Husband feeding baby from a jar

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DS2 is 16 weeks old today. He's a breastfed baby with the odd formula bottle. Has a bit of a cold just now so was up a couple of times last night, having previously slept through.

Had an appointment at teatime for a well needed haircut so DH came home from work and took over. Came home from haircut to find half empty jar of puree on worktop. DH had decided he needed it, hadn't discussed it or anything.

Got a bit annoyed as, with our other children, I would have preferred to start with baby rice when he was first weaned, I would also have taken photos etc and most importantly, I don't think he is ready for it. I would also have made purees myself, although have nothing against jars. I also wouldn't have given him his first taste of solids at 7pm incase it resulted in a sore tummy in the night (which I will have to see to!) Have told him that if DS2 is up in the night, he will have to get up, not me.

Clearly, DH doesn't believe in the art of communication. Am I right to be annoyed?

daintynuts lol @ the cornetto!
I'm with nowthenwreck the Dh did not invade Poland
Seems a load of fuss about nothing, my DH has fed the kids far more ridiculous stuff, not out of malice, but becasue it was there...
and babyrice - yuck is that what the poor kid has to look forward to?

If you say so.

My last post was to Gilg

lol @ invade Poland

So OP at what point will you be allowing your DP to make any decissions (sp) regarding YOUR DC?

or will he have to run everything passed you?

Just a small point, my exH had already had two daughters, so as our ds was my first baby, I generally let H take the lead in a lot of things as I didn't have much of a clue. He often had his own ideas about baby ds and I really liked that and appreciated it.

Ergo, if i had found he had given ds a jar of baby food when I was out, well, I would have hoped he had taken a photo - which he would have done - and then showed me what jar he had bought and how much he had given ds etc.

(Rider: H still turned out to be a bastard and a fuckwit but that's not the point).

I gave the DT's purée from about 4 months - they were always hungry and wouldn't settle - no problems. I usually ignore most guidelines as there is no consistency - some change by the week !

YANBU (I think!)

BUT I wonder what the reaction would have been if it was the MOTHER giving the baby a jar without her dh's knowledge.....? Not so much fuss I imagine....so much for 'equal parenting'

Oh FFS, can people not at least try to be supportive on here? Wish I'd never bloody posted

You asked the question 'am I being unreasonable?' And then invited people to pass comment, some people agreed, others didn't, it is the nature of the beast.

if you wanted unwavering support and your hand held, the AIBU probably isn't the place to air your grievance

Exactly what ComposHat said.
If you wanted to feel a bit sad and have people hold your hand, then post in Chat or Parenting (or, I think there are various baby feeding areas, which I've hidden).
If you ask for opinions, then you are going to get them. If you want support then put that in your OP, and Don't post in AIBU.

You ask "Am I Being Unreasonable?" thereby giving posters the go-ahead to say yay or nay according to their opinion.

Unless it was a rhetorical qu?

Not unreasonable to wean at 4 months if the baby is ready but not to discuss it with you first is U. My ds is only 7 weeks and really is a milk guzzler, i cannot express enough to keep up so he has formula when i cant express enough, so I think that he might wean at 4 months, dd 5 was weaned at 4 months (it was 4 months then), and she could have waited until 6 months as she really was not interested or particularly hungry, did not like food and still does not really.

WE live in the middle east and My DH was having a conversation with a Egyptian man today who said to him 'I'm sorry but I find it really hard to understand your English because you don't speak with an American accent.'

My DH was quite indignant!

If DH is your subordinate then YANBU. If he is your equal then you are YABU and annoying.

What if the DH had decided to get the baby's ears pierced? That still ok?

Silver

No, because that would hurt the baby and last a long time. One jar of baby food is not an equivalent comparison

Maybe not directly but who's to say that early weaning might not have an impact on this particular child's digestion that has longlasting consequences?

Bit of a stretch.. you're comparing apples and pears

Bit of a stretch.. you're comparing apples and pears

I think its what passes as reasoned argument in these sorts of threads, sadly....

Whatme - yes, you are right. I meant to say sheep and goats

yanbu

I have to do all the "thinking" about childcare (my df just seems not to ) so when it came to 4 months I told him about weanjng choices and told him to look it up himself but gave him a couple of links and explained why I wanted to wait till 6 mths and asked what he preferred - so we discussed it and he agreed. After that I got info on types of weaning and recipe books and again went through these with df and asked what he preferred and explained my pov and we discussed it and came to a joint decision. I always actively engage with df about these decisions and we are a couple and jointly parents

tinkertitonk & boneyback - surely the op is wanting a joint decision about THEIR child when it's a big decision to make - surely most people do that and it is not unreasonable

YABU - My advice would be to get over it. Its not crime of the century, he is the dad, he does have a say in what goes on with your baby. Experimentation with food is essential to babies. A lot of women dont like to take risks, which is why fathers are there to push boundaries. Guidlines for weaning change almost every month. Jars are fine. He sounds like a good fella.

OLD THREAD

Zippey - why drag up on old thread?

and.... what a lot of shit.

zippey - are you the DH?!

How did you guess I was the DH?!

(Im not really!)

to Chipping> Its not that old, jeez! Thanks for your input though.