To be surprised that people are judged by the clothes they wear?

[JustGiveMeTheWine]

Myself and DP went to do our weekly shop last night in the local supermarket.
We had both been to work then I went to the gym, he went running. By the time we finished it was getting quite late so decided to just go in our tracksuits then shower and change when we get back home.
We regularly shop in this supermarket so never gave it a moments thought until last night.
From the moment we walked in the security guard looked at us and got straight on his radio, then the whole time we were in there the staff seemed to be milling around us. Got to the checkout and the lady who served us didn't even speak until she wanted payment.
Then we went to the customer service desk (they had an offer on if you spend over a certain amount you can get disney cards for the little ones) only to be ignored! The lady actually looked at us then carried on talking to her mate!
By this time I was frothing at the mouth!

Did they think we were chav's intending to steal something just because we were wearing tracksuits???

I cared at the time bejeezus

Only because I shop there alot so to get different service because I was in gym clothes surprised me a bit!

hahahaha, kizmitt that was hilarious

Whenever I see someone wearing a suit in work wearing a ID badge I make myself look busy instead of sitting on my arse doing nothing!

They are not politicians but the executives but I still regard them as dishonest, lying cheating individuals! Men and women!

NO sock- in response to OP
didnt read most of rest of thread - sorry

but-do you care?

I think it is easy to perceive things wrongly- a little example;

was in Primark with my husband trailing along behind me, whilst I went round and round the shop. Queued up at tills to pay; women being served in front of me was kicking up a fuss and shouting at cashier. I tuned in and heard her complaining that she didnt like being treated like a criminal, it is obvious he is a bloody store-detective and hes been following her round the shop--Then I realised she was pointing at and talking about my husband (big and black, so obviously !!!(who was loitering behind the queing area). I stepped forward and told her that he wasnt a store detective, that he was my husband and he was with me, not following her. She wouldnt have it and maintained that he was a store detective and she was being treated like a shop lifter!!!

obviously- this doesnt apply to OPs situation, but perceptions huh?!
maybe OP has a guilty conscience??? did you rob summat OP?

Bejeezus

Had your husband realised what was happening or was he out of
Earshot ?

Bejeezus-You should have acted along shouting "Just hand the goods back, you chavtastic, tracksuit wearing, theif!!! Before I call the cops, and don't show your face around here no more!"

Bejeezus

No didn't rob anything although I did rob a 10p sherbet stick once when I was about 9 yrs old and felt so guilty I told my mum so she grounded me!

Maybe its karma!

Kayano

no-he was out of earshot-totally oblivious!

bejeezus and lurking

I wish I had lurking

I was too agog at the time!
And cross at the racial undertone of the situation

and a bit scared of scarey shouty lady (who probably had her pockets stuffed with stolen knickers!)

bejeezus, I cared at the time because I was in agony and couldn't get painkillers because the owner thought I was a ned, forgot about it though after I eventually managed to get some Nurofen somewhere else

Generally, and noticeably:

• when I am in a suit, usually for work, I am addressed as 'sir'.
• when in tee-shirt and jeans, I am 'mate'.

When I am in fact neither!

odd.

I bloody hate when people call you mate at work

I've noticed it a lot recently. When I had my first child I went back to work outside the home, so often attended medical appointments and what not wearing a smart suit & shoes etc. I was spoken to like a reasonably intelligent human being. With my second child, I work from home so usually in jeans and a parka. I am spoken down to and patronised by doctors, shop assistants, health visitors etc SO much. I really don't think I come across as stupid either.

Some people are just rude though. Maybe the bearer of Disney Cards would have ignored you regardless OP.

I'm afraid the only time I wear the wrong clothes is when i go to work. The internal emotional pain it causes me, a fashion graduate who once worked in industry, to don a polyester work uniform. The shame

A few years ago I was on JSA and my signing time was 9am. I struggled to get up that early so I'd typically put my hair in a ponytail and wear trackie bottoms, a hoodie, Converse and carry a rucksack.

One morning, I had an interview for later that day so went to the JC in a suit, heels and nice handbag. The difference in how I was treated was astonishing!

I think the suit conveyed to them that I was serious about looking for work and not just a 'dole-scrounger'.

After the interview, I spent the rest of the day in town, went to the council office, the bank and mooched round the shops. It's hard to explain, but people reacted to me differently - I felt on 'a par with' the rest of society.

i found the only times i was called mate in work was when the person was about to ask me to do something they knew i wouldn't want to do.

the only time i was called sir i was wearing jeans and flat boots with a regatta jacket on. i am female

So on the one hand, it's naive to think people don't judge others on their appearance. But on the other hand, many of us have been unfairly judged when someone else has found our appearance not to their taste.

Yes, some people do judge on appearances. But that doesn't mean it's a good thing or that we shouldn't try to be less superficial.

i also think this is shit, i find if i go out looking shit, scruffy clothes, hair tied up etc, i get doors slammed in my face, noone talks to me, if i look nice people chat and smile and hold doors open etc.

all beacuse i look smarter

im still the same person

doh,so don't go out looking shit then

Or don't give a toss what other people think.

"there really is no excuse to look as though you have only been out of bed for 10 minutes."

Why not? People are allowed to look any way they like, without being concerned about other people's bitchy opinions. Thoughtfulness and consideration to others should definitely not depend on looks.

Sadly I've found that one advantage to not looking overly fashionable or smart is that it soon sorts out who's a nice person and who isn't, just by the way they react to you :(

And how do you know, if you've just met someone, whether they are depressed, ill, a major life event occurred? I've had to go out when feeling unwell before, and was not too pleased on one occasion when some idiot stranger walking by took it upon himself to make a negative remark about my appearance

Or shock horror maybe some people just have no interest in fashion and makeup? It doesn't make them under-groomed, it should be the normal default to look as we naturally do :)