" to see if he can give, on the medication he's on, for blummin ages.

I'm pants with words but have an from me

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/04/2012 22:54

It means so much to me that people donate because of Billie.

More than I can put into words.

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DontForgetTheLightAlesLawrence · 26/04/2012 22:56

MrsDV, you fucking rock, like a rocking thing.

Original poster
OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/04/2012 22:57
Smile
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ExitPursuedByABear · 26/04/2012 22:58

Much love to you and Billie. I used to donate blood but was turned away as I suffer from cold sores Hmm. Will try again in Billie's memory.

featherbag · 26/04/2012 23:02

I've just signed up to give blood for the first time on Wednesday, now that DS is over 6 months I'd been meaning to do it, thank you for the nudge xx

LetsKateWin · 26/04/2012 23:02

She is so beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm in bed at the mo, but will sponsor you in the morning when I have my purse.

Portofino · 26/04/2012 23:03

I did my sponsorship today - meant to do it weeks ago, but somehow it seems "good" to do it today. I am in awe of you (and your pink kitchen). I cannot imagine at all how you have coped with the bastard hand that life threw at you and Billie. It is so unfair. Yet, you stay strong and support so many others who are living the nightmare you have been through. Much respect!

sheepgomeep · 26/04/2012 23:07

Im so sorry too.

Not enough people give blood, sadly.

I have given blood in the past but cant anymore as I had a blood transfusion 5 years ago.

Would happily sponsor you though.

hopkin · 26/04/2012 23:10

So sorry for your loss MrsDV. I've been turned down as a blood donor before but I'm going to look into it again and see if there's any way round it. I'll look into registering as a bone marrow donor too.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

sheepgomeep · 26/04/2012 23:10

Can I still donate bone marrow though?