AIBU about Hijackers?

[CrystalMaize]

I have observed that many AIBU threads are taken over by a certain few members. Particularly if if they think the OP is unreasonable. That's fine - have your say - but why turn it into something unrelated? Some posts are trolling, I can see that and it's unacceptable. I also recognise that the last few days have been a bit unusual. But really, frequent posters, what message are you sending to newbies? "Post on here and we will flame you, then we'll take the piss and hijack your thread". It doesn't inspire confidence in a site which is reknowned for being accepting, supportive and fun. No biscuits please - I don't like them.

Tethers... it could be Moo?

Its fine though for people to criticise or disagree with the OP. It was the general chatting about other stuff not long after the thread went live that I thought was rude.

Usual suspect, you are churning out the usual comments about mumsnet not being for you. That comment is equally tiresome to those it's trotted out to.

Not kittens for you then?

The OP perhaps should have stuck to the question of how posters feel when threads are derailed, that are not particulary provocative or arguementative, rather than possibly coming across as snipey, then.

Is the OP supposed to start making lists consisting off regular derailers?

Any MN member has the right to ask how other members feel about the deliberate derailment of threads, that is what the OP has done and some posters (including myself) have agreed.

Is derailment in the talk guidelines? and if not perhaps a poll should be taken, to see if it should be.

MN is supposed to suit all members. If the members decide that it needs more careful moderation, then that is how it should go, members shouldn't be told that it isn't the forum, for them, because the rules need expanding to deal with what is now happening.

Arrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I don't agree , MN is what it is.

Theres plenty of other forums out there that I don't like , so I don't use them. I don't expect to go barging in and say , hey, can you change this forum to suit me please.

Birds - very fair comment. I'm not in favour of moderation, however.

usual - I agree to a certain extent. But I actually don't think the OP is saying she wants MN generally to change. This isn't imo like the no swearing threads. The OP is talking about the a small number of posters and is saying she wants those small number of posters to change their behaviour.

You may think they shouldn't, but I think it is a fair thing to ask.

Usual suspect - you are thinking of other threads perhaps? Don't lump me in with the other ones. I don't agree with them either.

This is a question of allowing threads to stay on track - it's a bit basic in terms of internet forums.

And it's kittens.

I only see derailment on threads that deserve derailing . I've never ever seen a thread where someone is asking for support derailed.

Like I said people who need support do not post in AIBU.

So this one, presumably, deserves derailing?

I've derailed threads that are getting nasty tbh to avoid a bunfight.

Yes it did

I'm starting to get fed up with self-appointed thread police moaning about the content of my posts.

It's a thread FFS! - not a 10,000 word dissertation that must not stray from the subject matter.

I honestly think that some of these who doth protest too much should really consider whether NetHuns would suit them better, where they could hug and hun and do Sybil Fawlty impersonations and leave the more 'erm robust posters alone

Rant over

De-railing is usually seen as trolling.

Thank you all for your comments. Keep them coming. Don't flame me for leaving the thread for a while, I have to see to DS.

I thought it was funny to derail a thread about derailing.

Am I a troll then?

I agree with your OP CrystalMaize

By derailing a thread, it's like saying "we don't approve of your thread so we'll chat about what we like to chat about instead". Rude as far as I'm concerned.

There's huge sensitivity around at the moment and anyone being seen to rock the boat seems to be referred to netmums or elsewhere. It's pathetic school playground stuff but there is so much genuinely good, constructive and funny stuff around here that i try to ignore the self-righteous.

Yes usual. As am I. And as for that tethers.

Do you have an example Crystal?
I think derailing can sometimes be the best way to go sometimes, it can calm down some of the more heated and nasty threads.
I've never seen it on more serious, advice type threads.

Yes derailing was a great tactic on F4J threads - made perfect sense there.

But being used negatively I have seen it most on threads about proposed changes to benefits and not when the thread has been nasty or heated.