AIBU to ask how often you row with your DH or partner?

[MrsKittyFane]

and to think that a full scale, sweary, can't stand each other row is a bit much once every couple of months?!

Exactly that! Then we make up....

Better than bottling things up and dwelling on them for years IMO

I used to row all the time with my ex. Every couple of weeks.

With my DP, hardly ever. but he knows his place and does what he's told

Every couple of days here sometimes though going through a good patch ATM.

Celeb once every couple of months then?! A proper row?!

Not often atm actually

We have disagreements. Mainly about dd1 and her self esteem or her control issues with clothes. We have lots of arguments about the dds clothes atm. I just ignore him in the main part and carry on as I am

I'm a 'shout it out' kind of person but afterwards I feel rubbish for the rest of the day!

Fairly regularly. Ranges from not-particularly-serious pouting on either side to full-scale silent treatment (him) and I-hate-you screaming (me). I don't think we're particularly unusual in this. We enjoy the making up.

My SIL once told me that she and BIL had never fought in about 5 years. This changed drastically following the birth of their first child, money worries and PIL problems.

We've been together about 18 years and have never had a sweary can't stand each other row.

Don't get me wrong, we don't have some perfect marriage; we've argued, we've been pissed off with each other, we've been a bit off with each other, but we've never had that sort of row. I would be devastated if we did, and I think he would be too. I'm not posting this to be smug, I am just giving an honest answer to the question you asked.

I hope you are ok, you sound pissed off - I'm assuming its yourself you are talking about?

Very rarely BUT if something escalates that far it will be full on fish wife screaming screaming from me and total sarky bollox from him >hands on hips

Minor arguments, caused by me, at about the same time every month. I've got the Mirena coil so don't get periods, but I still get premenstrualy stroppy!

Yeah pretty much! I'd say maybe 3x a year! Have been over pretty big things ie debt but also over relatively minor things ie manners! Full on shouting slamming doors etc! Never last more than a day or do tho.. Not good to go to bed on an argument!

We've been together nearly 20 years and never had a shouty argument. I'll get grumpy every so often, but he never rises to the bait.

We've never had a proper stand-up row in seven years of being together and four years of marriage. Damnit I've tried, but DH is so bloody even-tempered

yes, gin and somewhere that's my DH too - even tempered. Sometimes, just sometimes, I am in a bad mood and think I would find a proper row quite therapeutic, but DH is just oblivious!

We have a terse discussion or the sulks every couple of months or so, but we never shout at each other.

Treacle thank you :) yes, I'm fine :) I can't stand arguing but I end up shouting because DH can be really awkward, intentionally difficult. I shout at him, he shouts back, I shout more, he walks off, comes back, nothing more is said!

Viking I have the same coil and I can be hideously pre-menstrual too!

Last massive screamy argument, about 8 months ago. We do that petty snipey comment thing about once a month hmmm, wonder what could happen once a month to make that happen

Had a lot on my mind the other night, so I got up and wrote it all down. DH then read it the next day, and was sooooo supportive in helping me feel better with what I had written.

If I was to have just blurted it all out at him, I would have garbled it all up and made out he was worse than I felt he was.

BTW, I think I've edited my 'shouty argument' somewhat, repeat back and forth for about half an hour then he walks off.

We bicker. A lot. WE're both quite competitive and alightly controlling, so we ten to bicker about the best way to do things.

I tend to take stuff out on him too - bad day at work etc.

Mumsnet doesn't help - I read during the day, then get really cross about men when he comes home!

Never had a proper row in 8years of being together with 5 yrs of marriage.

We have our six monthly ding dong where he loses it and I hate him, literally hate him for not being able to have a discussion without raising his voice. In-between though very happy and get along great. The ding dongs do make me question everything though :(

Also, when DH and I row, afterwards nothing more is said about it but he always goes into overdrive looking after DD, making her tea, playing a game with her etc. He never says sorry ( neither do I). So why does this happen? Is it good or not?

I shout he don't so it's a one way row.

I don't think we have ever argued......That can't be normal
, not a shouty one
We have disagreements often, almost weekly