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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think that parents that let their ds pull their pants down and pee in the street are just training them to pee anywhere they want when their older

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 21:53

I get really annoyed by parents that let their ds piss anywhere they want as soon as they need the loo. I once spotted someone letting their son pee up a tree in the communal gardens to my flat. I thought you would kill him if he was caught doing that when he's older and drunk. So why train him to do it now.

AIBU

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cambridgeferret · 27/03/2012 22:27

I had a wee in a rockpool once. Probably not very eco friendly though.
In my defence I was only about 5.
My dds have bladders of steel though. Unlike me. :(

Shakey1500 · 27/03/2012 22:28

You do know it's not good for anyone to hold their pee in when they've got to go?

YABVU

troisgarcons · 27/03/2012 22:29

Trois - to be personal about the OP. The issue is with children - not the OP. Very rude.

the Op is very sexist ...... and I havent even started to think about being "rude"

slacklucy · 27/03/2012 22:31

i can remember my mum hanging me over the kerb outside St Pauls on the way to the Lord Mayors show when i was little.
It hasnt turned me in to a serial street pisser now

YABU

Shakey1500 · 27/03/2012 22:31

The issue isn't wth children. It's with the OP who has an issue with children

HalfPastWine · 27/03/2012 22:32

they won't be doing it as an adult as they should be fully toilet trained by then!!

...unless they've had ten pints of lager

I often see blokes pissing in the street in broad daylight around the city centre. Vile. There are lots of pubs, cafes etc they could pop into but it's pure laziness imo.

They've closed down most of the public toilets in the city centre but occasionally roll out portable urinals.....right into the middle of the streets. I can be passing them at 5.30pm on the way home to see the back of the bloke peeing and get the waft of pee. You'd think they'd place them in a more discreet location.

birdsofshoreandsea · 27/03/2012 22:33

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CrystalMaize · 27/03/2012 22:33

Trois - sexist how? Your initial comment suggested the OP may have bladder problems. You may not agree with the OP, but you're comment was plain rude!

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:33

No I live near 3 primary school and have seen mothers letting their ds pee up trees, on their car wheel and into gutters... wearing a school uniform so I know it's going on. I just feel that it's wrong. In my post I mentioned nothing about potty training, it was other people that jumped on me for that.

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birthdaygurl · 27/03/2012 22:35

Is it me your aiming this at? Did you spy my 7 year old peeing in the pub garden was closed then my 3 year old in the park. I'm a dirty caaaah.

Shakey1500 · 27/03/2012 22:36

You did say at the end "So why train him now"

blubberyboo · 27/03/2012 22:37

don't think my kids have ever peed in the street..but they have got caught short on car journeys and have gone behind a hedge.

a child peeing in the street really wouldn't bother me one bit... i think most kids grow up realising it is one of those "priviliges u can only enjoy as a child" now as for dogs pooing in the street and owners not cleaning it up ....that's a different story

5madthings · 27/03/2012 22:39

well as children start school at the age of 4 then yes some boys may pee in the gutter, if its that or wet themselves i know what i would choose!

my elder boys 7, 9 and 12 dont do this anymore and havent for years, buy my friends 6yr old seems to have a weaker bladder and sometimes she needs a wee on the way home from school, half hour walk, we go over a field, so she wees in a bush, i dont see it as a big issue at all. children grow out of it, their bladders get stronger, they get better at remembering to go for a wee before they go out etc but young children, particularly up to the age of 5 need to wee when they need to wee and some slightly older children as well. it does not mean that you are teaching them its ok, its that they are caught short and sometimes its the only option. i am pretty sure that the kids you have seen weeing int he street, wee in the toilet when at home and at school, so the majority of the time! and they will gain better bladder control wiht age.

TheBigJessie · 27/03/2012 22:41

I'm conflicted on this issue, because I have known 7-10 year old boys to indulge in competitive outdoor urination. However, I have no evidence that it was caused by over-indulgent parents.

birthdaygurl · 27/03/2012 22:43

Well DD2 7 may well piss her pants if she didn't go or we have to rush home and ruin the fun

GeekPie · 27/03/2012 22:43

Whats the difference between a totally desperate small child pissing on a grate, and a smelly old labrador pissing on your garden wall?

I'm not suggesting we should all cock our legs against lamp posts like dogs do, but I don't understand why people consider human wee to be so disgusting, but dog wee to be totally fine.

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:44

I was just wondering why men seem to think it's ok to pee in the street or doorways when drunk. Is it at all linked to when they were little and were allowed to go anywhere. Maybe they have been conditioned to do this. And before you all start it is mostly men that do this.

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peeriebear · 27/03/2012 22:45

I just had to let DD2 wee at the rear of the car earlier as we'd been at the fair (not a toilet anywhere, where do the carnies go?!) She held on so long but has a limit. She is 5.

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:47

And yes Shakey1500 I did mention so why train them now... my bag, didn't mean to make it about potty training.

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Shakey1500 · 27/03/2012 22:49

That's a massive generalisation that men think it's ok. Not all men do. And it's because they're drunk, not because their parents let them pee in drains/wherever when they were potty training them.

birthdaygurl · 27/03/2012 22:49

Have you actually got a study on tjis op, cos it sounds like bollocks to moi.

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:52

Shakey1500 re-type

I was just wondering why men that pee in the street or doorways when drunk seem to think it's ok. Is it at all linked to when they were little and were allowed to go anywhere. Maybe they have been conditioned to do this. And before you all start it is mostly men that do this.

Happy

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Pandemoniaa · 27/03/2012 22:52

I distinctly remember having a pee behind a tree in Worthing when I was three. Oddly enough, I find little need to go back and recreate the event now I have mastered continence. Mind you, at my age, it can't be long before I do...

And yes YABU. If caught short at potty training age I would have far preferred my dcs to have a public pee if the alternative was to wet themselves. A consequence that does nothing to assist the training process and is much less pleasant for everyone concerned.

GeekPie · 27/03/2012 22:54

Women would do it if it didn't involve flashing their arse and fanj to the whole world in the process.

Men do it because they can.

TheBigJessie · 27/03/2012 22:54

Is it just because the men are drunk? Drunk men and women can be found in equal numbers in the town centre, and I've only seen men urinating against the Body Shop doorway.

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