to say I dont always like myself on here, AIBU makes me a BITCH

[porcamiseria]

and I'm not in RL!

the bully thread upset me, as I do hate it when everyone piles in, I really do

and It does happen alot

then i though...HANG ABOUT

I have been rude, I have sworn at people, and I barged into MN royalty threads and called them all "sad cxxts!, maybe not in those words exactly

who I am to comment on others, really?

so, long weekend away I think

I know its only words in a screen, but its left me feeling, well not too good aboujt myself TBH

its soo easy to barge in a post something blunt, maybe too easy

The joy of not having to face someone's reaction to your words... That is basically the internet

It is good that you are thinking about how you respond though, I like to say I would say the same things in real life, and perhaps to some extent I would, but not with the same vitriol and spite as I sometimes do on a forum.

But, I also get to meet people I would never meet normally, change my perceptions about those people an get to share advice and an ear to those who need it.

So it's not all bad, hope you get your head straight op.

YABU! You're feeling guilty cos women are brought up to believe they should be nice and non- confrontational. And having strong opinions and shouting about them makes you 'a bitch'. I relish the fisticuffs on here- at least women are saying what they really think rather than hiding behind the code of passive aggressive politesse.

None of it matters. In RL I'm a seven foot Nova Scotian Ice fisherman with an aptitude for googling.

I do know what you mean porca. And tbh I thought that of some of your posts although I didn't say it.

I think in the heat of the moment it si easy for people to type things in anger and/or frustration that they wouldn't actually have wanted to say.

Blimey! I never say anything on here that I wouldn't be happy about saying to someone's face.

Having strong opinions and shouting about them does not make you a bitch.

Telling people to 'piss off', however, does. And I'm afraid that I have been on the receiving end of that from you.

Well you meet people on here that you would never come into contact with IRL. I find it can be a bit of an eye opener as you tend to mix with people with similar views IRL as you live in a type of area, work with a type of people, socialise with your type of people etc and without you noticing, life gets fairly comfy and homogenous, then you come on here and find people who think the opposite to you, and think it just as passionatly and strongly as you do and its a bit of a shock that people can just be that wrong :)

We've all (well I have) got pulled into threads where we really should have just walked away and ended up hissing and spitting at people over something as world breaking as where to park or cat shit

I wouldn't worry

I am with you valium, when I write a response, it often gets changed before it is posted to make sure it sounds like 'me', and I respond on here the same way I would respond in rl. I was on the bully thread, and I didn't think you were that bad porca, not as bad as some on there who were just plain offensive!

Porca, I am glad that you have taken stock of your posting style as I have noticed you about and I do think that you can be quite abrasive.

It's refreshing to see a poster own up to their shortcomings. Hats off to you. :)

"You're feeling guilty cos women are brought up to believe they should be nice and non- confrontational. And having strong opinions and shouting about them makes you 'a bitch'."

Wrong. There's a big difference between having strong opinions and being badly behaved.

Being unnecessarily unkind/blunt/rude on aibu or any forum (I don't know if you actually are, op) doesn't make you a better woman for making strong opinions felt. It makes you, man or woman, a bit of a coward really.

I've often thought those most vociferous and malicious on MN are probably timid little mice in real life or if not, deeply unpopular. But they don't know it because people are too scared of their bullying ways.

It's all too easy to be a keyboard ninja and it takes guts and insight to realise that you yourself maybe be guilty of this (applies to anyone, not directly at OP) Good on you P :)

Winky that may be true for some. But like other posters here I personally say what I would say in rl. So I don't swear at people here or call them names. But I will tell them they are being out of order.

I think one of the differences on here is that there is no body language - obviously. So in rl things you say can be toned down as it were by your body maguage or made more aggressive and we lose that subtlety on here.

kudos to you for being honest :)

FAIRPLAY to lesley and bupcakes, as I know full well you have been recipients

I think its not what you say, but how you say it

Its 100% OK to disagree, but time and time again I post in a certain way then I regret afterwards

I mean who really wants to potentially upset a complete stranger, really?

Sometimes its the freedom of the Internet to tell somebody to EFF OFF we wouldnt well i wouldnt dare in real life , It so easy to type without thinking , TBh These Bullying threads that are going round at the moment i do think some people take to much to heart , and put to much emphasis on a stranger and what they think , However i do think some should think before they type , i always have visions of typers sniggering after being nasty to somebody ,

"I mean who really wants to potentially upset a complete stranger, really?"

Indeed, and good for you that you are aware of it.

I couldn't remember the thread where you told me to piss off - but I remembered that you had said that, because it was upsetting.

porca - I really would be interested in what you found wrong with the way I said things?

lesley, I have actuallly agreed with u on some threads! remember!

I was just a tad dismissive on the MN royalty esque ones, maybe just "hide" in future

BIWI, sorry, really

fuck 3 people already saying I have been a bitch, thats not good

porca - Sorry my question was in realtion to your comment above where you said that it isn't what I said, but the way I said it?

Don't worry about it though - really. Yes you have been overly brusque imho. But you haven't been a bully or abusive - if you had been and I had raed your posts, I would have reported them. I haven't reported any of your posts.

Bitch isn't the right word, I don't think. It is easier to spill your branes on the interwebs because no-one can punch you in the fisog We've all done it: I know I have. You know how it is... someone says something idiotic IRL, you're thinking "Oh stfu, you dozey idiot" but you're more likely to be diplomatic when faced with a real, live person. It's easier to dismiss the feelings of a faceless cyber person. As someone who got incredibly upset by a MNer I think that 'words on a screen' is bollocks. Words can cut deep whether their verbal or written.

'the joy of not having to face someone's reactions to your words'

really antsypants?

You see I don't like the thought of someone being hurt or upset even if I can't see them. But rhen your line sums up the attitude here and in life generally tbh

people are becoming more unfeeling and robotic

You know what Porca, you may well have acted or said things in the way you have but believe me you are not the worst. Not by a lOng, long way.
Taking time out is probably a good idea, we all need to do that occasionally but beating yourself up over it? No, don't do that. Compared to some on here you are a kitten.

I really hope this doesn't turn into a kick Porca while she's laying herself open thread.

AIBU is wierd, the idea that an OP would 'hang themselves out for a pasting'.

IRL I rarely have conversations along those lines, I do find though if I've hung around AIBU for too long it does make me a bit black and white in my thinking.

Good thread. I do check threads I'm on after a couple of extra glasses of wine the night before and sometimes cringe or can be a bit obnoxious occasionally even when sober. Must do better.

Thanks, porca