to want to keep my new baby healthy?

[BabyBoyBlues]

I am a new mum, had DS two weeks ago. My family and I are close, but DH's aren't. My family have been to visit us with DS, as has DH's mum, but DH and I have agreed not to let his brother, who has small children, come and see DS until he's a bit older, because we don't want him to catch any germs. BIL and his family live abroad, and are visiting this month, then going back, not likely to be back until Christmas. MIL thinks we're being really OTT.
Am I being over protective? DS is so small and not vaccinated yet, I just don't want to risk anything.

Congratulations on your baby. I know he is precious but yabu. Sorry.

yes, you are being over protective and rather ridiculous to be completely honest with you

what will you do if you ever have a second child? not let the older one anywhere near the new baby

Are you breastfeeding? If you are, you're passing all your antibodies onto him, so he will be more resiliant than you think. I think YABU.

you are being very ott

yabu, but congratulation on youe ds

Are you serious or will this be a reverse AIBU?

If you are serious, YES, yes you are being totally unreasonable. Are you planning on having any more children after DS? Will you send DS away for a few months after having another baby so he can't contaminate them? I can understand the pfb new/first baby thing but really this is only going to piss off your DH's family and for no good reason either.

Congratulations btw

Yes am BFing

YABU.

Congrats but sorry, YABU. It is natural to not want to expose your baby to dangers, but unless your BIL and family have some contagious diseases, it is OTT. It is not healthy to keep a baby cooped up at home.

It's a wonderful thing when you have your first baby and you are right to want to keep him healthy. But yabu sorry, what do you think might happen?

Congrats. but yes, you speak only OTT madness

YABU, I didn't realise children harboured any more dangerous germs than adults.

come on - YABU - congrats on the new arrival xxx

YABVVVU!! Your mum can also carry germs too you know!

Are you planning on not going out at all for months at a time? Not accept deliveries? Is the whole family going to stay inside? Is your husband not working?

Because all of these are ways your baby will catch illnesses.

YABU

Totally and utterly OTT.

Yes, def OTT. Even if you never let your baby leave the house for six months for fear of catching something, how do you know you will not catch something yourself and pass it on to him? Adults catch germs, kids catch germs, it is a fact of life and generally not serious.

Sorry, I think you are being a bit OTT.

It is unlikely your DS will catch anything he is going to be vaccinated against. The most likely thing he will catch is a cold. Which has nothing to do with vaccinations, and which he may catch at a supermarket or anywhere else you take him. Or indeed off one of you, if you go out and mix with others and bring one home to him.

It's crap when you have a poorly young baby (mine had her first cold a 3 weeks) but you won't do him any favours in the long run by isolating him. Kids need exposure to germs to build up immunity. And if you are BF then he will gain some measure of protection from that.

More important is to allow the child to become part of his family, his while family. That will serve him better in the long run than an extra week or two cold-free.

Yes, you are being over protective. Think about this logically. The vaccinations are against illnesses like whooping cough, diptheria, tetanus, meningitus, polio etc etc so unless you think your nieces and nephews are carrying these diseases the fact your DS isn't vaccinated really doesn't matter.

Why keep small children away but not other adults? They are no more 'germ ridden' than the adults around them, children get colds etc more frequently because they are still building up immunity to germs that adults already have immunity to. The adults are still carrying those germs.

How do you think people with more than one child cope? Their younger children are still kept healthy despite having older siblings.

You are being a little but precious, sorry. No vaccine will protect your child from snotty noses and coughs. How did you imagine subsequent children cope with older siblings around them from birth?

Having said all that, you have a beautiful newborn baby so you are entitled to be as loopy as you like .

congratulation

But

YABVU and OTT ridiculous

holding pfb who is 5 weeks old

Congratulations :)

Sorry to say, but YABU - blame it on the hormones!! If they were ill, fair enough, but not if they are well!!

Yeah, sorry yabu. Babies are tough little critters and you should let DHs family see your ds, he will be fine!

I assume your BIL and his family are ebola-carriers? Or maybe ridden with black-death infected fleas?

Congratulations but you can't put him in a germ proof bubble!

Unless the children (or anyone else) is ill then go about life as normal, you will just make things harder for yourself if you worry about the what ifs which aren't really in your control.