to want to keep my new baby healthy?

[BabyBoyBlues]

I am a new mum, had DS two weeks ago. My family and I are close, but DH's aren't. My family have been to visit us with DS, as has DH's mum, but DH and I have agreed not to let his brother, who has small children, come and see DS until he's a bit older, because we don't want him to catch any germs. BIL and his family live abroad, and are visiting this month, then going back, not likely to be back until Christmas. MIL thinks we're being really OTT.
Am I being over protective? DS is so small and not vaccinated yet, I just don't want to risk anything.

Should be his whole family.

Sorry, but that sounds very PFB to me, unless you know the kids have chickenpox or similar. You will not stop your baby getting occasional colds, and if you did how would they build up their immune systems? Bonding with extended family is important.

Of course, if your dh is in agreement then you can do what you like, and maybe you have other reasons for not wanting your bil to visit. But YABU for banning a visit because of germs.

Bonkers. You both sound bonkers.

Congrats but yes YABVU & ridiculous. Do you plan on not going out at all?

Sorry yabu. I understand you want what's best though. Have you had too many visitors and are feeling overwhelmed? By the time your baby is about 3 months you will probably look back at this post and laugh and cringe a little too. I know your newborn seems so tiny and precious but babies are much more resilient than we think. Cut down on other visitors who can be fobbed off until later and let dh's family visit. If it was your family and your nieces and nephews would you feel the same?

Good luck and congrats!

ridiculous, sorry!

How are you generally feeling about the baby can I ask? feeling anxious about anything else "harming" your baby?

Congratulations!

YAB a bit U - it's just a fact of life that babies will get ill and get colds and sniffles. It's just a part of life and will help them be healthier, fitter and stronger in the long run. I was a bit worried when my dad came back from Africa and held my 12 week old son so I know how you feel but me boy was fine.

You have a wonderful opportunity for your family to see your beautiful baby son before they go away for ages so seize it -show him off and be a happy, proud mummy. It'll be a great experience that you'll all treasure

Unless potential visitors are actually ill, or your DS has problems with his immune system, YABU.

Let them come over. It will be fine. Your reaction is overly anxious.

I notice your NN is BabyBoyBlues. If things are getting you down don't struggle on alone. and if you're feeling delicate aibu might not be the place to share your worries.

Congratulations!

YABU. On the plus side, in a few years you will laugh until your sides ache as you remember this.

Its probably best to allow him exposure to other humans and to allow his immunity to build up rather than keeping him in a bubble and then unleashing him into a world of germs with no adaptive immunity. The same goes for allowing him to go to the shop/park/friends house alone, its best done in baby steps starting when he is young rather than waiting until you can no longer contain him and he spills naively into nightclubs.

yabu

Oh, name was because I was keen to have a girl, but totally in love with DS and glad about him being a boy now, but haven't changed my name. I'm not anxious or anything, don't worry. :) Thanks though.

Your poor BIL! How sad for him that he won't get to see his nephew until he's nine months old!

Can you identify why you are so worried? You will need to take your little boy out into the world, and he will come in contact with other people, you can't avoid it.

How about asking just BIL and not the kids? Would that be OK?

Sorry another agreeing that yabu.

Are you planning on leaving the house at any time this month? What about your dh going to work. The health visitor coming? Getting him weighed?

Basically unless you intend staying in indefinitely, it is pretty much inevitable that your ds will pick up airborne virus, a cold or something at some point in the months to come. this is supposed to happen. Building a healthy immune system and all that, while partially protected by your antibodies.

I can see where your MiL is coming from.
PFB much?

Are you keeping your DS indoors until his first vaccinations?

I stil think that it is a little ott to be barring the children (ds's cousins) from visiting. They'll be excited and they're also family.

It would be incredibly tactless OP. I'd be really upset if someone suggested this, as if the implication was that they were somehow dirty or so badly behaved they couldn't be trusted around a baby.

No it wouldn't be ok.

Kids need to be exposed to
Some germs! Other peoples
Kids are not lepers

No I still don't think that's ok at all. What should I do with my 2 sons when dd is born in June?

Send them away for 6 months?

YABU. Your BIL lives abroad and you are going to deny him the chance to meet his DN.

I'm glad to hear you feel ok.

If it makes you feel better my DB used cooled boiled water to clean DN's bottom for the first few months . And told us all to bugger off when we laughed at him.

Go on-let them over. There will be heaps pf cute photo opportunities.

Sorry, that should read 'if someone suggested this to me about my children'.

No it wouldnt be ok to not ask the kids.

As has been mentioned before, what will you do if you have another baby?

And exposing him to normal bacteria is how he will build up his immune system so actually keeping him away from other children will be very bad for him and just ensure that he gets every bug going twice as bad when he goes to school or nursery.

I have 6 kids, and when the youngest was born she was fine despite being breathed all over and cuddled and kissed by her siblings!