to allow ds to be mean to neighbours ds............

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Live in a small estate (15 houses) 6 boys between 8-10 all play together even though they are quite different.One soccer mad,one science mad ect. They all come in different places within their own familys,1st chils 3rd child.... There is never a problem between 5 of the boys they can find common ground and get along.

The 6th boy is like a spanner in the works !!!!!!He tries to divide the group,wont compromise and ends up ruining the game when he joins in. The kids do pander to him at times but not always. When they get fed up of him they tell him to go home,run and hide ect

His mom asked one of the other moms today if there was anything she could do about the bullying !!!!!!!! Now imo he is not bullied he is just not popular and its someting his mother needs to work on with him. When the others fall out they sulk come home and when they are ready they jump back in the game without any inerferance from the parents. Do we make exception for this family,I think not

AIBU................

Some people only gain compassion once they have a child who has been at the the sharp end at this kind of treatment.

Sharp end of this kind of treatment

orm good post. That is my DS, who has immature/ poor social communication. He'll get annoyed if a game doesn't go his way, or frustrated because he doesn't understand how they're doing the game because he thinks it should be done a different way. It's not about control all the time but sometimes understanding. The children here are brilliant at explaining it to him, telling him this is how the group have decided to play. If DS decides to opt out that's his choice. But if they excluded him then I would get involved. Both explaining to DS and the other children ways to help each other out.

IF DS was blantently mean (name calling or whatever)then I would tell him him straight that he will be excluded if he's mean, but also give him ways to control the frustration. Explaining as well he has to apologise to be re included.