to think this was an ott reaction??

[amibu]

I've namechanged for this.
I went to someones house a few days back,
my DS was unfortunately very overtired , hyper and it had been a long day and his dummy had been misplaced which was making calming it down very difficult. He had an incident with a glass coaster which luckily didnt break when I'd tried to get it off him.
He wanted to colour in the living room but wasnt allowed.
I was trying to get him to sit down when one of the women said;

'I'm not being funny but don't let him touch anything or jump on the chairs I've worked really hard for what I've got!'

I was a bit embarassed and shocked, I didnt respond at all. another person did apologise for the behaviour as the whole room fell silent.

AIBU to feel a bit humiliated by this comment when it appeared obvious I was trying to calm a little monster down?

Whoops unconttollable, must watch literacy skills!

Aaaaarrrrrgh iPhone autocorrect lol uncontrollable - what the hell is unconttollable anyway, must email Apple Lol

Yea you were the unreasonable one. If he was badly behaved once and then continued to be badly behaved to the extent that he was inside cupboards and pissing off the host, you weren't trying hard enough.

I was picking him up and he kept wriggling free I was trying my best , like I said its not as if I just sat and let him run wild.

and I did apologise.

but yeah I'll just chalk it up to experience, surely there was no need to be so nasty, I never have been when a young child has broken my things.

She was so rude I would have walked out and then rung for a taxi, tbh.

Yanbu. Toddlers are hard work at times, you were invited and the woman sounds like a miserable old wind bag with no social skills or imagination. I would have taken him off for a biscuit and tried to find an activity for him and then made you a cup of tea because the toddler years are bloody hard.

YABU.

You should have taken him out and strapped him in the carseat, asking your host to let your DP that you needed to leave NOW. And make sure you have stash of spare dummies in every avaialble storage place....

Yes, OP, you should have had gaffer tape in your changing bag for such an eventuality.

Sassybeat, I understand your sentiment but with what keys?
its not my car?

plus I think we've all ben in that sit. where you dont wanna make more of a scene.

I wasn't suggesting you asked any random person for their car keys
I wrongly assumed that your family had arrived at the house in your family car.

aimbu.
I came back to read this thread. I was one of the people who thought YANBU, but can I just say I'm a little at your comment on Rhino's literacy skills. Her comment was strong, but didn't merit an ad hominem attack back.

The woman who's house you were in was rude, but this is just as rude. Please take care, literacy is not something to be sneered at.

This reminds me why I don't invite toddlers to my house. Once your children are grown up and you get out of the habit of toddler proofing everything this sort of behaviour is very stressful.

Some toddlers will sit angelically and listen to a story or play with a few toys. Most won't at the best of times, let alone when tired.

I would hate anyone climbing on my chairs in shoes or looking in cupboards.

I think the lady of the house had forgotten the realities of toddlers and OP you should have declined the visit. You know what he's like when he is tired.

Can I also add that I don't believe in toddler proofing either for the simple reason it's often not the obvious things that cause problems, but the things you don't even realise could be a problem (glass coasters etc).
But I do believe in politeness (and this lady wasn't) and trying to assist parents who are struggling.

the OP was given no choice (I would have been annoyed with my DP actually if he had put me in this situation) in her visit, and she was doing her best to quiet a fractious and struggling toddler. How can you say the OP was allowing her child (little prince also rude) to run riot?

I can feel the injustice of her comment when you were clearly not sitting back and letting him be a terror, I think that is why it has got under your skin - that she didn't recognise that the threat of damage was being mitigated by a conscientious mum.
It does sound like she was on edge and finding it stressful though, so can understand her worry - she might have wanted to phrase it less harshly though and maybe regretted her words after you had gone and she reflected how harassed you must have been.
Or she has just made a mental note not to invite you again. Oh dear.

As I said (politely) earlier, before it was deleted (I can't for the life of me work out why), I can see fault on both sides.

Sauvignon, I read your post before it was deleted, can't remember it exactly but I'm surprised it's been deleted, there was nothing contentious/insulting/personal in it.

Sauvignon Maybe the mods were just a bit trigger happy with the delete button.

Thanks WhereYouLeftIt, I was beginning to think I'd gone mad and was randomly posting abuse then forgetting I'd done it.
I don't know how I broke the Talk Guidelines, I'd better re-read them as they've clearly been changed.