To think it's wrong to become pregnant via a sperm bank...

[pinkpainter]

Ok - this isn't a couple where the man isn't able to produce sperm, this is a single 30 something year old who has never had a boyfriend and thinks this could be a solution to her wanting a baby if she can't find a man.
Firstly - is it legal?
Secondly - she would have no support from a partner, I've tried to tell her how very very difficult and lonely it would be bringing up a baby on her own.
Thirdly - she has no savings or a career that would pay enough for childcare, so she would be relying either on her parents or on government handouts so she could bring up the baby.
Fourthly - I imagine all the emotional support and practical support would be from her mum, and I don't think it's fair to burden her like this at this time in her life.
Fifthly - I worry about what sort of people give their sperm to a sperm bank, would there be a medical history with the sperm?
And lastly - is it moral to bring a baby into the world like this?
But AIBU - does everyone have a right to children, whatever the circumstances?

If your concern was for the child on the basis he or she would be denied the right to a father - and if a woman has the right to a child, then a child certainly has the right to a father - then imo you would not be being unreasonable.

Sorry to be an old stick in the mud but YANBU OP. I think children should be born into a settled relationship (I have to admit I wouldn't have considered having my DCs without being married) and are a not 'a right.'

I also think that there should be financial stability. Again I would not have considered having a family without having a decent career behind me to support them should anything, God forbid, happen to my husband, and without owning a home for them for them to grow up in safely.

I cannot tell you how many angry kids I've met in my professional life, angry because their family is all over the place and they don't know where they fit in, angry because there's no money for them to have anything but the most basic life, and there's no joy in their childhoods at all.

If having a family is important to someone then they'll work hard to put themselves in a sensible position to do so, we did. There's too many women in this day and age putting their own needs before that of their children and that's not fair.