vegan mum at kids party was rude?

[DoozerDrift]

Took DS to a young child's birthday party at soft play today, and there was a vegan mum with her DC there. When it came to cake time, there was no vegan cake, so the mum gave her DC a chocolate lollipop out of her bag.

OK, her DC seemed happy with the situation and asked to hosts to check what was and wasn't vegan. So no problem there I don't think (although I'll bet my bottom dollar they'll rebel and live on bacon sandwiches when they're old enough to ignore their mum!)

BUT AIBU to think that taking separate treats to a party is A) rude to the hosts and B) unfair to the other children at the party who might prefer what the vegan DC are eating?

YABU of course. And please do stop all this guff about feeling sorry for the child. It's not strengthening your case in any way.

You actually sent a message to the party mother saying you thought the other mother was odd?? FB really does seem to be pretty dire.

I've just dug out my vegan cake recipe to check what is instead of eggs. There is a bit of vinegar, some water and some olive oil. It is lovely ! HTH.

I just don't get WHY you would be annoyed though?

is it me or are there multiple weird threads everywhere at the moment?

You sent a message stating you thought the hosts friend was odd?

Do you have many friends, OP?

Dozer - how '1950s' is the place you live that just being a vegan is seen as 'really extreme'???

I guess then that you will not be inviting this child to your DC's birthday parties because of your intolerance.

I cannot believe how cheeky you were OP, Sending that FB message.

I think you're the odd one.

No, the DC won't be invited to my DS's parties because we don't know each other.

That was just a tiny bit of the Facebook message. I just said that I hadn't come across it before and thought it was odd. I asked if it had put her (the hostess out). She said it hadn't. We chatted about other things too!

YABU
Allergic DCs, diabetic DCs and Veggi DCs are going to be given things out of their Mums pockets, because it would be far ruder to expect the host to buy expensive alternative treats for all the guests.

Thank the good Lord! They are spared from your intolerance.

Sorry, just seen, you sent a message to the host slagging off another parent? Really, that was so rude.

So mum and child have no connection to you but you slag her off and then FB a message to her friend slagging her?

even more and a lot

I didn't slag her off. I'm paraphrasing massively, to get to the point.

How on earth could it have possible put the host out?? You were trying to get her to join in with you to slag her off.

yabu unreasonable i have plenty of friends that do this as they are vegetarian or their kids have allergies, at ds4' party recently i checked with a friend as i know her ds is allergic and made sure the biscuits i got where ones he could eat and she provided a little cake to go in his party bag as he couldnt eat the birthday cake, it didnt bother me at all, why on earth should it!

Wow. You're odd. Do you get out much? Or do you only know people exactly like you? I cannot imagine another reason why you would think being a vegan is strange. It's not like the kids only allowed to eat white food that's greater than 6cm in diameter is it?

Sounds like the vegan DM did absolutely everything she possibly could to make her choices painless for others. She brought spare snacks, warned the hosts etc. Should your AIBU really read, "AIBU for thinking vegans are weird and not liking them?"?

Newsflash: Mum brings own treat to party so host doesn't have to go to trouble to find something suitable for restricted diet.

It's none of your fucking business whether it put the host out, or not. Butt out!