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Original poster

To not give ds a drink?

314 replies

BonkeyMollocks · 18/04/2012 20:37

Ds (4) is currently shouting from his bed that he wants a drink.

He has been offered water twice, which he has refused because he wants juice.

Apparently he is thirsty and now he wants daddy because daddy is normally a soft touch. I have banned daddy from speaking to him or going in there, because it will end with dh giving him juice just to shut him up, therefore making him not listen to me in the future and he will do it every night.

I am in a really shitty mood anyway and its not helping but dh thinks I should just give him some juice.
I think we should sit it out and let him cry it out.

He also did the same thing last night, he went to sleep eventually after 2 hours :(
AIBU to ignore him?

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BonkeyMollocks · 18/04/2012 23:36

I would have done exactly the same if I was high as a kite on happiness.

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Moominsarescary · 18/04/2012 23:36

I would only give water too, they have juice with meals and water inbetween.

curiositykitten · 18/04/2012 23:38

See, I'm even more unreasonable than the OP, as if my DC threw a tantrum over something like that, she'd not even have been given water. :o

CuriousMama · 18/04/2012 23:39

still here

fluffypillow do you not think your posts are rather patronising?

FlameProofNightie · 18/04/2012 23:43

Agree with Usual. Err, as per 'usual.'

dreamingbohemian · 18/04/2012 23:49

I agree with usual too.

Though I get around this problem by never giving DS juice at all. Just sugar water ain't it?

fluffypillow · 18/04/2012 23:54

No curiousmama, I don't, just giving my opinion. You obviously do though, please explain.

canitmaybe · 19/04/2012 00:00

sorry, I read the OP as the poster saying her bad mood was contributing to her decision on this too.

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BonkeyMollocks · 19/04/2012 00:05

I'm back

I was stating in my op that I was in a bad mood anyway and it wasn't helping.

By that I mean ds was not helping with my mood, not that he was making it worse. I would not ever take my mood out on my child.
I am sure my mood is down to my pill which I did a thread on earlier.

There's alot of people picking for a fight tonight....Hmm

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HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 19/04/2012 00:08

I can't see how Usual is to blame sorry, she said she'd have given the juice, and the others laid into her Confused

Well done Bonkey. Makes no difference to what'll be like as a teen, but you should have a few easier nights till he invents something else to try your patience Grin

canitmaybe · 19/04/2012 00:09

Its not about picking for a fight, i was defending the poster you are all jumping on, perhaps OP, you should accept that the initial post was badly worded instead of getting all defensive because people arent reading it the way you meant it.

fluffypillow · 19/04/2012 00:09

You started a thread in AIBU asking if you are bu not to give ds a drink. I, and some others think you are, and you think we're picking a fight?

really? Confused

canitmaybe · 19/04/2012 00:10

Oh and yes, YABU re your initial question, maybe not juice, but something nicer than water, a nice warm millky drink perhaps.

fluffypillow · 19/04/2012 00:12

Seems to me your ds may not be the only one you are taking your bad mood out on. BTW, I'm saving the Biscuit you gave me earlier for tomorrow, as I've just cleaned my teeth Grin

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BonkeyMollocks · 19/04/2012 00:12

He doesn't like milk Confused He is a water or juice boy!

fluffy I think you are making things out to be what they are not!

I welcome opinions, hence the AIBU thread.

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BonkeyMollocks · 19/04/2012 00:13

fluffy have the Biscuit then brush your teeth. It will go soft :(

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BonkeyMollocks · 19/04/2012 00:13

*brush you teeth again

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HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 19/04/2012 00:13

Milk is a no no too as bad for teeth a bed time as well.

canitmaybe · 19/04/2012 00:15

I agree with Fluffy.

canitmaybe · 19/04/2012 00:15

well dentist says DS has lovely teeth and he can see they are being looked after, so it isnt doing him any harm.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 19/04/2012 00:16

Anecdote is not the same as data Grin

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BonkeyMollocks · 19/04/2012 00:17

I'm giving up.

My leaving note will be IT WAS NOT ABOUT THE JUICE

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canitmaybe · 19/04/2012 00:18

In this house, thats a fact, I put it down to extended BF and the fact they mostly drink milk rather than juice/squash etc.

fluffypillow · 19/04/2012 00:20

I only had your OP to go by. I gave my opinion. Digging your heels in over something so trivial imo is not worth the fight. I have never let my Dc's go to bed crying, and that is the honest truth. There is always a reason if they are upset, even if they are just feeling insecure, or frightened for no particular reason.

Sorry, but everyone has their own way of doing things, and I don't agree with yours, anymore than you agree with mine. It's not personal.

CowboysGal · 19/04/2012 00:20

my DS is 2. Put to bed at 7.30. He wanted water at about 7-45 (got it) wanted a cuddle 2 minutes later (got it) wanted clean nappy 2 minutes later (got it although nappy was almost bone dry) wanted a toy from downstairs to cuddle (got it) this went on for almost an hour!
Next time I'm going for the Bonkey approach