to think that no, actually, SS wont be interested that DS(3) watched Hellboy?

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DS (3) loves proper 'boy' films like Spiderman, Transformers, Batman, Starwars etc. He recently watched Hellboy at MILs and apparantly loved it. Ive bought it for him and he has watched it a few times (Ive vetted it and there is one scene that I think might be a bit too grisly for him so I fast forward past this bit). Apart from this one scene to me its no different to Spiderman and all the other 'hero' type films and there is no swearing (apart from a few craps)

My friend (whose DS also watches Spiderman, Batman etc) has said that if DS goes into nursery going on about Hellboy, then they will call SS as its a sign that we are letting him watch inappropriate films as its a horror film (its classed as a PG-13, Spiderman is a 12 so to me there isnt much difference)

I take my lead from DS, and I do think there may be a time when he will be more aware of what goes on in these films (eg. the idea that there is a hell, baddies that want to hurt us etc) so when that time comes I will of course take the lead from him again. But for now he loves the action bits, we have a right laugh together when we watch them and tbh its nice to not have to watch endless Chris and Pui (and we do turn it into a learning experience - what colour is Hellboy, how many baddies can you see etc )

I dont want to start the age old debate of age limits for films etc, we are just talking about the usual films that most of the kids at his nursery have seen. My friend just thinks that me letting DS watch Hellboy is an invite to get SS involved

So, is she being ridiculous and hypocritical? Or am I being too laid back about what SS would get involved in?

It obviously must depend on the child because my son would have been petrified of that kind of film at three, they'd have given him nightmares, it was Cbeebies all the way, even Scooby Doo was out of bounds.

They have a lot of animated super hero series for those who prefer to leave the real time stuff until they are older. Wolverine and the X-men and Spiderman cartoons are current favourites - I got a whole series of each for less than a fiver. www.play.com is really great for finding them.

I don't get much choice unfortunately as he has watched all those films at his fathers, including X-men and Green Lantern, which I think is inappropriate even at six, however I doubt it's a social services issue. As the lady in school told me about our local services when I enquired due to my disability whether it was worth contacting them, they are only really involved in cases of neglect and abuse, and though this is perhaps questionable to some, it's not really in the same league.

Shakey the tiniest shit comment was in response to a pp who said I was enjoying upsetting people. I wasn't interested in the rating debate initially, just if my mate was being daft or not.

Tbh there are better things for me to make up than a thread about hellboy if I wanted some serious pearls being clutched

Sorry for the grammar I'm on one of those phones

OP - Inappropriate viewing does damage. It's really bad parenting. I urge you to think again and make changes.

Really, what children see and what they do isn't all cause and effect.

Like I said earlier, some children are more susceptible than others.

Seriously, I'm not proud of the fact that ds has heard me swear for example, or of the fact that there's some language in some of the films he's watched and games he's played but he understands context and doesn't swear himself often.

Northern, I'm happy with how were doing but I do respect your and everyone elses pov

Coco as I said earlier its not for me to decide what other kids watch

Don't think SS will be interested but YABU to let your 3 year old watch a movie like that

Wow, this thread has gone some, hasn't it!

Hellboy, I doubt SS would be interested in this but I think you need to be a bit more aware. Exposing to children to age inappropriate stuff can be damaging and disturbing for them.

There is an animated series of Hellboy, which could perhaps be a more suitable way for a three year old to engage in his preferred superhero type programme.

www.play.com/DVD/DVD/4-/3300148/Hellboy-Animated-Sword-Of-Storms

Only £4.39.

So he first saw it at your MIL ?

You say you monitor what he watches

Did she also fast forward the scene with the rotten corpse ?

What kind of people are you?

Poor parenting choice imo but insufficient grounds on its own to take a child into care

Maybe it is enough to trigger a SS visit though - I don't know

Films have ratings for very good reasons, in when he is 7 would you feel happy letting him watch an 18?

Of course parental judgement has to come into it, but only when I child is a few years under the reccomended age for it. At 3 a child shouldn't even be aware of the existence of those films.

I work for ss with looked after children and a very common theam that binds children who are neglected together is amongst lack of supervision is the parents allowing their children to watch innaproate images

If op thinks hell boy and Super hero films like kick arse is ok at 3 years old what will she allow a 6 year old to watch

I think the op of how not to parent and develop a youg mind

To address you OP Hellboy I think SS would not be interested in the slightest. I was told by a CAFCASS officer when my small DSs were being terrorised (IMO) by my ex forcing them to watch 18 rated horror films and to watch him playing really disturbing computer games that that kind of parenting in itself didn't raise any concerns for child welfare. Now I am going back a few years but no I still don't think that simply watching a film 'some' consider to be inappropriate, on occasion, with adult supervision would in any way have SS rushing in to take DC away.
BTW DD (age 4) love,love,loves the film Stardust, would watch it every day if I let her. I was worried the witches would be a bit for her but no, she loves it. She is however absolutely, totally, completely terrified of 'the number taker' in Cbeebies Numberjacks and the big bad wolf in the three little pigs (so we don't read that book anymore)

Should read your OP of course! (when will I learn to preview before posting )

can'tgetlaid - not read much in the way of hysterics myself......

I seconed that

SS might not be interested, but it's very poor judgement on your part.

I wouldn't have wanted my DCs associating with your son; as much for your pig headed defiance in the face of everyones suggestions that it's not a good thing as for the original poor choice.