To have secretly giggled at overhearing daughter's swearing

[localyokel]

Eldest daughter's got a couple of friends over for a sleep over, and they're all up in her room armed with duvets, chocolate and a DVD. As I walked past her room I heard them all in fits of giggles and she said that her friend was a 'fucking dozy cunt' at which point the friend responded that she didn't have a 'dozy cunt' and they all started giggling again. They would be mortified if they knew I'd overheard them but for some reason it just made me giggle, is that really bad?

I don't find the words particularly offensive or shocking, and I don't think that your 15 year old swearing makes you a bad parent at all; but I don't find it particularly funny either. Sorry.

Yes local, you should have stood outside the bedroom door and pulled this face.

If you had, this would have prevented your DD from holding up petrol stations at knifepoint, which she is now bound to do.

I would personally be horrified if I heard my DD say that so casually.

There's swearing, and there's swearing and to me, that's pretty strong and believe me, I fucking love swearing

I would certainly not find it something to giggle about or be proud of!

I imagine she's heard it from her mates, as most teenagers do. It doesnt mean for a second she's heard that kind of language at home.

If she's 15 I imagine she has heard all manner of swear words at school and from other children she knows. Not so interesting.

All this haughtiness is making me want to fucking shit my Cunt off be all naughty

Come on blapbird, don't be
Unreasonable.
Naughtiness is not what's called for here.
That would just be childish.

Didn't we all swear at 15? I know I did. Wouldn't have dared in public or in front of an adult but it's a normal rite of passage, trying to be grown up in front of your friends. I very rarely swear now.

Dd2 ran downstairs last night and whispered "willies" through the door then ran back up to dd1 shouting to dd1 "I said it. I said it". DH and I pissed ourselves laughing.

You're right, just orf to say my prayers

D0oinMeCleanin that is so cute! Please remind them of it when they're older

YABU. If you don't say anything they won't think twice about making a habit of it.

D0oinMeCleanin that is just too cute and funny!

OP cunt is a stronger swear word and some find it too much I suppose.

But I remember having a sleepover for my 15th birthday after watching Titanic at the cinema and remember my friends and I (Leo DiCaprio fans) calling Kate Winslet a ''cow'' and a ''bitch'' just cos she snogged Leo.

Of course, my sons will never swear.
You're such a bad parent.

Ok, so at what age does it become more 'acceptable' to swear, and hands up anybody who's never said fuck or cunt in a private conversation

I would prefer cunt to .... flange

Now I'm really bad 'cos flange has made me giggle too

i'll take your flange and raise you a 'clunge' inbetweeners style

At 15 I was swearing like a trooper with my friends, though never around adults or anyone I didn't know. It's a normal part of growing up. I swear very rarely now.

It's one of those weird parts of parenting where you come across a behaviour that you're not actually that bothered by because it's normal but you have to come down on it because you don't want to be seen to condone it.

Or you could just pretend you didn't hear it.

I don't use cunt very often at all. The few times I have said it, I thought my friends were going to pass out in shock.
Fuck? I use it far more frequently but again, not enough to stop people from being very surprised when I do.

However- they thought they were having a private conversation. As I pointed out earlier, how often do those private conversations take place in a public location?

Just because it is a "private conversation" doesn't mean that other people can't hear what you are saying. I really don't like passing conversations which are quite clearly peppered with bad language, but you just can't avoid it apparently.

I would and have had conversations about swearing and about what certain swear words represent and why some are more offensive than others though.

What business is it of anybody else what 2 people say to each other in a private conversation, wherever it occurs and provided it's not at a volume designed to be overheard?

localyokel i was going to make this point. fifteen year olds are entitled to private conversations too...what is said in them isn't really anyones business

I'm taking back the word cunt. I don't see it as a disgusting word and I use it. Why is that word worse that fuck? Which isn't a nice term for what it means. Like Jimmy Carr said, and I loosely paraphrase, when you swear, your aren't trying to be polite.

So op, i found it funny. The banter, not the phrase. I swear a lot, never to my parents or anyone who is bothered by it. Although i explain my ideas behind the word cunt to everyone who objects to it

I quite enjoy a bit of cunt every now and again.

A well-placed cunt often brightens up conversation, imo.