To be surprised that people are judged by the clothes they wear?

[JustGiveMeTheWine]

Myself and DP went to do our weekly shop last night in the local supermarket.
We had both been to work then I went to the gym, he went running. By the time we finished it was getting quite late so decided to just go in our tracksuits then shower and change when we get back home.
We regularly shop in this supermarket so never gave it a moments thought until last night.
From the moment we walked in the security guard looked at us and got straight on his radio, then the whole time we were in there the staff seemed to be milling around us. Got to the checkout and the lady who served us didn't even speak until she wanted payment.
Then we went to the customer service desk (they had an offer on if you spend over a certain amount you can get disney cards for the little ones) only to be ignored! The lady actually looked at us then carried on talking to her mate!
By this time I was frothing at the mouth!

Did they think we were chav's intending to steal something just because we were wearing tracksuits???

well somedays i just cant be arsed to spend time looking nice.

i don't really care what others think. but it does irk getting doors slammed in your face

Me neither, tinymouse

Didn't you know tinymouse, you're just not an acceptable person if you are not fake-tanned, with uncomfortable high heels, a size 10 figure, shoulder-length brown hair, trousers the correct length, uniform plucked brows, two "colourful" accessories, "natural" makeup which looks anything but, an unnecessarily decorative bag and a "bubbly" personality!

God forbid you should just be casually dressed and down-to-earth, and expect anyone to hold a door open for you just because you're a human being!

"there really is no excuse to look as though you have only been out of bed for 10 minutes."

what if you have only been out of bed ten minutes?

it's all good and well to say 'get up earlier' but for some that is actually really hard. i'm thinking night shift workers, parents being kept awake by children who dont sleep well, illness, stress, insomnia and i'm sure there are loads more valid reasons why someone would look like they just got up ten minutes ago, and TBH the fact that the look like that is probably the least of their worries.

I dont care if people dont wear make up, wear trackies or look scruffy or whatever.

I did get called a snob on nuthunz for thinking it was a bit off to wear your pjs to tescos though.

One has to draw the line somewhere.

People certainly judge.

When I was in my early 20's, very thin, tan and blonde, wearing oh-so-cool shredded jeans and Hollister tee I was visiting my fiancee at the university where he worked and went to school. I went to a presentation on Jeanette Winterson and stayed to talk the the quirky/arty professor afterward.

She could not have been more cold or dismissive to me. And when it became clear that I actually was aware of Winterson's work, it was worse. Sort of like, "how dare you?" It was all very odd.

Now that I am no longer thin or tan or blonde and wear jeans and hoodies, I am judged in an entirely different way. I just can't wear "smart" clothes, I look and feel desperately uncomfortable.

Ah well, luckily I'm a happy sort and don't give a shit

Agincourt
I'm used to being judged on what I wear - years of 'what do you think it is, Hallowe'en?' as a teenager gets you into the habit - but I wasn't prepared for being judged on my DD's pushchair. If I wore pjs and fluffy bunny slippers into town of a weekend but pushed a Bugaboo, I would get approving smiles from all and sundry. As it is, if I wear jeans, a t-shirt and an OK-looking jacket, yet push DD in a (ahem) probably third-or-fourth-hand pushchair that is a bit scruffy round the edges, I get evil stares. Go figure.

I can hand on heart say I never judge people by the way they look.I'm in a minority I know.

You are naive if you think what people wear and how they physically present themselves reveals a true reflection of their personality and what they are like

It is very easy to impress some women- nice shoes, dress and handbag reduces some women to fawning like 9 year old girls. I takes neither skill, class or charisma to go into a shop and buy these. I never have met someone really interesting and charismatic who is interested in clothes. I have always felt it is how the dull express themselves. Maybe lacking in personality and have to depend on clothes 'to do the talking'. Quite judgemental of me I know, but I'm still waiting to met the person to change that opinion.

I like meeting people and being with people with a bit more depth and edge.

I make an effort when I feel like it and know I can look as well as the next woman scrubbed up. However,I do it on my terms, when I feel like it.

Some of the time, I feel like wearing casuals and trackie bottoms. If you look at me, and make snap judgements about my personality from how I look, then that is your perogative. I really dont care. I am secure enough in who I am to not give a shit.

If you are fickle and foolish enough to judge me by my appearance, then I really don't give a damn about your opinions.

don't believe you
we all consciously and unconsciously judge clothes, demeanor,accent
so protest all you wish,knock yourself out,but nope you're fibbing

have you never thought a bride looked nice?
or colleague new hair cut was flattering?
never complimented anyone on nice bag/shoes/coat?

do you know what? i think most people WITH an accent, do NOT judge others with one but that depends what you mean by accent

I'm bit unobservant to be honest. My sister had dyed her hair platinum blond and I chatted to her for half an hour until she had to point it out to me.

No, never compliment people on nice bag/ shoes/ coat. Number one usually dont notice and number two, hate when people compliment me on things like that. I have done many things in my life I am incredibly proud of - talk to me and compliment me on those by all means. I love that - very flattering!!

But no, buying stuff not up there with my proudest moments

still don't believe you
I didn't ask you if spending was your finest moment.
however I dont believe you've never looked at someone and had a reaction,a thought,about their appearance
you've constructed an answer and a frame of reference to explain oh gosh how unbothered you are by mere fripperies like appearance.which paradoxically screams you are bothered,and going to considerable effort to deny it

(n) I am usually too tired
(o) I am usually worried about the bread delivery coming when i have to open the shop up, there is usually already a queue
(p) oh feck it, silly suzanne hasn't got her hair tied up, her hair is purple again and she has no name badge...shit the bread delivery is here
(q) ...phone rings....someones food delivery didn't turn up yesterday...

refer to original post scottishmummy
Im secure enough in who I am to not give a shit of others opinions. Apart from those who I love and respect.
Believe me or disbelieve me at your will. Makes little difference to me!

If someone judged me or spoke to me like I was beneath them due to the clothes I wear or the way I speak , I would think they were the ones with the problem.

Fair enough we all might judge , doesn't make it right though.

Some people can't help being shallow and ignorant.

I assume that someone who looks down on someone else because they don't wear the right clothes is shallow , don't you?

judgements aren't necessarily wrong,but we all judge.consciously or unconsciously.

we make favorable judgements about clothing,and aspects of it we find reassuring too.as we have expectation of clothing and what clothes are appropriate for given situation. I expect a solicitor to be dressed smartly,and not in Birkenstock and jeans - now not casting aspersion on ability but I expect a certain attire

there was research amongst public what attire did they expect GP and hospital Doctors to wear, overwhelmingly respondents stated smart attire

clothes matter,we all make judgements. both favorable and unfavourable

"I'm amused by the assertion that if you like to look well groomed you must ergo be shallow, dull and have no charisma "

It's the same school of thought that says if you have a fancy wedding (or any sort of wedding at all other than 10 minutes down the registry office followed by a Greggs pasty) then you are shallow, stupid, a bridezilla and don't know the meaning of love and will be divorced before the year is out. There's a lot of it about on Mumsnet.

Well, I think that Jajas has a reasonable point. If I saw someone with uncleaned teeth, unbrushed hair and an unwashed face (and I hadn't just got them out of bed) I would be a little concerned for their well-being.