Can't decide if I am sick to the stomach or ok with this

[HoldOnWoody]

My friend's son is not far off 3 years of age and she let's him sit on her lap and place his hand down her top and, I can only presume, give booby a squeeze. It is obviously a comfort but I actually feel very uncomfortable when it happens. I have never thought that it is OK but I wonder whether I am just being a bit anal and it is not so bad.

"but now half the western hemisphere has seen me feed DD"

LOL

Good on you :)

oh my that was a bit uncalled forwoodylike you said you have your opinions and everyone else has theirs

I live in a household obsessed by my breasts.

DS is 6 and likes them as a pillow.

DD is 3, and fascinated by them.

DH is old enough to know better, but still.

I wouldn't encourage any member of the household to act this way in front of friends, but still don't get your discomfort?

I don't think it's worth worrying about so much as you seem to be.
Why does it make you feel uncomfortable?

I wouldn't find it strange tbh. But I would try and discourage a child from putting their hands inside my bra at that age if we had visitors. (mainly because of accidental exposure!)

I lived abroad with DS until he was 2yo. It was a country where woman sunbathed topless. DS would lie on me after a swim and fall asleep - and yes his hands would touch my boobs but when they were out it didn't bother me iyswim? I never minded the hand up my top on my stomach or on my chest as skin to skin is comforting.

The being shy is a red herring in this situation because even un shy children like skin to skin.

Yes. You're being very very anal.

And I think you dropped your dummy over there >>>

my little lad does that aswell and hes 4! not ALL the time but on occasion, I can see why it would make you uncomfortable woody if you dont have a child that does that, its just a case of "each to their own"
that is not something you would do hence it makes you uncomfortable, it is not something a lot of MNetters would find a problem so your views makes them uncomfortable and be slightly mean
its a reaction to something out of you comfortzone-you seeing this and them hearing someone say its weird.
:)

YABU.

My 3.3 yo son does this to one of my breasts while sucking milk from the other one.

Annoying? Yes!

Sick to the stomach?

At least he's not doing it to you!

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Of course you are entitled to your opinion. But others, who hold a different opinion, are entitled to tell you that they find yours odd/bizarre/whatever when you ask on a public forum whether your reaction is U or not! V that you find the sight of a shy child sitting on mum's lap all the time so very irritating. That was probably me at the same age, I was an impossibly shy child. Not breast-fed, though, so probably not sticking my hand down my mum's top .

If anyone can help me stop my DS (2.8) doing this please let me know. It's really bothering me! He keeps ruining every top I have by pulling the neckline down. If he would just slp his hand underneath my top (from bottom) like a gentleman I wouldn't mind in the least but really, every top I have looks like I've been putting it on feet 1st. What's worse he seems to notice any new top I have an very quickly will end up in my lap with his hand down my top (to be fair it's probably my reaction that compells him as he's not actually after my boob just likes to wind me up)

DD is 2.4 and she does it to me all the time. I try to discourage her, but I really don't think it's something you should be uncomfortable about.

He's probably just curious because he hasn't got anything there. That's what fascinates DD. Although I stopped BF when she was 12.5 months, I think she believes the boobs are still hers.

ewaczarlie same as any other behaviour you want to change. Remove hand and distract. I don't really like mine making a habit of it either

God my ds loves boobs. If I'm wearing a low cut top he'll give each one a gentle kiss

I think this is partly funny, partly sweet and partly completely totally utterly normal and no parts sickening

If you had of started a post about your concern for the little boys lack of social skills then I'm sure you would have gotten different responses. Instead you focused on him touching his mothers breasts and how it made you uncomfortable.

It's only natural for people to assume you find this somewhat dirty or wrong, Otherwise why the discomfort?

YABU! but then again i do a booby dance for my dd's who are 4 and 6 and they find it very funny!!

Ds (19m) does this, and has done since I weaned him, I think it's a lively reminder for us both of bfing

My DS 2.5 does this to me. It is definitely a comfort thing. Although he did make a song about my boobies yday? in the middle of IKEA, loudly.

I try to gently encourage him to touch the skin on my neck, rather than actually grab a handful. He will also go for my rolls of flab toned physique. It is definitely a skin thing as he will also touch my face with his hands and just rest them there.

Ha! A kid did this to me in the park last week. Never thought to think it was weird, just a bit funny and cute.

YABU. He's still a baby.

Frikinfabuolous, sorry not to have got back to you sooner.

X-post = cross-posting i.e. when I am so flippin' slow to type something that by the time I have got to the end of what I am trying to say, someone else has posted something that either neatly sums up what I was on about or the original poster has just addressed that very point, as happened above. If you see what I mean. It's late and I have no brain left now.

Anyway, above I was mocking myself for having basically run into the room and yelled something that had just been said. And then my phone posted it twice, double the embarrassment. Gah.

OP, that wasn't flaming, now, was it?

[well meaning emoticon]

This boy just sits on his mum's lap the whole time with his hand down her top.

I would feel uncomfortable about this if it were my child, although I cannot really articulate why...

Me too. I don't think I'm naturally suited to parenting a clingy child. I think some parents enjoy dependence and some value independence. I love the fact that my son is getting that little bit more 'autonomous' every day, whereas my SIL says she will really miss the early years because she likes the fact that they're still "dependent" (direct quote) on her. I don't really get why she feels that way, and I'm sure she doesn't really get why I feel the way I do. We're just different. My guess [and I will be flamed for this] is that a lot of people who attachment parent or breastfeed into toddlerdom very much value the sense of being needed. More routiney people or somewhere in the middle types value it less so or even find it restrictive. Its just a personality thing. No one's wrong or right.