to think that no, actually, SS wont be interested that DS(3) watched Hellboy?

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DS (3) loves proper 'boy' films like Spiderman, Transformers, Batman, Starwars etc. He recently watched Hellboy at MILs and apparantly loved it. Ive bought it for him and he has watched it a few times (Ive vetted it and there is one scene that I think might be a bit too grisly for him so I fast forward past this bit). Apart from this one scene to me its no different to Spiderman and all the other 'hero' type films and there is no swearing (apart from a few craps)

My friend (whose DS also watches Spiderman, Batman etc) has said that if DS goes into nursery going on about Hellboy, then they will call SS as its a sign that we are letting him watch inappropriate films as its a horror film (its classed as a PG-13, Spiderman is a 12 so to me there isnt much difference)

I take my lead from DS, and I do think there may be a time when he will be more aware of what goes on in these films (eg. the idea that there is a hell, baddies that want to hurt us etc) so when that time comes I will of course take the lead from him again. But for now he loves the action bits, we have a right laugh together when we watch them and tbh its nice to not have to watch endless Chris and Pui (and we do turn it into a learning experience - what colour is Hellboy, how many baddies can you see etc )

I dont want to start the age old debate of age limits for films etc, we are just talking about the usual films that most of the kids at his nursery have seen. My friend just thinks that me letting DS watch Hellboy is an invite to get SS involved

So, is she being ridiculous and hypocritical? Or am I being too laid back about what SS would get involved in?

Wow, my three year old is scared of DISNEY films. Seriously, she won't watch anytyhing disney, or shrek, or happy feet. There's always something in whatever film we try to watch together that scares her.

I don't know anything about Hellboy but if the suggestion is that you should be a teenager to watch it then I can't see why you'd get it for a 3 year old. I don't get the 'just like Spiderman' argument either, if that's rated PG12

Surely you can pick pretty much anything else up for him in the right age range? That's a luxury I don't have!

OJ because, like in your opinion its ugly, in my opinion its just a film about a hero who wins the day and gets the girl, no worse or better than plenty of others aimed at his age.

Jamie - my DC both "played" Ben10 at nursery/school because everyone else did. Because of my obsessive blocking of Nick Jr and all associated channels, neither of them had actually watched Ben10, ever...

which makes me wary of all these knowing people who can "tell" what DC watch from how they play

Where children grow up in shit homes, with parents who treat them like crap and treat each other like crap, then it's reasonable to say that violent films aren't going to help and will probably contribute to a child being desensitised to violence (although they're probably the least of their worries).

But where children are raised with empathy they learn empathy. For those children a bit of fantasy violence alongside all the other fiction children enjoy, is unlikely to cause any damage at all. If it scares them, they won't watch it. And if their parents note that something (Power Rangers, Horrid Henry, Hellboy) leaves them fighty and being little gobshites, then they won't let them watch it again.

Thinking about this more, I'm surprised this seems so run and the mill and ordinary at your nursery. I know at my DD's it would be cats bum mouths all round if someone was letting their toddler watch something like that.

You'd be filed under the category of mother who puts hair gel in her sons hair and turns the collar up on his polo shirt.

We are vair posh though

run of the mill, sorry.

stealth - I know what you mean. Mine did that. I'm talking about children who bring loads of their conversations back to killing, who hit and kick, and loads of their pictures have a violent theme.

They may have loving parents, but lax boundaries.

Hair gel? Dont be so vulgar, we use hair putty in this house

And Spiderman, Transformers, Batman, Ben 10, Starwars is ALL the kids talk about according to the workers. They even all go in dressed as their favourites except DS who favours a red skirt out of the dress up box

Ah, so you are one of those.

As you were

In all seriousness though, and I really was being tongue in cheek there - I'm not trying to turn it into a class/snobbery thing, I do find that surprising.

The DC at my DDs nursery seem to be into much more innocent stuff than that.

This made me laugh:

Add message | Report | Message poster Hellboy Tue 06-Mar-12 15:57:47
He just saw the cover, started wittering on about "Hellboy" and the monsters and DP told me he'd watched it at MILs

This could have been a whole different kind of a thread

What words? Raaah, oooomph, pew pew (that's the sound spidermans web makes) and grrrr? That's the sort of stuff they say.

The only time he's swore was when I stubbed my toe and shouted bastard and he copied me.

abra

OP, are you the MIL?

I have only read the first page, but I am going to say YANBU, as you vetted it and watch it with him.

I would think YABU if you left him to watch it alone. I was very cross that my DH's mother left my DS to watch the first Harry Potter movie on his own the first time she looked after him when he was almost 5. It triggered a fear that lasted almost 2 years and massively disadvantaged him socially, as most of the kids in his class in Reception and Year 1 were obsessed with Harry Potter and only wanted to talk about and play Harry Potter games at playtime and lunchtime. So please keep watching with him, so you can always monitor his reaction.

me too and that has to do with this because...

Just put on cbeebies or anything age appropriate. FGS you are the parent, it's your choice, not his.

yes but she or me or whoever lets their child watch a movie now and again is doing just that now and again... my kids do not watch oodles of TV and wow kids do not have a choice which parenting school of thought that come from

hellboy the word you were looking for yonkers ago was "hypocrisy" (in the context of your sentence)

FWIW I don't believe this "friend" said anything at all about SS. I rather believe you made that bit up for the purpose of creating a thread that you knew would be controversial. I think you knew the responses you would get, giving you cause to use a vertible shedload of defensive retorts to justify your choices. Which, of course, are yours to make. Certainly there are some that agree with your parenting choices but there are, as you knew, an army of people that don't, and with good reason in my humble opinion.

It begs the question though that, if as you purport, you don't give the tiniest shit, why you would be bothered IF SS came-a-calling? Why would you even bother to ask the question?

Err....me too sovery. And.........?

we are waiting ... crap... three year olds... and movies

I think soverylucky is referring to you saying in your OP that this film contains the word 'crap'

You are laissez faire about it. Other parents probably wouldn't be

On this subject, I just found out that my 13yo DSDs have been watching nightmare on elm street in English because they're learning about horror. Not sure if it's old one or remake but both are rated 18...