To be perturbed that a woman felt compelled to come into a coffee shop today with the sole purpose of telling my 9 year old son ...

[QuintessentialyHollow]

"You will become fat" with an evil grin.

After his terrible migraine attack last weekend, we had an optical appointment today, so I took him out from school quarter past two. He was really worried about the appointment, and the optician was very thorough. It took half an hour. We went to a coffee shop for a snack, as we then had a 30 minute walk up to his tutor, where he was going to do one more hour of learning. It is important that he eats on regular intervals. He is skinny as a rake, and usually eats little and often.

So, we shared a ham and cheese panini, he had a rasberry water, and a chocolate muffin. We were sitting on bar stools, looking out the window, eating. By then it was 3 pm, and he had not eaten since lunch time at 12, dinner would be at 6pm.

So, a woman was looking at him from the bus stop outside. She suddenly opened up the door, came in and said something to him. He did not respond, and she left. I asked my son, "what did she say to you?"

"You will become fat"

How on earth can a total stranger make such a comment to a child?

Halfway through thread, have to say:

A while ago, I posted right here (may have been in Chat) about a child (approx 7/8) on the bus who repeatedly (more than three times) lifted my dress OVER MY ARSE, on a full bus, I was standing

Her motivation? To see if I was wearing tights or socks
I was wearing socks. And blue knickers which everyone saw. Several times.

I was told on here to indulge her as she was obviously SN and I was rude trying to pat down my dress while my arse was in the face of fellow passengers.

I disagreed, thread went nowhere over and over

Meant to add:

Woman may have been SN, dementia affected or just rude

Who knows?

Quint - good opportunity to tell DS about strange things that happen in life

I have got to page 4 of this and I can't believe what I am reading!

OP, the woman was rude and strange and possibly has MH issues. However I don't think this is really relevant in this instance is it - rudeness is rudeness and MH can't be an excuse unless you know about it, surely?!

FWIW, I don't care what you feed your kid; where you take him and whether he has tutoring. Not my business.

She sounds like "care in the community" ignore the mad cow

when I was about 13/14, my dad and I were in a cafe. We had finished our meals and my dad asked for the bill. The waitress noticed that I had left some food on my plate and proceeded to tell me, 'you father is spending his hard earned money on dinner here. The least you could do is clear your plate...'

My dad thought this was hilarious, and said she had a point.

And she refused to bring me dessert

Some people just can't help themselves in giving their opinions to children about food.

Some very good advice and suggestions for handling the migraine issue. It is true we should write a diary and also include the food he has eaten on the days he says he has headaches. As it was, the "full meal" seemed to have worked, as he said he felt better after eating.

Ilovemydog Was the waitress actually refusing to serve you a dish your parents had actually paid for!!?
"Mother Goose syndrome"

There are lot of weird people available these days, even at the coffee shop.
Nice you were there with your son so you could have a chat about the weird ways of the world.
And back to your muffin then.

Hope the migraines get sorted soon.

Whackamole how can MH only be an excuse if someone knows about it?

Do we know that all people with MH even know about it? Course they don't.

MH, disability, illness- it just is, and being able to recognise them (at least at the hazard a guess level) is pretty useful for helping our kids know when it is worth getting upset about someone's comments and when it's just one of those things that should be ignored and answered only with a sympathetic smile.

Why are you taking it so seriously? I'm afraid I would have just shrugged it off and told DS "there's nowt so strange as folk!"

Bizarre thread. Whether or not the lady was ill I think your son dealt with it excellently, Quint

Haven't read the whole thread, and it has clearly moved on, but the OP made me . Don't understand why you started a thread on it - clearly a odd ball remark from a stranger - but not overly offensive (and why do people get offended by strangers' remarks so often ).