Can't decide if I am sick to the stomach or ok with this

[HoldOnWoody]

My friend's son is not far off 3 years of age and she let's him sit on her lap and place his hand down her top and, I can only presume, give booby a squeeze. It is obviously a comfort but I actually feel very uncomfortable when it happens. I have never thought that it is OK but I wonder whether I am just being a bit anal and it is not so bad.

My dd was/is all about the boobie! She was breastfed for a year and still now, aged nine, I find that she always snuggles right up to the boob area at every opportunity. She doesn't put her hands down there, but as a 2 year old she was indiscriminate about who breasts she touched.

You see op children are not sexual creatures and to them breasts are not sexual objects. They are sources of comfort and warmth and food and Mummy.

Also, I don't think I've ever been 'sick to the stomach' over the actions of a child

I think this is one of the most concerning posts I have read in a long time.

I am sad to think mothers like you op think that way :(

My 6 year old DS gets in bed each morning for his cuddle...and warms his hands under my boobs, so droopy ones have their uses .

He did cuddle up to his Dad, stoked his chest hair and was looking for his nipples

HoldOnWoody Are You a tad jealous of the relationship your friend has with her child?

Just out of interest, you mentioned that you breastfed your dcs. Up to what age did you breastfeed them?

MarieFromStMoritz Tue 24-Apr-12 03:42:22
"This boy just sits on his mum's lap the whole time with his hand down her top.

I would feel uncomfortable about this if it were my child, although I cannot really articulate why..."

Isn't it just about the fact that children reach the developmental stage of interacting with other children at different ages, and a toddler who isn't quite there will be clingy at a toddler's group where he is expected to do something he isn't quite ready for.

I had one of either kind. They have both grown up into equally sociable young people- in fact, dd's transition happened before she were ready to start school. There was nothing at all to feel uncomfortable about. I hope my friends didn't.