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Original poster

Who was BU? Me, or the cat's bum mouth couple?

107 replies

BellaOfTheBalls · 21/04/2012 12:08

DS1 is almost 4 & was quite late to potty train so I am still slightly panicky. Today, exactly halfway between the cafe we have just left and our house he announces that he "needs a wee RIGHT NOW Mummy!". I hurry him up the road as fast as I can which is no mean feat with two bags of shopping and DS2 in his pram. I get as far as a big tree on a quiet street about 300yds from our house where he has a wee against the tree. There are no houses nearby, the tree is at tge entrance to a car park. He was cross eyed & tearful with the effort; he would not have made it home. A couple are walking past, giving it cats bum
mouths & looking at me as if I had just openly defecated on their living room floor.

When a boys gotta go, a boys gotta go right? WIBU?

OP posts:
Byeckerslike · 21/04/2012 12:12

YWNBU its not like you were doing it fgs! My ds is the same age and i would have done the same

Needingsomeadvice · 21/04/2012 12:13

YANBU Smile.

befuzzled · 21/04/2012 12:14

I have 3 boy and am afraid this is a necessity. As long as wees only, no toilets nearby and you do it discreetly into a public tree, bush, place with earth to absorb it I personally don't see the problem (but I am biased of course)

Mind you we were once forced to leave a large poo in the car park of Costco so my standards are low (sorry Costco)

Sassybeast · 21/04/2012 12:16

YABU. Mainly about being 'panicky' - which is obviously transferring itself to your son if he becomes tearful. You were 300 yards from home. Rather than going into a panic, relax, reassure him and walk home. If he has an accident, stay calm, reassure him and stop PANICKING.
Oh - and if you've just been to a cafe, get him to use the loo before you leave........

scarletforya · 21/04/2012 12:17

They were being u.

It's sometimes necessary. It's only the wee of a little child, it's biodegradable. Ignore them!

Sassybeast · 21/04/2012 12:17

Befuzzled - there are customer toilets in Costco..........

toofattorun · 21/04/2012 12:20

If it's OK for a dog to fucking well piss everywhere, then why is it not OK for a little boy? Just do what you have to do.
I have two boys and I carry about an empty mineral water bottle for them to wee in when they are desperate. I have had funny looks for that too. You can't win...

befuzzled · 21/04/2012 12:21

I know there are thank you it had just closed and they wouldn't let us pack in even though I'd just spent a couple of hundred pounds in there so, karma. Not that I am advocating pooing in public you understand.

No issue with a little boy widening in a bush though, really, life's too short.

befuzzled · 21/04/2012 12:22

Widdling!

SecretNutellaFix · 21/04/2012 12:23

You could have done what I saw a grown man doing and standing openly in the street behind my place of work and piss down a drain.

YANBU. Small boys are a markedly different case to grown man.

toofattorun · 21/04/2012 12:24

Sassy - 300yds is a long way for a little boy who is bursting to go for a wee. You would traumatise him more by not listening to him and letting him piss himself and have to walk the rest of the way home in clothes and shoes covered in urine.

nizlopi · 21/04/2012 12:25

I've been forced to do the same with my little boy in the past. When they announce they have to wee, you have a very short window I find xD

Sassybeast · 21/04/2012 12:26

Or you could take him to the toilet before you left the cafe Wink

nizlopi · 21/04/2012 12:27

Sassybeast - you sound mean.

moonstonezoe · 21/04/2012 12:29

YANBU

GetDownNesbitt · 21/04/2012 12:32

Yanbu

I definitely was BU when I let my five year old poo in the bushes on a country walk, I think - but we were at least twenty minutes from civilisation and it was exceptionally quick. He thought it was great fun.

Smellslikecatspee · 21/04/2012 12:35

It's only wee for Gods sake.

They were being prats.

WhiteTrash · 21/04/2012 12:39

YANBU, I clearly remember as a child having to go NOW NOW. Hes only just potty trained he'll be this way for a while. Sodd the CBM's!

halcyondays · 21/04/2012 13:14

Yanbu

Original poster
BellaOfTheBalls · 21/04/2012 13:26

I asked him before we left the cafe. Of course he said no and TBH I was relieved. The cafe is lovely and v family friendly but their toilets are not. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has done this on more than one occasion.

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BarredfromhavingStella · 21/04/2012 13:26

YANBU, when you gotta go, you gotta go!

myBOYSareBONKERS · 21/04/2012 13:27

My ds are 8 and 5 years and I still have the portable potty in the car and I pop it under the pushchair on days out. I also do the "wee in a juice bottle" thing too - very handy when standing in a long que for something!

PesosBandageBox · 21/04/2012 13:29

Neither of you were being unreasonable. Yes, when a boy's got to go, a boy's got to go but it doesn't mean that passersby have got to enjoy seeing it.

seeker · 21/04/2012 13:31

Of course this is ok. And you probably imagined the disapproval!

It is insane to say he should have wet himself rather than pee in a bush. Insane

Debeez · 21/04/2012 14:03

YANBU. Long as he's being discreet as you can manage and it's somewhere like trees or bushes for absorption purposes he's not hurting anyone. Agree with Seeker, wetting himself when he's still getting used to potty training would have been an insane thing to allow and won't do much for his confidence. Let him widdle when he has to, he'll learn to predict it better when he's older.