To get dd to pay for her own hair?

[mosschops30]

Me and dh normally pay as present or treat round birthday/xmas because she normally has a cut and colour (£75). But she wants it cut today so roughly £35-£40 unless she goes to a junior and might be a bit cheaper.
I cant afford to pay for it this month, have had to pay for full time childcare on a part time wage as i start new job on monday so thats £500 im down.

She has £40 easter money and £20 from babysitting but when i said she could use that she said 'thats all my money nearly gone then' . To which dh replied 'yes welcome to the world'!

So AIBU to make her pay for her own haircut today? My only other option is to put it on my ever expanding credit card

She does pretty well, i bought her some new converse for easter, plus eggs like everyone else.
She is a normal teen in that she only wants to go somewhere if theres something in it for her (like dinner out), otherwise she would rather stay home on her laptop.
Please dont think that she lives some dreadful life wearing clothes from bhs and shoes from shoe zone, because she is a little bit of a brat

Yes she is 15

Everyone saying "oh she should get a job, I was delivering coal at 5am when I was 7" might do well to a) read OP's post where she says her DD had a job and was allowed to give it up to concentrate on GCSEs and b) remember that it's now 2012 and legislation has made the jobs available to 15yos much fewer and further between.

What would be wrong with clothes from BHS?

You haven't got the money: she has more to spend on luxuries than you have for petrol. Tell her to pay for it herself if she wants it cut now.

In the circumstances I'm with your DH, get her to pay for it herself, she has the money, you don't.

FWIW I'd have loved to have gone to the hair dressers at her age but my parents could not afford it and neither could I. My mum cut my hair (thankfully, well) until I had a Saturday job at 16 and could pay for it myself. (Used to go approx every 6mths and I had mine layered and it looked surprisingly good as it grew out )

Easter Money?? Is this a new thing I have never heard of it!

Anyway YANBU she can pay for it. I paid for my hair when I was that age and working/ babysitting.

Im not saying there is anything wrong with clothes from bhs, but from dd pov this would be social suicide.
She likes warehouse, topshop, quicksilver etc etc
There are jobs here but she needed her NI card to apply

The real issue is whether you should pay for something you would normally pay for but at the moment can't afford.

Imo you should compromise. Find a cheap deal ( h/d students sometimes offer free or v heavily discounted cuts) and go halves. You both may end up paying only a tenner each or less.

It would be absolutely ridiculous to go into debt for a posh haircut for a teenager. I would either pay for a basic cut for her or ask her to pay just now and reimburse her when you are not so skint.

I think the point is, does her hair need desperately cutting right here right now? If the answer is no, then she pays as it it something she wants not needs. I often would like my haircut but really need, not often. I think she needs to understand we can't always have everything we want instantly. You could maybe offer to pay half, suggest getting just a wet cut. Or suggest she waits a couple of weeks until you can afford it. My dd always says can you pay for this or that but actually, I will pay for things she needs and treats on occasion.

I would tell her to pay for it herself today if she is so desperate to have her hair cut and that you will give her the money back when you have it.

She is 15 so imho you should be paying for it.

No one mentioned being teased so no need for the violins.
Dd is not the type to be teased about anythng

Look through your local paper and find someone to come to the house and cut it!
Think she does need a welcome to the real world. My eldest is off to uni, and boy will his priorities have to change!
I have three teens so know what they are like, but if you don't have the money, you don't have the money.

Have you decided what to do yet?

She reminds me of my niece. Before her sixteenth birthday her Facebook page was full of "I can't wait to be sixteen because I can get a job and do this and this and this..." and now it's full of "I hate being sixteen, you have to get a job and pay for everything yourself and it's rubbish..."

My brother said a similar thing to her as your DH did to your DD, welcome to the grown up world.

You can't pay if you don't have the money. It's a lesson we all have to learn and at least she has the choice of waiting until you can afford it or paying for it herself now. Don't feel bad OP.

I think youve hit the nail on the head there, her options are she waits until i can afford it, which will be another month.
If she wants it cut today then she will have to pay for it herself

Simples

Sorry if anyone has already suggested it, but what about offering to pay for her to get her haircut in a couple of weeks when you get paid, or if she doesn't want to wait, pay for it herself today? Pretty good choice, I reckon.