Who was BU? Me, or the cat's bum mouth couple?

[BellaOfTheBalls]

DS1 is almost 4 & was quite late to potty train so I am still slightly panicky. Today, exactly halfway between the cafe we have just left and our house he announces that he "needs a wee RIGHT NOW Mummy!". I hurry him up the road as fast as I can which is no mean feat with two bags of shopping and DS2 in his pram. I get as far as a big tree on a quiet street about 300yds from our house where he has a wee against the tree. There are no houses nearby, the tree is at tge entrance to a car park. He was cross eyed & tearful with the effort; he would not have made it home. A couple are walking past, giving it cats bum
mouths & looking at me as if I had just openly defecated on their living room floor.

When a boys gotta go, a boys gotta go right? WIBU?

I insist my ds1 who's nearly five "just has a try" if we're leaving a place or there's a loo before a long stretch without a loo.. even if he swears blind he doesn't need a wee - he normally does have one

I have read that if a child never experiences a full bladder it can cause problems with wetting? and that going when you dont really need to means you never have that full feeling?

I dont understand the fuss.
This was common practice when my DD and DS1 were little (nearly 20 years ago).
Nobody turned a hair.

Has it all changed then?

I have small children again. I wouldnt think twice about letting one wee outside if he needed to. I would be astounded if someone got all judgy.

You may be right "Amberleaf" but I think it's just a sensible precaution - he's at school for vast swathes of the day so plenty of time for him to manage his own bladder

Sorry, wrong formatting there - should have made your name bold there Amberleaf - didn't mean to put you in inverted commas as if I didn't believe you!

thats ok Smethwick, I knew what you meant.

i do the same thing smithwich well i suggest that they have a 'wee check' ie before a long car journey or when going out etc but tho my ds1 was very good at just going for a wee, my younger boys are very much 'wont go till busting types' s' but i do offer them the opportunity.

i am also in the anyone offended can take a running jump category tho.

I remember piddling on the hard shoulder of the motorway many a time as a little girl. My dad would rather risk swerving across 3 lanes of traffic and coming to a screeching halt on the hard shoulder than have a 4 year old piddle in his cortina, sometimes mum had one too