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AIBU?

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To think that parents that let their ds pull their pants down and pee in the street are just training them to pee anywhere they want when their older

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 21:53

I get really annoyed by parents that let their ds piss anywhere they want as soon as they need the loo. I once spotted someone letting their son pee up a tree in the communal gardens to my flat. I thought you would kill him if he was caught doing that when he's older and drunk. So why train him to do it now.

AIBU

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usualsuspect · 27/03/2012 22:09

I pissed in a cave once , as an adult ( I blame my mother)

Dinosaurdrip · 27/03/2012 22:09

I've never thought twice about allowing my 2ds to have 'picnic' wee's while we are out and about and there are no toilets around! I probably wouldn't allow them to go in someone else's garden though! I think saying it is like training them for peeing everywhere when they are older is unreasonable!

HalfPastWine · 27/03/2012 22:10

usualsuspect

BertieBotts · 27/03/2012 22:11

I've peed in a bush when drunk.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 27/03/2012 22:11

Neither me or my OH or any of my elder DCs pee in the street.

At some time in our childhood we all peed in the street.

YABU

and silly.

JamieOliveOil · 27/03/2012 22:12

My nearly 9 year old DS has a chronic bladder problem and needs to urinate frequently. He often has to wee between two of our open car doors or down an alleyway. With so few public toilets around these days, he has no choice.

That said, if he didn't have a bladder issue I wouldn't let him wee in public.

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:13

ok by the looks of it IABU... wow you guys are harsh! It was just a thought.

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PorridgeBrain · 27/03/2012 22:13

YABU - there are occasions once children are fully potty trained and you no longer need a travel potty attached to you every second of the day, when a child will suddenly announce at the last minute they are desperate but there is no toilet in sight.

It happens to the best of us. We are not 'training them to pee anywhere', we are simpy dealing with a one off emergency situation. As a child grows, they inevitably get better and better at planning ahead for this, they don't just keep peeing in public for eternity!

funkypigeon · 27/03/2012 22:13

OP, have you ever let your DS pee anywhere other than a toilet/potty?

edam · 27/03/2012 22:14

It was seeing his friend having a 'garden wee' (in friend's own garden) that made ds realise there was more to life than nappies - at long last.

When small children need to go, they really need to go - they often don't realise or don't tell a grown up as early as an older child or dependent adult would.

I really don't think there's any correlation between potty training and later drunken bad behaviour... although if any parenting gurus are reading this thread, I'm sure they'll be rushing out a book claiming there is.

scarlettsmummy2 · 27/03/2012 22:16

I let my three year old pee behind a tree in a park in quite a yuppy area tonight after our picnic, the alternative was wet pants. I'm confident she will not do this as an adult!

FunnysInLaJardin · 27/03/2012 22:16

OP you are surprisingly forthright for a newbie. Any children of your own?

edam · 27/03/2012 22:16

Scariest potty training moment with ds was hearing the immortal words 'Mummy! I REALLY need a wee! NOW!' right at the top of the London Eye. It takes 30 minutes to go round that thing...

(I had made him have a wee before we got on board, honest!)

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:17

I have a dd and no. I carried a potty around when she was potty training and found that I was hardly out where they were no toilets. I also used pull ups if we were going out for a long time. She did wet herself a few times but I just changed her clothes... no biggie. It happens. Now she just holds it in until we can get to a toilet, she's 7 and I wouldn't let her pee in the street now.

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Fifivisage · 27/03/2012 22:20

I think it is so much nicer and preferable to see dogs piss up trees, lamp posts and the like. Little boy's pee is just revolting.

LargeGlassofRed · 27/03/2012 22:22

I have Twin boys 2.10 and we have a piss pot, small tuperwear pot with seal tight lid. It's so handy when out and about or in the car when they need a wee quick, also I find the boys tend to pee on their shoes or dribble down their legs when they don't use the pot.
Used a piss pot, (Jam jar) for eldest ds too.
Both dd's were much better at holding longer thank goodness.
I feel less conscious of them discreetly peeing in pot, than in the street.

troisgarcons · 27/03/2012 22:22

Troisgarcons - no need for that!

Wrings out the tena pad and blots my tush .... no need for what?

troisgarcons · 27/03/2012 22:24

Now she just holds it in until we can get to a toilet, she's 7 and I wouldn't let her pee in the street now.

Round of applause there then - I cant remember the last time I saw a primary school child pissing in the street.

PorridgeBrain · 27/03/2012 22:24

Pedantic when your dd wet herself, you didn't change her in public did you for all to see .

Does she strip off her knickers and change herself in public now as a result of her upbringing

skateboarder · 27/03/2012 22:24

My 7 year old wouldn't pee in the street, my 4 year old would.

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misspedantic · 27/03/2012 22:26

troisgarcons I have. That was the whole point of this post... parents letting their boys pee in the street.

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CrystalMaize · 27/03/2012 22:26

Trois - to be personal about the OP. The issue is with children - not the OP. Very rude.

skybluepearl · 27/03/2012 22:26

I think if its a choice between a toddler wetting thier pants and weeing somewhere - the latter wins.

they won't be doing it as an adult as they should be fully toilet trained by then!!

exoticfruits · 27/03/2012 22:27

I can assure you that they quickly grow out of it! You are only talking about the potty training stage.

5madthings · 27/03/2012 22:27

oh you would hate me then op, yesterday in the school playground after school, my boys were all running around, all of a sudden i turned round and there was ds4, (just 4yrs old) pants and trousers round his ankles, pissing merrily on the grass! i was but there was NO stopping it, it was a huge weee! had i known he had needed the loo i would have taken him to a toilet (if the school would have let me in!) or else i would have gone to a bush and got him to wee there, as it was he didnt tell me, just did it proudly in front of everyone i was mortified and as the grass was rather dry and dusty i kicked some dirt to soak up the offending wee and told him that he MUST tell me when he needs a wee and i would take him to the toilet.

tbh that is the first time he has weed outside he is normally a stickler for weeing in the toilet and will hang on even when busting, so i dont knwo what came over him! i was but all the other parents just laughed and recounted tales of their own childrne doing similar thing at a similar age, i shall now always be knows as 'mother of the child that pissed in the playground'

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