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[Chirpychick2010]

I'VE BEEN TO WORK ALL DAY! That's what my dh said because he had to bath and entertain our 2.3 dd while I was getting washing in, making the beds with clean sheets, vacuuming entire house, washing up the kids tea dishes while cooking the tea for us! And then he puls a face about having to move from playing on the iPad with dd to take her up for bed and i said stop moaning you have only had her for an hour to which he says well I've been to work all day. What the frig does he tink i do all day and have to do it with a child he wants constant attention and chickens and dogs to clean and feed grrrrr I said I don't want to row stop being an arse but it will play on my mind as he does jack shit apart from go to work and when I was at work I still had to do everything even tho I'd been to blooming work! Plus I have a 16-18 year old to. Rant over thanks

I think men dont seem to realise what you do! Cos the housework has fairies to do it and the kids look after themselves??? NOPE! But thats what the other halves see sometimes. Maybe swap places for a couple of weeks! And then see what he says!

Why can't you do the beds etc during the day? Stop all housework when he comes home. Do it during the daytime instead of watching loose women.

Why doesn't the 16-18 year-old help around the house too? You should be asking them to wash up the dishes at least or vacuuming.

Ps my dh is a house husband ATM and he does!

So yabu

A man returned home from a hard day at work. His wife was slouched on the sofa watching TV; the children were still in their pyjamas and fretful and crying in the bedroom, where all their toys had been pulled out of the cupboards and not replaced. A pile of dirty washing was stacked in front of the washing machine; the breakfast dishes were still on the table, and when the man looked he realised there was no food for dinner.
"WTF has been going on?" he asked his wife.
"well" she said, "you know how normally when you come home you ask me what on earth I've been doing all day? Well today I didn't do it"

That story is a load of crap though isn't it.

I would always get the housework out of the way in the morning so just needed to do a quick whiip around as dinner was cooking in the evening.

Oh good grief, have I wandered into a thread from the 1950s by accident?

The trouble is, you have allowed him to come to believe that housework is 'your job', even when you were working. It's going to take a lot of 'untraining' to get him pulling his weight.

I'm baffled how any man who loves and respects their wife can sit on their arses while she runs around finishing off housework in the evening. Are you his wife or his housekeeper? Ask him that.

I'm working on the assumption that you actually spend your day looking after the child that belongs to both of you, not just sitting on your arse watching daytime TV.

pw it's a load of crap in it's made up; I read it years ago and it struck a chord (and I'm sure the version I read was better written than mine). But I like it because it does make a point that a lot of what a mother does is very much unseen and totally taken for granted. Thanks for the gracious feedback anyway :)

princesswellington I find it pretty difficult getting anything much at all done with a little one running around all day so that is probably why, and if your OH does manage to do everything it is probably at the expense of not giving the child enough attention....

No mrs it doesn't, as a man is perfectly capable of doing all those things!

Undercover - no totally disagree, two year olds can be involved and help with housework, it can be a game. You lot just like watching the tv and surfing the net.

I think you should have a roaring fire going and his slippers warming next to it.DD should appear with freshly tied ribbons in her hair.You should,prior to his arrival,re apply your lipstick,and when he comes in,offer him a drink and a cigar beside the fire and enquire about his day.
Supply him with the newspaper,then leave him to relax and tend to dinner.The children can play quietly, but be sure he is not disturbed.

Thats what I do.Frankly you are being unreasonable if you do anything else.

You should be grateful.

We have 3 dcs btw and I've been at home too so I do know what it's like. Tedious and boring but easy

princesswellington you have made me laugh.

I aim to please

I don't understand men who think that spending time parenting their children is a chore. Like cleaning the toilet or doing the washing up.

Makes me really sad for your DD.

What on earht is a 16-18yo?

A 17 year old?

But if the op's job is to do the housework, she should do it during her shift. Then after her shift, everything should be shared. So half the time her dh should do bedtime or whatever.

Good point stealth. Missed that one. Op has a reject from the inbetweeners.