AIBU to ask how often you row with your DH or partner?

[MrsKittyFane]

and to think that a full scale, sweary, can't stand each other row is a bit much once every couple of months?!

We are still waiting for the first row to rear its head - 28 years together, every last one of them great.

We don't ever shout at each other - I respect the way he does things, he respects the way I do - we have just never disagreed on anything that ever mattered enough to shout about it.

I think we both have very similar easygoing characters, so it is easy to get along...

Can't remember one to be honest. I do remember once being a bit curt about him dropping the shopping on the floor and expecting me to put it away, but in my defence I was very pre-menstrual at the time. In 10 years of marriage we've never shouted/sworn/cried. It's all too much effort.

I think twice in 10 yrs - although one row was directly before i had a seizure (have epilepsy) and then I apparently was agreeing with DH while still arguing I went in mid rant by all accounts and none in the last 8yrs.

We might have cross words/get a bit snippy 2-3 times a year but we always apologise and make nice straight away so we don't hold grudges.

Every two or three months. A full on bastard row!

Stroppy arguments about twice a year.Shouty ones never.

Full on shouting, screaming, door slamming etc - once a year

Angry words - once a month

Bickering - once or twice a week

About twice a year perhaps. dh starts shouting in a Welsh accent when he loses his temper and I tend to respond by uncontrollable laughing, so that often diffuses the situation, either that or it makes it worse and he storms out

its healthy to have the odd argument as long as you make up and most of the time you enjoy eachothers company. we don't do shouty really but we do do stroppy bickering arguments every so often.

We rarely do big stand up shouting. Maybe twice in our entire marriage. We don't do bickering either. I absolutely loath bickering in adults or children.

DH does sulk though.

Never - sometimes i wonder if there is something wrong with us.

Once or twice year, max. We've been married for 18 years, but met in our late 30s.

I have a very short fuse, so I reckon losing it is a matter of choice. You do it because you can get away with it, like hitting women. Or children.

When we first got together we used to have loads of full blown shouting swearing, slamming door rows (not our best times) but we were each newly divorced and finding our feet again, we should have taken others advice and not moved in as soon as we did, but we got past that in about a year, and now we never shout at each other.

We still argue, but it's more a case of agree to disagree, we never shout or raise our voices (although I know I can get a bit whiney when I'm exhausted)

We try to talk everything out, but after 10 years, we've pretty much got our differences ironed out

We schedule a row for every first Thursday in the month. 7pm on the dot.

We pre-agree an agenda of acusations to fling at each other and leave a range of saucepans and crockery out to aim at each others' heads.

In 5 years of being together we have never had a row, although that might be because the first 4 years was long distance so we didn't want to waste our limited time together bickering over petty things ;) we've lived together for 9 months now and are still mostly in the honeymoon stage after so long being so far apart.

Come back to me in a couple of years when the novelty has worn off and sleep deprivation from DS3 has accumulated and it might be a different story though.

Once a year, maybe? But we've been together 12 years so we're sort of over each others issues iyswim, it's all a bit been-there-done-that :o

I threw a chair recently, but it doesn't happen often.

We don't do sweary or actually shouting, and I don't think I've ever slammed a door, but raised voices maybe every few months. We had a very tempestuous first few years together (mainly due to my unpredictable temper) so this is a real improvement. Trouble is they always end up being about the same thing and going down the same route no matter how they start - I wish I could be a bit more reasonable, although when once in the past when I wrote everything down calmly it still didn't end up making any difference.