I don't want to go to a wedding without my 2 yr old

[tizzi82]

PLs help. I feel totally gutted. I've recently received a wedding invite for a friend that is getting married the other end of the country. We lived together at uni and despite distance meet up as much as possible. I love her dearly and have been so excited to see her marry her long term partner. However, I was shocked to find my 2yr old son was not invited to the wedding.

My husband has left so we have been on our own for a while and as a result are very close and he is not easily left with anyone let alone for me to have two nights away without him.

To add insult to injury my invite says 'plus one guest'. Although the issue of children has been specifically addressed on the invite so my plus one can't be him. I find it rather upsetting that i could bring any 'old Joe' to my friends wedding but not my own son especially with him being so young. I also know that there will be other children at the wedding because they have a nephew the same age as my son. So it doesn't really make sense that the venue is unsuitable or even that money is an issue if they're happy to pay for a guest.

We don't have much money, but I was willing to make the trip our summer holiday. Now Im questioning whether to even go. Really need some good advice pls!!
Thanks

I'm getting married in August. It's going to be a very small, Registry Office do, with a meal after.

Our children are coming, and that's it. Nobody else's. Reason - all our friends have at least one child. If we invited children too, it would bump our guest list from 17 (including us and our kids) to 31! There'd be more kids than adults!

My wedding certainly won't be a "stuffy formal show off how much money you've got" do!

Not having children at weddings is very, very rarely about about boarding school or having an 'hello' style event.

I had child free wedding as its a simple case of numbers and budget. Who meant more to my partner and I and our relationship? My friend's three kids or other friends who I would not have been able to invite had the kids come along.

I have no idea why people get so frothy about wedding invites. If it doesn't suit you in terms of your family, your finances or anything else, don't go. Don't assume that the bride and groom should put your desires over and above theirs.

We had a friend who took the lack of invite for his son very badly. He didn't come, bad mouthed us to anyone who'd listen and still makes jibes about it. Did his absence ruin my day? No. Don't think I gave him another thought. I was an invite, not a court summons.