to think that no, actually, SS wont be interested that DS(3) watched Hellboy?

[Hellboy]

DS (3) loves proper 'boy' films like Spiderman, Transformers, Batman, Starwars etc. He recently watched Hellboy at MILs and apparantly loved it. Ive bought it for him and he has watched it a few times (Ive vetted it and there is one scene that I think might be a bit too grisly for him so I fast forward past this bit). Apart from this one scene to me its no different to Spiderman and all the other 'hero' type films and there is no swearing (apart from a few craps)

My friend (whose DS also watches Spiderman, Batman etc) has said that if DS goes into nursery going on about Hellboy, then they will call SS as its a sign that we are letting him watch inappropriate films as its a horror film (its classed as a PG-13, Spiderman is a 12 so to me there isnt much difference)

I take my lead from DS, and I do think there may be a time when he will be more aware of what goes on in these films (eg. the idea that there is a hell, baddies that want to hurt us etc) so when that time comes I will of course take the lead from him again. But for now he loves the action bits, we have a right laugh together when we watch them and tbh its nice to not have to watch endless Chris and Pui (and we do turn it into a learning experience - what colour is Hellboy, how many baddies can you see etc )

I dont want to start the age old debate of age limits for films etc, we are just talking about the usual films that most of the kids at his nursery have seen. My friend just thinks that me letting DS watch Hellboy is an invite to get SS involved

So, is she being ridiculous and hypocritical? Or am I being too laid back about what SS would get involved in?

Original....except for everyone acting like the kid will turn into some sort of serial killer and calling the op a shit parent.

Erm. Did they?

FWIW, I think OP sounds like she has a nice warm relationship with her son, but is wanting him to grow up too fast. Serial killer? Probably not - nightmares/desensitised to violence - maybe

X post sovery

Not a fact that the child will have any problems because of what he watches, but of course you are all child rearing experts who never put a foot wrong as parents.

cantgetlaid is providing a superb example (by illustration) of why people shouldn't let their children watch age inappropriate films.

Actually, I can't help wondering if this is a crafty attempt at reverse pyschology?

can't getlaid - I am as a matter of fact

Mine don't ...it's not the best idea I agree but don't like to see the op get so much shit.
Maybe she will think again and maybe not,but as parenting crimes go I don't think it is the most awful.

I very much doubt that original...nobody gets anything right 100% of the time.

sovery....point taken, I actually wonder at what op wanted to achieve with this thread tbh

I was exaggerating for comic effect. Obviously I am not perfect

No it's not the worst parenting crime. But she asked, and I don't think she's doing the best thing for her son.

I think there's a middle ground somewhere between good parenting, and parenting so terrible that it would warrant social services intervention.

And what most people are trying to say is that it's pretty lax parenting to try and set your boundaries at the point just before social services would intervene.

Original.....she did ask, but I like to defend the underdog from attack lol.

cantgetlaid - while you sound like an utterly delightful person and I, of course, am a 'judgey old cow', may I ask why you frequent Mumsnet if you hate the site and the posters with intelligent and informed opinions on it?

Anyone who thinks it's ok to let a 3 year old watch that kind of material must be as thick as pig shit and yes I have read the thread and all the pontificating and justifying from the OP and her little Sock Puppet.

It's not great. But it's not the end of the world. And certainly not something SS would get involved with.

And I think it's the people with ridiculously narrow-minded views (generally about films they have never seen, games they have never played etc) who are thick as pig shit.

My DSs have both watched films rated above their age. Equally there are films within their age range they find scary, and won't watch. And they are - and have always been - far more upset and affected by news and things they study in history - than the content of films.

THREE!!!!!
Ice Age
Cars
Madagascar if you must
but mainly Fireman Sam,Thomas etc. if they are watching tv at all.Dgs is just three and is so busy building,jumping,riding,hiding that he wouldnt sit still that long.
I think for a 3 yr old to watch a full length 12+ film is a bit sad but your child your choice I suppose.