AIBU to want a fucking reply when I text!!! Rant needed.

[CrapBag]

There is a large group of us who are friends. There is only 1 out of the whole lot that I can rely on to text back at all. I always reply, even if I am unable to do it straight away, I will at the next available opportunity.

I find it rude tbh. It doesn't take more than a minute. It will often be a question as well. Last night I sent out a group text to 10 of my friends. I got 2 replies. Today I sent 12 about an activity for next week. I have had 3 replies. I know I won't get any more than that. I know that when I see them and ask "did you get my message" it will be the usual "oh yeah, I meant to reply to that". The same excuse every single fecking time.

And it isn't me, my other friend says the same and will often text me as she can rely on an answer.

Does anyone else think it is rude? And if you are one of those who don't reply, seriously - its irritating. Just take a minute from your day to answer, particularly when its asking a question.

Before anyone says about not communicating by text, it is the easiest way when you are trying to organise group activities.

If it is a general
"hi, how are you"
or
"Whats up?"

I never reply. I think it is rude to text like that, as I feel it forces me to pick up the phone and call them, or give a lengthy time consuming reply.

It is like a "Oi, remember me, I am alive, I am need, I need you to acknowledge me"

So I cant be bothered.

If it is something like "Hey quint, not seen you in a while, keen to go for coffee?"
Or, "Trying to arrange a night out, are you free monday or friday next week for dinner, let me know" I will ALWAYS reply asap.

YANBU I find it incredibly rude. If, of course, there's been no emergency or other urgent situation to contend with

No, I don't expect a reply text within nanoseconds of receiving it but a reply, at some point, yes. Even if it's the day after. Possibly with a "sorry for late reply but yes, I can make Sat night" etc etc.

I'm one of those that will respond if I get it when I'm not busy but if I am busy I'll forget

Well Quint I texted someone that at 6.30...hey, how are you. What's up?

No reply at all so far. The fecker had called ME about 5 minutes earlier but I hadn't been able to talk so I'd pressed 'busy'. Thought it was polite of me to text back but there you go...

Maybe I will never know what he was going to ask! Oh well.

YABU. Just because you send me a text doesn't mean I'm obliged to answer, and its rude of you to expect it.

Hi crapbag I'm worried now that you actually are my acquaintance friend who is always
sending group texts about nights out that SHE fancies but no one else can be arsed with but are all far too polite to tell her to feck off and stop organising everyone else's bloody life getting upset with us because we don't respond to her millionth text this week straight away!
tbh she is massively annoying and I really wish she's get the hint that i'm just not that into her

In that case I'd want to answer, so I would. But this idea that one should answer each and every text, preferably within 42 seconds...its ridiculous. Texting me gives me the option of replying to you, not an obligation.

If lots of people don't answer when you text them, I'd be asking yourself why that is, and not automatically assuming the problem is with them.

it is if I don't want to reply to you for whatever reason.

I've posted about this before too.

I don't mind if people don't look at their phones much, have them switched off, too busy at work etc - fair enough. But what irritates me is people who are on facebook all the time on their phone, telling the world what they had for tea and what cafe they're currently visiting and what sort of mood they're in, but just can't bring themselves to reply to a text from a friend.

I think it is rude not to reply to a text from a friend - it's a bit of a snub intentional or otherwise. Must admit though it can take me until the next day to respond

I think it is very rude not to reply within 24 hours or so.

I think it's nice to reply the same day a text is recieved. That's what I try to do anyway. If the matter is urgent, I'll respond more urgently though.

Seriously everlong - within an hour ? I can go for days hours without looking for my mobile phone. Particularly if I'm at home. If someone needs me, I'd expect them to ring my home number. People who have my mobile number know this.

One of the things I cannot abide is going out for lunch or whatever with someone, and then a text comes in, and they answer the flipping text!

YAB a little U, because no response at all is very rude indeed

Just because you send me a message it doesn't mean I hav to reply.
I am a very busy woman - and I don't like being attached to my phone !

I really dislike being sent texts and hardly ever reply straight away. I think it's intrusive and tend not to have my phone on all the time because it's a constant interruption!.

If you're inviting people to an event and want an instant reply, call them.