Sister In Law from Hell

[jet77]

Hi, Just venting but my SIL is driving me mad - she and her husband own a business which seems to make her think she is the busiest most important person in the world (which she is not she spends 50% of the year in france) but yet despite all the money and time to go to france she hasn't been to see her nephew who is now 11months old - well actually she popped in for an hour on her way to france about 9 months ago. This is the latest in a long long line of similiar self-important behaviour and I have reached my breaking point. Situation is made worse because DH not v good at challenging her so I have said - look if you want to accomodate your sister (by going for a £400 2 annual leave days trip to Ireland) that's fine but dont expect me to go - is there really a reason she can't come to us and make the effort everyone else has to make - ie a pre-arranged trip not just popping by 'on her way to somewhere else- husband trying to imply I am being selfish but I really am not - any views

So she's just not that into you, or your baby.
And your DH doesn't like to waste his time making mountains out of molehills.

Why do you think you deserve a special pre-arranged visit from anyone?
Why do you need to have people paying court to you this way?

Get over it.

Your SIL sounds seriously disturbed. I think she may have a personality disorder :( Perhaps have a look on Amazon and see if there are any books that might help you with some coping strategies? And I am sure there must be forums - or even RL support groups - specifically for people in your very difficult situation. So so sorry you are going through all of this OP :( (((((((jet)))))) and ((((((jane))))))

It's just the way it is. DP has 1 DB and SIL. We have DD and SILs sister has a DS who is the same age. BIL and SIL see loads of their DN and only see my DD on a handful of occasions through the year, even though they.only live 15 mins away and BIL is DD's godfather.

No point in getting worked up as SIL and her Sis are closer than DP and BIL, simple. Bit of a shame for DD when they have kids buts that's life.

OP, life is far too short to get worked up over your sil's indifference.
Put your energies into your baby and dh and enjoy your life.
Count your blessings rather than concentrating on the things you are unhappy with.

Pmsl at this thread.

It IS quite amusing isn't it?

I remember the original too!

I am very confused.

Don't worry ABF - the OP has a hellish SIL who doesn't live in the same country as her. Simple.

I have a SIL from Hull. Is much, much worse.

Yeah but the OP comes on occasionally posting exactly the same thing then doesn't come back. Odd.

There once were 3 little goats........................

So, why is she from hell exactly?

If it is because she is a busy woman who sepnds an awful lot of time living not on your doorstep and she prefers to meet up with you in a mutually convenient time and place?

Or is it because you have a PFB and she has so far failed to bend over backwards to acknowledge that, and to travel especially to see your child?

Thanks ABF spat tea all over screen

OP come back and tell us more of SIL's totally imagined transgressions.

XH had 2DB, 2DSs and 4 DSSs. I have 1 DD and his DBs have 5DCs between them: 2DD and 3DSs; his 2DS have 6DCs, 1DS and 5DC so between them the DGPs had 12 DGCs not including the DCs of the various DSSs. Family get-togethers were a nightmare. IMO the DGPs didn't spend nearly enough time with my own PFB and when I complained to one of XH's DSS she just LHFAO. My SILs and BILs barely bothered with my PFB DD, saying they were 'busy' which really PO my XH. AFAIK they all had a big bust-up. I, OTOH CBA with any of this stuff because life's too short.
HTH OP.

Lol Woolly, yes you have, I declare you the winner!, xx.

woolly are you putting out some kind of a challenge there? I'm counting on my fingers as we speak....

Wouldn't sock puppetry be another poster coming on to sympathise with the OP about her horrible sil.
Isn't this just a namechange fail?

OP, what is meant by the 'poor quality of some of the responses'? Is this some sort of test?!

AFAIK the gauntlet has been thrown down!

Thank goodness I only have one set of idiots in laws to deal with!