to think that no, actually, SS wont be interested that DS(3) watched Hellboy?

[Hellboy]

DS (3) loves proper 'boy' films like Spiderman, Transformers, Batman, Starwars etc. He recently watched Hellboy at MILs and apparantly loved it. Ive bought it for him and he has watched it a few times (Ive vetted it and there is one scene that I think might be a bit too grisly for him so I fast forward past this bit). Apart from this one scene to me its no different to Spiderman and all the other 'hero' type films and there is no swearing (apart from a few craps)

My friend (whose DS also watches Spiderman, Batman etc) has said that if DS goes into nursery going on about Hellboy, then they will call SS as its a sign that we are letting him watch inappropriate films as its a horror film (its classed as a PG-13, Spiderman is a 12 so to me there isnt much difference)

I take my lead from DS, and I do think there may be a time when he will be more aware of what goes on in these films (eg. the idea that there is a hell, baddies that want to hurt us etc) so when that time comes I will of course take the lead from him again. But for now he loves the action bits, we have a right laugh together when we watch them and tbh its nice to not have to watch endless Chris and Pui (and we do turn it into a learning experience - what colour is Hellboy, how many baddies can you see etc )

I dont want to start the age old debate of age limits for films etc, we are just talking about the usual films that most of the kids at his nursery have seen. My friend just thinks that me letting DS watch Hellboy is an invite to get SS involved

So, is she being ridiculous and hypocritical? Or am I being too laid back about what SS would get involved in?

You let your 3 year old watch hellboy?

Too lazy busy to read the whole thread but SS involvement aside, why would you choose to buy your child totally age inappropriate things to watch? There is such a wealth of good children's programmes, why would you? Is there a reason beyond 'he likes it' - if you hadn't presented him with it, he'd be none the wiser.
I am a teacher and we would certainly make a note in our records of concern (and have done) about young children watching vastly inappropriate programmes at homes or playing computer games like COD, particularly in relation to their behaviour in the playground.

I have no idea what you are talking about. But am very glad to hear you have four children who know how to spell and use grammar correctly.

Daffodils "Is there a reason beyond 'he likes it' " in all honesty, no. Other people might give sweets, biscuits, chocolate, bit of ice cream as a treat or for doing something nice/being good. I buy him stuff that lasts like a DVD he might have seen in the shop if its on offer or a toy and occasionally its something that me and DP might like aswell

why can't you buy just buy a DVD that is appropriate for his age? Where on Earth do you shop if all you have to choose from is PG-13?

His teachers will judge you when his creative writing is full of gore and plots from bad movies. Although I suppose you're not worried about that.

Oh the Grammar police..I never really bother on mumsnet it not a dissertation is it?? Anyhow it is hard to type switch DVDS from Hellboy to Excorcist whilst putting the x box on COD for the kids all this after a scooter ride. Agree Hellboy we watch all sorts Hellboy is just one DVD we also watch Fox and the Hound

He just saw the cover, started wittering on about "Hellboy" and the monsters and DP told me he'd watched it at MILs. it was only £3 so I got it, didnt think any more of it as Ive seen it and remembered its on the same lines as a few others films we had that hes seen. And at the first opportunity of a couple hours of peace vetted it myself of course. It was at Tescos (I know I know)

Sorry can't be arsed to read the whole thread

Your phrase "proper boy films" makes me wonder about whether you have expectations of how boys should behave and feel, and whether you are actually quite proud to let him watch things that are violent at such a young age.

c0rn - as you it is easy to spot the children who have watched unsuitable films. And I'm not just talking about pretending to have guns.

as you say

Corn - its more likely to be filled with yellow sponges that talk and make burgers, oh and princess Dragons

Actually I remember alot of my creative writing was about dark stuff. One of my best stories according to my teacher was about a terror attack in London (nice). At the time I loved anything 'Hippo', pink shit and Saved By The Bell

mmm think you reading too much into it OriginalJamie do not think she proud just making the point that it was sen as just another film no biggy and there has to be a consensus that boys and girls like different things ??

Original - no I said earlier it was just a clumsy turn of phrase, hes got tutus and dolls mixed in with his dragons and Tesco (natch) pretend till

x post with Imnotmymum who got what I meant

I think it would take more than 1.5 - 2 hours a week of a few superhero films to desensitise him to such a state that I cant see any reaction

Being desensitised to violence and distress doesn't happen during the film, it happens over a period of time. The more violence, pain, injury, weapons etc a child sees, the less they can distinguish fictional consequences from those that happen in reality.

3yos are not known for their empathy either. i.e watching someone whack a villain with a baseball bat might look funny in a film but will incur an unpleasant
scene in real life.

Not reading it that way. "proper boy film" = film boys like = violent films.

I'm not making the assumption about what boys like, the OP is....

One of my boys is not interested in Superheroes, one is. "What boys like" can easily be encouraged or discouraged by parents who decide what boys are like when they are only 3

Xpost OP. I will go back and read the thread. But the phrase slipped out. I hate stereotyping

YouOldSlag [sorry lol as writing that so do not mean it] I believe the point is if you make the child realise that in real life xy and z would happen and it is all pretend then whatever they see/watch/read will be fine unless as as I posted before 24/7 etc etc

Youold - I do see what you're saying, but he sees stuff like that in cartoons and stuff designed for kids his age. If some rough and tumble goes on in something he likes to get rough and tumble. Normal play that alot of kids enjoy. Its for me to guide him that what he sees on TV, film or cartoon for his age, isnt necessarily how we should behave. He knows that a bit of rough play with his Dad is fine, but not in nursery (who always tell me how good he is with them and other children)

Have now read the thread.

What strikes me is that those films you compare Hellboy with, are also those I wouldn't let my 3 year old watch - Transformers, Batman, even the first Star Wars.

It strikes me you want him to grow up too fast and the choice of film is based on your assessment of the quality of the film rather than suitability.

OJ I honestly didnt mean it that way, I just meant they are seen to be typically boys films but even in that I dont mean only boys like them. Sorry this is even clumsier

I dont stereotype, hes got all sorts of toys that arent considered to be typically 'boy' toys. I truthfully didnt mean it the way you read it

I also didn't let mine watch Ben Ten at 3, because the hero is a brat.

then they will call SS as its a sign that we are letting him watch inappropriate films

I used to work for social services and it really gets on my tits when schools and nurseries use the spectre of 'the social worker' as a bogeyman figure to scare parents into compliance. No wonder parents sometimes have this unfounded fear that s.services will swoop down and snatch their kids away.

It wouldn't warrant further investigation unless you were -say showing your kids animal porn/snuff movies.

Hellboy - it's clumsy because I think subconciously you do have stereotypes. I think many of us do. I used to think all boys liked sport and should be good at it, because most boys I knew were like that. When DS1 turned out to not like or be good at traditional sports it took a bit of adjusting to..

Glad to hear he has other toys. I just don't get why you would allow him at this age to be exposed to such ugliness